Hey, what's going on?
Tripp Kramer here from www. trippadvice.com.
Yes, I know pretty bold statement.
As you can see from the title.
This is something that comes up with my coaching clients all the time.
I know it sounds crazy.
But yes, all the time.
I have a lot of guys that are meeting women online.
Mostly this is from online, a little bit in person too.
And they either know right away that the woman is a single mom or they find out sometime
later that she's a single mom.
Most of the time, nine times out of 10 they know right off the bat.
And they're totally okay with it.
And I'm here to tell you in this video, you don't want to date a single mom.
Sounds harsh.
I know.
It's like "well Tripp, there's a lot of single moms out there.
Are you saying they don't deserve love?
They don't deserve a relationship?
Nobody should date a single mom?"
No, that's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying you as a guy who doesn't have a child himself, or multiple children, who is
also single should not be dating a single mom.
I ask you this, why would you want to get into a relationship with anybody?
Forget the fact that she's a single mom.
Why would you want to get into a relationship or date anybody who is not at the same place
of life you are?
Again this is for people who are looking for relationships.
If you want to sleep around, that's one thing.
But if you're looking for something serious, or ultimately you're looking for a relationship,
you're not in the same place of life as this person.
Just the same reason why I wouldn't even tell you to date a 40 year old if you're 25.
I wouldn't tell you to date a 25 year old if you're 40.
And you definitely don't want to be dating a single mom because she is in a whole other
realm.
She's putting her children first, which by the way, she completely should.
You're gonna be very much a second priority.
And that's not a clean way to go into a relationship where it's gonna be harder to see her.
It's going to be a little bit strange.
You're going to be a potential step-dad to another guy's kids.
And of course, that could still happen if you're still dating a single mom and you're
somebody else.
I'll get to the people who should be dating those people.
But this is for you.
You're getting involved with a woman who has children, who is out of the complete scope
of anything you know because you've never been a father before.
And it's going to be a rough and just kind of, I mean, I guess another synonym for rough,
not smooth situation here in terms of getting into this relationship where it's not going
to be equivalent to the time that you have to put into it.
You're gonna be putting a lot more energy and have a lot more energy into it than she
might because she's busy raising children.
That's why I always say, if you are a guy who's watching this video right now and you
are a single parent.
So you are a father of children.
That's the kind of woman you should be with.
This is how I feel about this.
People who don't have children should be dating other people who don't have children.
People who do have children should date other people who have children.
Why?
Because if you have a child... let's say you're a guy watching this, I'm sure there's plenty
of guys watching this who have kids.
You are in a whole different area of life than any woman who doesn't have children.
So who's going to get you the most?
Who's going to understand you better than anybody?
Another woman who has kids.
It's going to be such a seamless fit for you too.
It's going to be understandable why you can't spend all this time together.
She's going to understand why you like being a father.
You're going to understand her in terms of how busy she is.
It's like you just get it.
You can't understand that until you are a parent.
Now I'm not a parent, but I do have many friends who are parents and I understand that it takes
a lot of work and it's a whole different lifestyle.
Your life changes the day you have a kid.
And so that means that you need to be dating someone else who is in that realm who understands
that.
And the opposite, like I've been saying on this video.
If you don't have any children, it's not going to be a good fit if you're dating another
person who does have children.
I would completely stay away from it at all costs.
Ideally, you want to be dating someone who's of your generation.
And I can speak to this.
I've dated women older than me, significantly older to a different generation.
I've dated women younger than me, of a different generation.
At first, it's kind of fun, right?
You're dating someone they're a lot younger, it's hot.
Or maybe you're dating a cougar or someone who's a milf or whatever like older than you
and that's different and that's hot and that's all kinds of fun.
But eventually that wears off and you're going to be connecting with a person who just doesn't
understand where you're at.
It's not better or worse.
It's just different.
Someone who's 22 versus someone who's 30 versus someone who is in their late 30's or 40's.
We're talking about three different lives here, three different points in your life
that are drastically different.
It's just hard to connect on.
I know myself as a 35 year old at the making of this video.
Yeah like, it might be hard to date someone who's 22, 23.
But spending time with that person.
It's like, I've already done that.
I've already been there.
But that's not fun to me anymore.
I have a girlfriend right now, but if I were to date all over again...
I'm 35, I'd probably be dating someone who's going to be not a mom, in their late 20's
at the earliest, or the youngest.
Okay, late 20's.
Because I know that someone who's still sort of my age range, they know what's going on,
we're at the same level here.
And if I were 25, I'd also be wanting to be dating someone who's 22 to 25, maybe 26.
Gotta stay in that five year to six year age range.
So much easier, so much easier for you to connect, understand each other, the relationship
goes a lot smoother.
There you go.
I know I'm going to get a lot of interesting comments on this.
Leave a comment down below.
Let me know what you think.
And I'll see you on the next video.