If you want to learn how to be able to really stand out as a girlfriend or as a potential
girlfriend or partner, and I'm not talking about trying to act all sexy and do the things that
I guess society typically tells us to do in order to be able to get a man desire us more.
Well, then you'll want to watch this video. Because in this video,
I'm going to give you a little bit of an insight into how men's minds work
when it comes to be able to triggering the things within them that make them see you in a different
light. And what I mean by that is they see you as a high value woman that sparks the desire
and commitment within them because you've given them compliments in these six different areas.
Hey, everyone? Welcome back to my channel. I'm Renee Slansky. And I am a professional dating and
relationship coach. And I help women from around the world create magnificent love lives that they
desire and deserve. Now, because I have worked with men over the last several years as well, I
have a really good balance between knowing how the female brain works and how the male brain works
and what it is that ultimately men want. I used to coach over at the Attractive Man channel,
and I've had literally dozens and dozens of male clients all around the world. So whenever I give
a little bit of a juicy tip about men, it's not coming from a place of lack, it's actually
coming from a place of a lot of experience, a lot of research and a lot of coaching.
And I'm excited to do this video because I feel like there's a lot of videos out there that's
like, "Do this to get a man's attention or do this and he'll design you more."
And it's based on things that either seem really basic or unachievable or more to do with playing
games. And I'm not into playing games at all. So what I want to do, is I want to tell you the sort
of specific compliments that you can give a guy that will actually trigger certain parts of his
brain and the way that it is being biologically programmed to respond in such a way that he will
actually desire you more, appreciate you more, and have a little bit more of that oxytocin released.
But before I do that, don't forget to subscribe to my channel if you want to have
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you. Okay. The first area to be able to give a man a compliment in is somewhat physical. Okay.
This is pretty simple. Now this is not necessarily sexual. When I say you give a man a compliment,
I'm not necessarily saying, "Okay, well, let's just compliment down there." I'm talking about
complimenting something about him that really helps you feel like he is masculine. Okay? Now
this could be something like his strength. This could be something like his muscles.
Giving a man a physical compliment in a way that you actually want to make him feel like he is
a man, like he is someone handsome, like he is someone that you find highly attractive, doesn't
mean that you sexualize it or just do something that is really superficial. I find that if you are
mostly able to compliment a masculine trait, such as strength, such as endurance, such as
maybe height, those sort of things will make him feel really good about himself. And one of the key
reasons why men will actually want to continue to invest into a woman is because, when he's with
her, he feels like a man. He feels empowered. He feels good about himself when he's with her.
The second area to be able to compliment a man on is status. Okay. Now, when I talk about status,
I'm not necessarily talking about striking his ego. This is more about recognizing
what is actually achieved and where he is at. There is an alarming rate
of men out there who are suffering depression, who are [inaudible 00:04:54] through suicide,
and who feel like they're never enough, because they're always performing, they're always trying,
and it's like they can't reach their goal. For men, their purpose, their goals, their desires,
all of that is a really huge part of their identity and their fulfillment.
So if you can start to compliment certain areas of that part and the status that he has reached,
it will really help him feel like he does have the sense of achievement. It's also going to give him
a sense of leadership as well. Naturally speaking, most men like to be able to lead and be recognized
as a leader. Now they may not be somebody in a position of, let's say, owning a company or a
CEO. They may be somebody who doesn't necessarily have societies social status level that society
think they need to have. However, in some area of their life, they will have some sort of status.
Whether it's being the friend that always takes care of everyone because they're the leader of
the friendship circle, whether it is something at their work, whether it is something in their
hobbies, or their gym, or their sports, somewhere in his life he will have some sort of status quo.
And if you're able to recognize that and then compliment it, it's going to make him feel like
what he is doing and who he is, is being seen. The third really big area to compliment a man in
is his efforts. Especially if he's got efforts that he's putting towards you. I feel like there
are a lot of men out there who feel really unappreciated. Unfortunately, society is kind
of taken the whole female empowerment and turned it into entitlement. And there are a lot of women
out there who believe that they should just be the reciprocant of all the effort and do nothing back.
Now, that isn't right. It's going to throw the balance off out of a relationship.
So if you're able to acknowledge what he is doing and honor it, and then even reciprocate it back,
it's really going to make him feel like what he's doing is being seen.
For example, little things that you can do things is things like, "Well, you're a great boyfriend.
I love how much you put thought into the little things for me. Or, thank you so much for bringing
me that cup of tea. Or, thank you so much for organizing that date." It doesn't have to
necessarily be this grand big thing that he needs to do in order for you to be able to compliment
him on it. If he's a husband, compliment him on his efforts of being a husband. If he's a father,
compliment him on his efforts of being a great father. Your partner, your boyfriend, your man
may not be perfect. No one is. However, there's probably things that they are doing to show that
they are trying, why not pick on those things and then bring them to the forefront and say,
"Hey, I see what you're doing. I recognize it. And I honor it. And I thank you for it."
