- How to Make yourself valuable to a man.
Valerius very simple answer to that
and the answer is by making yourself valuable.
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Ladies pay attention to the word where I'm saying yourself,
not him but yourself.
When you are going of your way to please.
when you seeing him at the last minute,
when you ditch your friends for him,
when you are too available for him.
When you see him every single day,
you are making not yourself valuable,
not your time valuable,
but you are putting him on a pedestal
and you are making him very valuable.
So when you're making the other person very valuable,
and you always going out of your way to please them,
this is when they naturally start to feel entitled of you
and take you for granted.
And it's really natural and there is no one to blame
but yourself.
Why?
Because you are actually not putting value on yourself
but you're actually by your actions
putting the value on him.
So what do we need to do to make ourselves valuable
and for him to see your value and worth?
Well, the answer is actually quite simple.
Let's look at the people who are valuable.
Who do you think is more valuable?
Let's say someone like Oprah or somebody who is
not going to work and sits at home
watching Netflix all day long, right?
We kind of we see who's more valuable, right?
Who is more valuable in this sense,
somebody who is dreaming to be an athlete,
but he's just he just talks a lot
and never makes themselves to do it.
And instead he does a lot of things but waste his time.
Let's say goes out to parties,
drinking again watches TV leaves until 12 o'clock,
or a guy who is working really hard
to achieve let's say his, athlete goals.
Long term, this person is much more valuable
than this one who wasted his time.
So same goes for you, Hannah.
If you're not doing much with your life.
So let's say you're going to nine to five after work,
you just chill, eat, watch Netflix
and don't do anything else.
When he calls at the last minute to meet up,
you're like, okay, great, I'm free too.
So you just leave your house because you have nothing to do
and you go and see him, right?
That might be fun and exciting the first few times,
but after a while the person will have an idea about you
that, okay, so she's always available,
she's not doing much with her time
therefore she doesn't really have much value.
A natural and healthy way for a man to value is
to value yourself first.
When you value yourself first,
you naturally put yourself first.
So for example, if you have lots of goals through the day
that you need to achieve and he calls you at the last minute
to, to meet up, you know that your time is valuable
and that in order for it to stay valuable you need to put
yourself first
and achieve things in the day that you need to achieve.
So therefore you say sure I would love to see you
but please let me know in advance,
I will arrange a free window for you to meet up.
He might be like cool, that's okay, no worries.
What are you busy with?
I'm busy with this this this and that straight away
in his eyes your value will go up.
Why?
Cuz he can see it through your actions that you valuing
your time by doing valuable things in your life.
If however, he calls you at the last minute and says,
hey babe, what you're up to?
And you say, oh, nothing just chilling really bored.
And he says, would you like to meet up?
But you let's say watched the YouTube channel
where it says, "you cannot see a guy at the last minute."
So you say,
"no I can't meet you that you cuz you need
to let me know in advance."
For him, it's not gonna make sense.
He'll be like, what game is she playing?
She is free, she's not doing anything but she needs me
to ask her in advance.
How does this make sense?
He's gonna get upset, he's gonna get annoyed with you,
and you guys actually will have a fight.
If however you playing another game by telling him
that you're not available at the last minute
when he calls you to meet up but all you're doing again
is watching TV and eating popcorn, right?
Short term, he might fall for that
and he'll see your value and worth but long term,
the needle will come out
and he will be like hold on a minute.
So she always says she's really busy,
but when she has nothing to share
or talk about what she's busy with when we meet up
and and maybe later down the line,
you start to live together or you get married,
and then he sees the reality that in the evening
or every single day, all you do is chill and eat popcorn,
and he will be like, hold on a minute.
So if this was your life the whole time you were actually
lying to me that you busy at the last minute.
And what can happen long term,
he might get really disappointed with you
cuz he will be like, okay, actually,
this is not what I thought you are.
I actually thought that I'm signing up
for a different thing.
You see, so ladies, if you want him to value you,
first you need to value yourself.
And if you want him to keep valuing you,
you need to keep valuing yourself.
As soon as you will stop valuing yourself
and valuing your time and you will start putting him first
this is when you will start to think that he has more value
than yourself and your time and you will start
to behave to you accordingly.
He will start to behave to you as a man who feels
like he has more value than you do.
And automatically what will happen next,
he will start taking you for granted.
Okay, make sense, good.
Ladies, again, the games work short term.
Being a true high value woman it comes from here.
If you're playing games, you're playing games.
This is not very real you, everybody can play games.
The game is not sustainable.
Changing yourself from the core, this is sustainable.
Now ladies, a lot of you value your time
and you value yourself and you have a lot of value within
yourself but you don't know how to set healthy boundaries
with the guys because you're being too nice.
And if you are in that situation where you feel too scared
to sit in a boundary or don't know how,
please follow this link right here and watch my video
how to get a man to respect you.
And if you would like to find out
are you a woman of high value or low value,
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