When you go home after a day’s long work, tired and frustrated, irritable sometimes,
sometimes joyful, and if you go late, she [your wife] will ask you, “Why are you so late?”
If you go early, “Why are you so early today?” And every time, you have to defend yourself.
“Oh honey, I had to do this, I had to do that.” Imagine what sort of relation that would be?
Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says
that everything in the universe tends to degenerate
over a period of time, if you don’t interfere with it.
For example, if you go on a vacation and come back after a month and no one has attended
your house, what happens to the house? Though nobody came in or out, still there will be dust.
You will have to clean it up. There will be floors to be cleaned up. There will be smell everywhere,
especially in the bathrooms, kitchen, dustbins. With children also, when we bring in a lot of toys,
for example, clothes, somebody has to make sure that these toys are properly placed every evening
or the clothes are washed and put in a proper place, books on a proper place on a shelf.
But if the child doesn’t do it and somebody else also doesn’t do it, what happens over a period of time?
The whole room becomes chaotic and disorganised. So input is required,
input of energy, input of effort is required in all situations. But there is a way out.
Let me give one more example of husband and wife. When you go home after a day’s long work,
tired and frustrated, irritable sometimes, sometimes joyful, and if you go late, she will ask you,
“Why are you so late?” If you go early, “Why are you so early today?” And every time,
for some reason or the other, this coming and going becomes a questionable thing in some families.
And every time, you have to defend yourself. “Oh honey, I had to do this,
I had to do that.” Imagine what sort of relation that would be?
It's hell when you are being interrogated for coming home late. It is a problem.
But if there is true love between a couple, such questions will become redundant. You may ask,
“Why are you late?”, but that question will be with a lot of concern and love.
“Honey, what happened to you today? You are late.” There will be so much concern behind that question.
But the question, “What the hell were you doing today? Why are you so late?” That has a different connotation,
different meaning. Now, what is the energy input that would be required in maintaining such relationships?
It will always be incremental in a relationship which is on a rock, you can say. It is always disturbed.
You need more and more energy input to maintain your relationship. But, for example,
if there is a lot of love between the couple, then there is no need for explanation.
Questions also would not arise. If at all it does, it will be just for a conversation. “Why are you late?”
or “Why are you early?” Just mere conversation. And there is a dialogue after that,
that is also a formality. So when there is love, no further input is required. No further effort is required.
Love itself takes care of everything. And I am sure that love is definitely there,
but especially when we are meditating together, when we are working, when we are learning
to drive a car for the first time, in the beginning there is a struggle. Afterwards, it becomes
a subconscious act. So what I am trying to say is when we meditate, and a stage comes that this
very process becomes subconscious, then it becomes 24 hours.
Then you don’t have to take out special time for it. You become meditation itself.