And I can tell you what ladies, by verbalizing these compliments and being specific about certain
actions that he is doing towards you, towards your children, towards other people, he will feel
like he's got something and that who he is being valued and recognized. Before I jump
into the last three, don't forget to subscribe to my channel. Now, I also want to say this ladies,
if you are finding that men are pulling back from you and you're not really sure why, then I would
download my free guide, The 9 Types Of Women That Make Men Run. Because men don't just pull back for
no reason. There is a specific reason, and there are nine personality types that tend to drive
men away. So I'll link that up above and also down below so that you can go and check it out.
Okay. Area number four to be able to compliment your man on is this, his purpose and his goals.
As I was saying before in point number two, one of the big things about men
is they are very focused on achieving goals, on performing, on having their purpose, and it's a
huge part of their fulfillment and identity which is awesome. Okay? Because we want him to be whole,
and we want him to be happy outside of you, so that he can then be a better partner towards you
and vice versa. Right? So if you're able to actually compliment him on this area of his life,
whether it is him writing down some new goals and he finally achieves them. Saying,
"Well done, I'm proud of you." Or asking him about his dreams, asking him about his desires,
getting involved with what actually excites him, what his dreams are, what his goals are.
Maybe he's starting a new business or a new project that takes a lot of guts. And
men really need that encouragement. They need that support. They need that verbal affirmation
from the women in their life, that what they are doing is something good. That what they're doing
towards that something is actually getting them somewhere. They want to feel that their effort
is equaling results, that they have a chance to be able to reach their goals. That it's
something that they shouldn't be punished for, just because it may not necessarily make you the
number one priority in their life all the time. We need to find that balance there ladies, between
allowing our men to be able to pursue his purpose and his goals, and do what he needs to do to feel
fulfilled as a man, without us being jealous that we're not getting his time all the time.
And I can guarantee if you start to honor that purpose in him, encourage it within him,
encourage him to reach his goals, show that you are fully supportive of that verbally and also by
knowing when to be able to focus on your thing as well, your relationship will be so much healthier,
so much happier, and I guarantee you, he will just be so much more crazy in love with you.
Okay? Area number five, his masculinity. Majority of men out there want to feel like they are men
enough, that they are masculine, that they are the protector, the provider, the one to be able to go
in and rescue the damsel in distress. Now, obviously I'm painting a very romantic picture
there, but biologically speaking, men are the hunters. Women are the gatherers. Okay.
So, if you're able to compliment him on a way that his masculinity feels enhanced,
that's a really good way for him to be able to feel good about himself when he's with you.
Now, one of the big ways that we actually do the opposite of this is when we criticize men
or we put him down or we emasculate them. We say that their muscles are small, or we say that they
can't do something, or we pull them to pieces. Criticism and nagging is probably the best way
to be able to turn off a man. It emasculates them. It makes them feel undervalued. And it
basically makes them feel like who they are is not enough. So we want to flip that around obviously.
Find some verbal compliments that you can give him that really build his masculine side up. Either
complimenting his leadership, his strength, his ability to protect, maybe he's ability to
fix things. When my husband does something like opening a jar for me because I can't open it, or
fixing something around the house, I always compliment him on it. And it's not because I am
a damsel in distress, it's because I want him to realize that I appreciate the masculine qualities
that he has within him to be able to do those things that me as a female can't really do. And
lastly ladies, area number six is this, compliment him on his career or his contribution. There are
a lot of men out there who feel like they work, work, work, and their wife or their girlfriend
or women in general, take it for granted. And unfortunately, there is a very
toxic female mindset out there that the men should be the one to just pay for everything
and provide everything and the women should just sit back and just take. And that is completely
something that I am against. I believe that a healthy relationship is about a partnership.
It's not about who should pay more than the other, blah, blah and all that sort of crap.
It's about both people contributing and honoring each other's contribution in whatever areas it is.
So, if you're able to compliment him on what he does financially, or in some way that he
contributes to the relationship or his career, how hard he works, it will really make him feel like,
again, that he's seen, that he's respected, and that he's honored for what it is that he's doing.
There are a lot of good men out there who are happy to work hard and happy to pay the majority
of the bills, but just because they can do that and they want to do that doesn't mean that we
should not credit it or just expect it. There are things that I do with my own husband where I say,
"Thank you so much for being able to work so hard. Is there anything that I can do to make it easier
for you?" Acknowledging what they're doing and verbalizing that and being specific, "Thank you
for paying for that bill. Thank you for paying for dinner. Thank you for working that extra shift,"
little things like that really makes him feel like what he does doesn't go
unnoticed. And therefore he'll probably want to be able to do even more as a partner in a
relationship because he feels appreciated. Ladies, I think that's what it boils down
to. Majority of the men out there who are in relationships just don't feel appreciated.
And so, if we're able to compliment them in these six different areas of their life, it does tap
into parts of them that emotionally need to feel fulfilled biologically as well as mentally. And
it really will make them, I believe, want to be a better partner and draw closer to you as well.
So, let me know down below which area is an area that you think, "Ooh, I haven't actually
complimented him in that area before. Maybe I'll do it now." Or what are some compliments that
you give your man or the men in your life and you always find that you have a positive reaction.
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