"My husband is jealous of my success."
My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation and I'm going to
take your word on this.
I'm going to believe you that this is
actually happening and it's not a
projection on your part which it could
be.
I'm going to believe that he's jealous
of your success
and let's talk about what that actually
means.
Because when you say success, you're
99.9% of the time someone who's
complaining
in this area, they're talking about
material success.
Means you've got a better job or a
better career than he has,
and you think he's jealous of it. What
does that tell me?
What it tells most people, and I'm just
being honest with you
is that you're flaunting your success
which
is telling me that you are tied to your
success,
your material success more than you're
tied
to creating success in your marriage
otherwise, this would not be an issue.
But he recognizes that you
hold your material success in such a
high regard
that it's taking away from the love
that should be existing in your marriage.
Now what's happened since, and I'm not
saying that some good didn't come out of
the woman's lib movement,
some good did. I mean women should not be
seen as
second rate citizens in any way shape or
form
but it's made some women overzealous
in this area of materialism where they
compete
with men or compete with men in general.
And they become so tied to their own
material success
that they forget that the trait that
they
have based on their gender, which is a
treasure beyond treasures is the ability
to tap
into your heart as a woman.
You're biologically set up.
It's a setup for you to be coming from
your heart
at all times. And unfortunately, what
women who get into careers in business
become lawyers or accountants, what they
do
is they put this veneer over their heart
so that they become ruthless like men
or calculating like men. And they don't
realize
that when they do that, they're missing
out on their own life.
You know men don't have that ability to
tap into their heart normally.
We men, who are tapped into our heart
have to work at it very hard but it
comes natural to you.
And when a man gets married, he's
literally marrying you
subconsciously and he doesn't even know
it
because you have the ability to be
coming from your heart
where he doesn't naturally.
So, if you shift
in your marriage to your marriage when
you're with your husband, if you
learn how to tap into your heart
and be your heart, you're not going to
suffer in the business world by doing so
but you can have it all. You can have
both.
There's no reason why not. I've worked
with
many women who had
really high-end careers
and they just forgot that they're also
women and what that means.
And our society lays this trip on you
that devalues you.
Don't buy into it. A woman is
a thousand times more powerful than a
man,
billion times more because the heart,
love is not an abstract.
It's a tangible reality that men aren't
as tapped into
as you are.
So if he's expressing jealousy,
it's because you are not expressing
love. I don't mean, "Honey, I love
you
blah blah blah." I mean feeling that love.
You've had those moments where you just
feel
so much love you can barely take it.
But when your mind is on business or
you're involved in something, you're
worrying about work or something like
that
then you're disconnected from that and
you need to learn how to reconnect.
Now, the best way to do that is to learn
to control your mind.
Now back in the day before I had a
course for women
which we have now which is amazing for
women.
My clients, my female clients
would read one of my books. There's a
chapter on the mind
and they would learn it, and they would
learn how to control it so that their
heart could come out. Yes, you have to
learn about your mind so that you can
express your heart
because the mind is what gets in the way.
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It's a very beautiful thing. For
me, the two
primary reasons for marriage
it's like the highest order of life
is to be happier every single day of
your life,
every single day of your life. Happier
than the day before
and to experience unconditional love. And
there is no greater vehicle
than marriage for a human being to
achieve
those two lofty goals, and there's no
marriage
that should lack those two lofty goals.
They're the reasons you got
married. They're the goals of marriage
and they should be what you work for
every single day.
I hope this has been helpful. Blessings
to you!
Blessings to your husband and blessings
to your family!
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please do so I don't mind responding to
questions either.
God bless and take care!