Heya playa, have you ever been texting your crush only for that conversation to fall flat?
For things to go dry? For you to run out of things to say that prevent you from keeping
the conversation going? Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to share a few techniques
that you can start using to revamp that conversation and get them interested in talking to you
again. Stay tuned. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. For those
of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing
tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self. And one important thing
for you to remember here is that every text conversation has its own shelf-life. And what
that basically means is that in the beginning, the conversation may pick up. They may be
super interactive, they may respond quickly but there is a point at which if conversations
don't elevate to the next stage, yea they're going to start to drop off, they're going
to start responding less. You're going to start to notice them less involved in wanting
to talk to you and the conversations going to start to dry out. So, how do you kind of
water it and bring it back to life? Well, try doing this. Step 1 is going to be to use
a throwback statement. That means, look back at the conversation you were having with your
crush, find something that the two of you agreed on, something you joked about, something
that the two of you made your own inside joke and bring that back into the topic of conversation
now. Now it might seem weird to just bring up something from the past but it really all
depends on how you choose to word it so I would say it like this. "Hey, I was just thinking
about the time that we saw "x, y, z" happen, (fill in the blank there with your own situation)
and it just made us burst out into laughter. Man, it was such a fun moment. But it made
me want to reach out to you and see how you're doing, so, what have you been up to?" By sending
a message like that, chances are you'll actually get a response back from them because you're
bringing them back to that good memory that the two of you shared. And from them, you
can just keep the conversation going. Step 2 now is to follow up with an open-ended question.
A lot of times, the reasons why conversations die is when you ask questions, they're simple
yes or no type of questions and there's really nothing to build off of based on that but
with an open-ended question, they can give you an answer about something and you can
dive deeper into that topic to keep that conversation rolling. One way to ask that open question
is like this "Hey, me and my friends are having a debate about something and I'd really love
to know your opinion on this. What do you think about "x, y, z"?" Now, if you haven't
talked to them in a while that's ok because you're jumping in and getting their personal
advice on something. Your crush may say they like it, they don't like it, whatever they
respond with you're gonna continue to roll with that and go deeper into their response
so you can get the conversation moving in a way where it's no longer dry and awkward.
For example, if they question you're bringing forward is "What is the best Disney movie
of all time?" and your crush says that they like The Lion King, well you can ask them
deeper questions like "Why do you like The Lion King?", "When was the first time you
watched it?", "What character do you really think is the coolest, the funniest, or the
best in that movie?". Because the conversation you're having tends to focus more on their
personal opinions there's gonna be a higher chance that they may actually be more responsive
now so once you can get that moving you can move into the next step which is super super
crucial here. Step number 3 is to be more direct. So many people play the passive game
when they're texting their crush, maybe they just respond to whatever their crush is saying
without actually sharing their own opinion, or maybe they never make bold statements and
call their crush out or tease them in any kind of way. When you do that, you will end
up becoming a dry texter, your conversations are going to be boring and your crush is not
going to want to talk to you so, you gotta step up your game. I see being more direct
including the three following things: flirting with your crush, complimenting your crush,
and asking your crush out. If you're not willing to do those three things than your conversations
going to plateau again. They're gonna get bored because they're not gonna feel like
you're taking it in any specific direction. And if you're only planning on texting them
and not asking them out and taking it to in-person interaction, well then yeah, they're gonna
feel like it's not going anywhere. You're just responding to them as any other friend
would. Do you wanna just be their friend? No! You want to date them so you need to take
steps towards that. Now there's one more small thing I wanna bring up here because let's
be honest, you're doing everything you can. You're using throwbacks in the conversation,
you're asking open-ended questions, you're being direct with them but they're just not
responding, the conversations are still falling flat. It just seems like they're not interested
in texting you at all. Well, the truth of the matter is sometimes it's not worth pursuing
if they're not someone that's actually responsive back. You just might have better luck trying
to talk to them more in person and then bringing it back to text. So, I would say look at your
alternative options. If texting just isn't working out for you, don't bank on it, don't
put everything into it. Try to find another way to talk to that person if they just aren't
interested, be okay with moving on. If you just don't know what to talk about, you're
definitely going to want to check out my 20 ice breaker conversation starters. I'm gonna
share that link with you in a second but first I wanna give a shout out to all my patrons
and YouTube channel members. These are the people that help the channel grow so if you
wanna talk to me one on one through video chat every single month check out the link
to Patreon down below to figure out how to do it. Also, check out the link now to my
20 ice breaker conversation starters. These are 20 conversation topics you can start using
just to keep the ball rolling. To get them more interested in talking to you. You don't
have to continue being a dry texter, you can be someone fun and interesting to talk to
and I think this free guide is gonna help you do it. On that note guys, I'll catch you
next time. As always, love and peace.