you did it you finally did it the Dane comments asking me why I'm harder on
Tana mongeau than I am Gabbie Hanna of The Gabbie Show they finally got him in my head but as always
it brings us some very important mental health topics that we need to talk about
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the
YouTube community try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional
well-being so if any of that stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that
notification bell so before I jump into this and I'm going to be talking about a
few different topics and I'm gonna talk about unconscious bias I'm gonna be
talking about Tana I'm gonna be talking about Gabby and I think all the topics
can help you no matter who you are but before I get started
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this off with a huge huge huge disclaimer like sorry about the title
sorry about the title but if you've been around you know that's how I roll
what I like to do since I know about you know psychology and mental health I'm
playing into your negative bias to make you click on the video and clearly it
works so if you don't like that I don't know what to tell you but I do want to
make it very clear I have nothing against Tana Mongeau and I think this video will
clarify some things so you can understand but I think Tana Mongeau can't
improve and can't get better but I do want to talk about what's going on so
this video is for anybody who can relate to Tana or can relate to Gaby but it's
also for anybody who has a friend like Tana or a friend like Gaby again I'm
getting bigger and you tubers are starting to actually see my videos but
these videos aren't for youtubers they're for
you the first thing I want to talk about is unconscious bias like what I said in
the intro like I'm serious I'm serious like I I look at the comments and even
though like I I don't care all that much when people just come in and throw
straight hate like when I see some comments like I have to check in with
myself so something that's really important for all of us for all of us
for me for you for everybody it's checking in with our unconscious bias so
I've noticed a lot that people seem to think that I'm hard on Tana and then I
noticed that people think I'm being too easy on Gabby and I'm just like oh my
god am I like am i and if something that we gotta check in with you know what I
mean because sometimes we're doing this like
without even realizing it and this is another another way that mindfulness
helps you it helps you pause and check in and say okay why am i treating these
two people different and in this video I'm going to explain the the
cut-and-dried difference between Tana and Gabi but it's something I want you
to start working on so something I wrote about in my book rewire your anger like
one of the sections is treat somebody like you would treat somebody or
something else right so something that I talked about in the book and yeah this
is a shameless plug but if you struggle with anger go get the freaking book
uh-huh but anyway something that I realized was my sister for example we've
never gotten along and she struggles with mental mental illness herself but
how is it that I work with clients or how is it that I work with all of you
and stuff that you say doesn't get under my skin or what a client cusses me out
it doesn't get under my skin I'm like yo do you want to talk do you need to talk
about it but why can't I treat my sister the same way right so I'm constantly
checking in with these things saying why don't I treat people the same right and
sometimes there is a reason sometimes there's absolutely no good reason at all
like if you want to know what I'm talking about like for example there's
probably people in your life who say certain things to you doesn't bother you
at all but for some reason with like a friend or a family member like somebody
really close to you says that same thing you lose it right right so it's
something that we need to work on if we're trying to improve our mental
health but let's first talk about Tana but I'm going to share some of my
experiences too like one of the reasons I talk about Tana so much
and same reason I talk about like Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash is because I can
relate I can relate to Trisha and Jason's toxic relationship
I can also relate to Tana okay because I used to be a screw-up so I'll never
forget this this ever I will never ever forget this
it's crazy nothing's happened in your life that you never forget I remember I
was in like second or third grade and I was a little bit of a pain in the butt
student I was always messing around talking in class goofing off all sorts
of things right and then there was my friend who was like you know one of
those goody-goody kids and me and him one day like I kind of encouraged into
like you know mess around or whatever and like we goofed off and the teacher
you know talked to us and I got in trouble and he didn't and the teacher
called my parents okay mind you this is late second or
third grader I still remember this I'm 33 years old now right but I'll never
forget what she said because I was like why me how come he didn't get in trouble
why me and the teacher explained to me is that Chris you're always causing
problems okay like your friend probably could have stood on the desk and
screamed and I wouldn't have got him as much trouble but they were like Chris
you're constantly causing problems so I'm gonna be harder on you and I'm like
oh dang like that made sense but it also made sense later in life kind of it made
sense later in life now that I look back on it but I was somebody who was
notorious for being late to work I was always late for work I was always 10-15
minutes late for work all the time and family they wake me up and I'm like well
well what about them they showed up late today wasn't good right but again it's
because I'm somebody who was constantly doing it I was lacking that
self-awareness right but like let's think about this like for example when
I'm working with clients at the drug and alcohol treatment center I was working
at like I would be harder on people who came back in after multiple relapses and
had been to treatment more often I gave them more tough love than somebody who
is coming into treatment for the first time because I'm like okay you've been
here and you keep messing up so I need to be harder on you you see what I mean
