overcome your resistance to achieve anything
stay tuned hey Damon here from NLP gym how to overcome your resistance to
achieve anything if you haven't already please click subscribe to this youtube
channel so you can get these videos on a regular basis people come to me all the
time for coaching and they say something along the lines of there's something I
really want to do I've been trying to accomplish this thing or I've been
working at this for years or I can't seem to get started and they give me
this story about how every time they get started or however time to get really
close to succeeding something happens they sabotage themselves or they stop
they quit whatever it is and they'll tell me something like I just want to
get rid of that part of myself I just want to overcome that resistance I just
want to like I've had people say things like I just want to cut that part of
myself out or destroy that part of myself and I tell them right away that's
not a way to go about this so a better way to think about this inner resistance
is this is a part of you that wants something so take about it that way
because what will happen is you'll experience that resistance and because
it's unconscious you don't know what it is what you're conscious of is what you
want you know are what we normally want with what we think we want are the
things that we're conscious of I consciously want more money I want my
business to succeed succeed I want a girlfriend I want a boyfriend I want a
new car so like we're conscious of what that wants
is what we're not so conscious of or what we can't be conscious of is our
unconscious once and we can change that and more on that in a moment what
typically happens though is we experience that resistance and then we
resist the resistance so I say oh what is this thing that's like stopping me
that's slowing me down or does it seems like there's this thing are part of me
or something outside of me that doesn't want me to succeed and then I try to
push against it I try to push it away or I try to get rid of it or even I try to
ignore it so what I'm really doing is I'm resisting my own inner resistance so
unfortunately that doesn't cancel out the resistance what that does is it just
makes the resistance even stronger not only that is it wears you out
when resistance alone wears you out when you resist your resistance that'll drain
you and you'll just be frustrated and so not all the time is it just the inner
resistance that takes you down it's the frustration and the drain on you the
drain on your energy by the time you go through your day resisting your
resistance you've got nothing left to go and put it into the other thing you want
to accomplish the thing that you're working on on the side to eventually
quit your job or whatever it is that you're doing so when you resist
resistance it just takes you down even faster it just makes it even that much
harder and so you don't need to do that to yourself that's not helping you the
first thing to do when you experience resistance is to accept it acknowledge
it most of us will need jerk push it away we won't even think about it we
just go hope and we'll just push and will resist and we'll ignore you have to
start becoming conscious of when the resistance comes up
so that you can acknowledge it accept it not only that welcome that this is an
incredible opportunity this is an opportunity for a transformation when
you acknowledge that resistance and you let it know that you understand that
it's a part of you and that you're not going to try to push it away something
magical will happen suddenly you just moved a step closer to integration and
that's what this is really about so you have a part of you that's resisting and
you have a part of you that wants something that the part is resisting
this feels like a conflict but it's not actually there's an unconscious part of
you that you made an agreement with at some point in your life that you wanted
something and you told that part of you to go and get it to go and do it or you
told that part of you to perform this function and that's what it's doing it's
doing its job what happened is though this part of you fell unconscious which
normally happens when we have a habit or routine or some sort of automated
process that we that we do and you forgot about it and you got older and
your life changed so now you have this unconscious process that is doing its
function fulfilling its function but it is isolated from the rest of you it is
isolated from who you are now and your life as it is now this is what we refer
to when we say upgrade the programming so you're gonna upgrade the programming
first you have to start by acknowledging the old programming and then
you like I said accept it let it know that it's you know that it's doing
something for you in a positive way that it has a positive intent and it does all
behavior originates from a positive intent he's even resistance you get in
touch with what that positive intent is and once you do that and you go deep
enough with this you'll find that there is an underlying value here and if you
chunk up high enough on this value it will lead it will lead to some of your
highest values like happiness joy freedom passion and what you'll realize
is that both parts of you want the same things the conscious part of you that
was driving and pushing and wanting to accomplish something or do something
once the same thing as the part of you that was resisting because you're one
person you're one whole human being it felt like you were being split in two it
felt like you had an inner conflict but really these two parts are part of the
same whole that's you so when you're clear about your values then you can
make this integration between parts and get these two parts to work for you work
with you work as one whole you and when you do that there's no such thing as
resistance anymore and the more you do this the more you'll realize that every
time you experience resistance it's an amazing opportunity to have this
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