but like let's like let's go a little bit more extreme think about people who
go to court and see their judge a judge is going to be more
on somebody when it's their first offense right like that's just the way
the world works so I hope this is starting to make sense as I transition
and start talking about Tana so let's talk about town okay I've only been
really into YouTube for the last year and a half or so since I started my
channel and since then since then like let's talk about the Tana mongeau situation
first two words idubbbz content cop okay let's talk about that real quick
so content talks but the next thing is Tana did the same thing as logan paul
she filmed a dead body we were like filming the whole thing i'm
gonna insert all that right now and i was originally just going to include all
of those clips in a vlog and then i was like a live footage storytime
now I personally had to censor that because Tanner didn't censor the body
I'm not joking I'm not kidding around Tanner didn't sensitive body whatsoever
okay I made a video that got a lot of traction recently right
I showed video clips that tenet has on a youtube channel talking about abusing
prescription medications okay like I take adderall all the time you guys know
so like I'll take the Goforth of a 20 milligram felt like five milligrams
about her in my bag everywhere I go I always have a pill bottle filled with
adderall why does the bottle say that this is oxy code and there's just
there's not even oxycodone in there like the pain pills in there we're like
hydrocodone she put that online not only did she put that online but she recorded
her and her friends while she was driving well she wasn't recording one of
the friends was but she was in there with like Elijah Daniel and her other
friends and she was high as a kite on xanax and then she crashed the car never
drive a car okay so not only those examples but Tanic on Tanic on Tanith on
10 o'clock Tana mojo out of spite towards VidCon trying to put on an event
that completely bombed and she pointed all of the blame and Michael wife even
though her fans suffered not only did her fans suffer but her fans are still
backing her up and what Stannah do Tana is now selling those same people merged
who are still out of money from Tanic on okay like think about all these things
combined with Tana mojo are you guys following me now is it starting to make
sense a little bit while I'm a little bit hard on Tanner and the last thing
I'll say is the girl legit made a song about how she is a cup all the hints but
this is something that she leans into and goes into even harder okay so now
let's talk about Gabby Hannah let's talk about Gabby Hannah now that you see all
of the things that we just talked about and you know there's probably things
with Gabby that I don't know about and for that that is purely my ignorance but
from what I know about Gabby all right I've heard that you know some things you
know she was a bad friend or something like that or she played the victim or
whatever like she was pretty problematic okay but then most recently was her
kensa cosmetics saying and I called her out but I didn't go nearly as hard on
her as I did Tana mojo but like that's pretty much it and aside from that gabby
is also making content encouraging people to go go get help for their
mental health she talks about her mental health
sometimes she talks about like having a healthier lifestyle whether it's eating
or going to the gym or whatever right like I know
Gabby recently had that whole thing on Instagram and by the way I'm going to do
a collab with somebody this month and I'm not going to tell you who it's gonna
be absolutely surprising if we end up doing it but like just real quick I
don't really think Gabby was too much in the wrong for what happened on Instagram
recently but like I want you guys to look at these two very different people
why I'm hard on ten I think Gabby like when's the last time Gabby went around
driving under the influence laughing about it and crashing a car was the last
time Gabby filmed a body was the last time that Gabby threw on an event out of
spite and screwed over a bunch of her fans and then tried to sell on something
okay so I'm not saying Gabby's totally in the
clear but when you're comparing them one is a multiple time offender with worse
offenses than Gabby Hannah so I hope this makes sense so the two things I
want you to take away from this is one I want you to quit playing the victim like
I used to okay I was a screw-up and I had to quit saying oh well look what
they're doing we'll look what they're doing that doesn't matter that's what
kids do that's what children do like when I talk about rice gum yesterday and
there's whack apology and gaslighting use like well look at that youtuber they
promoted it look at that youtuber that it's not about them it's about you it's
about you like have you ever seen somebody who's like speeding right and
they get pulled over the Lord who look at everybody else who's speeding take
responsibility but the anything - you need to start looking at who
you're hanging out with why like I'm more likely to hang out with somebody
who like flaked on me that instead of hanging out with me one time then
somebody who like completely like backstab me okay like there's there's a
huge difference there so you need to start evaluating people and like like I
always say we have to judge people the problem comes is when we unfairly judge
people so we're checking in up with our unconscious bias I had to ask myself and
you guys were leaving comments like am i unfairly judging Tana mojo am I giving
Gaby Hannah preferential treatment right but no I have these memories locked in
my brain and I evaluate these things and it helps me out greatly because it helps
me decide who I'm going to hang out with but in the grand scheme of YouTube it
helps me figure out who I'm going to support you see what I'm saying
so if Gaby Hannah ends up reaching Tana Motel level trust me that my tonal
change alright but let me know down in the comments below like do you find that
you you are easier on some people than you are others or like I mentioned
earlier in this video can somebody say something to you and it brushes off your
shoulders but when somebody who's like close to you like a friend or family
member says it to you you just snap alright let's have a conversation down
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