- Just don't expect it, bye.
(uplifting music)
Ah, so what do you when others
don't support you in your life?
It reminds me of the story, this fisherman.
And he goes out there to the sea
and he would capture these buckets of crab.
And one man walks by and sees that he's got this bucket
and there's no lid.
And the man is asking this fisherman,
"Wow, if when you catch a different crabs,
"aren't you afraid that, why don't you have a lid?
"Aren't the the crabs gonna crawl out?"
And the fisherman's like, "Yeah, if I have one crab,
"that one crab will crawl out.
"However, if I have a bunch of crabs,
"no, I don't even worry about it,
"because they will make sure
"that any single crab tries to crawl out,
"the other crabs will pull that crab right back down
"with where they are, inside the bucket."
That's the theory, the story, of the buckets of crab.
Guess what?
You have a lotta crab people in your life.
They try to pull you down, they try to drag you down,
they try to keep you where you are today.
They don't want you to get out of that bucket.
Now, why is that?
You have to understand, if you are seeking validation,
you're seeking approval, you are waiting
for someone else's permission.
Where, yeah you know, it would be nice,
I wanna accomplish all these great things.
I wanna do these things,
and I want to, you know, create all these things,
I wanna achieve all these goals,
but oh, but the people around me,
they just don't support me.
So fucking what?
Don't expect them to support you.
That's not their job to support you.
If you need their emotional support to do what you do,
you don't have what it takes.
I remember, even my mom, when I set the goal,
I said, I'm gonna be an entrepreneur,
my mom wasn't supportive.
When I said I'm gonna quit school
and pursue entrepreneurship, my mom wasn't supportive.
If you watch my other videos, I'll put it somewhere here,
the Dim Sum Ambush.
My mom invited her friends and my relatives
all in one big table, me against them,
trying to convince me, I should stay in school.
They weren't supportive.
Nobody supported me.
I was just fighting on my own for many, many years.
It's only after my mom saw how dedicated I was,
how serious I was, how committed I was,
then I got her support.
I earned her support.
And that's the big thing.
You don't automatically get support.
Who the fuck are you?
You need to earn their support.
You need to earn it, need to earn their respect.
Because what, your track record, ain't fucking good.
You try many things, they fucking fail.
Or you have no track record, you are young.
Why should they trust you?
Why should they buy into your belief?
Why they should buy into your vision?
I wouldn't buy into your vision.
I don't fucking believe you.
You fucking believe in yourself.
So don't expect anybody,
and don't wait for anybody's support.
Once you achieve some success,
once you are getting there, then you might get some support.
You have to understand this.
Most people, they don't succeed enough
because of fear of failure, it's because of fear of success.
They're afraid, afraid of the unknown.
They know what's it's like to struggle,
but they don't know what it's like to succeed.
I want you to think about the people around you,
your family, your friends.
Most of them have not had a lotta success in their lives.
They haven't had the opportunity
to create a lot of even wealth and success, in their lives.
So what it means to them is
when they're on this path and you're on this path,
first of all, they're afraid of losing you.
They're afraid of losing you.
Because they could see you are acting differently.
You're thinking differently.
You're talking differently.
You're behaving differently.
Oh, there's something about you that's different.
You're not the same guy, same girl, that I used to know.
Sometimes it could be a boyfriend, girlfriend,
your husband your wife, and they're afraid of losing you.
Because they are staying exactly where they used to be,
and you're going a different path.
They're afraid of losing you.
And that's why they don't support you for that.
Even though, even though, maybe you're doing it for them.
You're doing it to create a better future for them.
You're doing it for the family.
It doesn't matter.
They won't understand.
And I can tell you right now, this is coming from me,
even after you succeed,
you may still never ever, get their support.
And that's just a fact.
It's sad, but it's a fact.
It's not fair, but it's a fact.
You might not like it, but it's a fact.
Even after you succeed,
you still may or may not, get their support.
You may get it, but I'm saying, don't fucking count on it.
Don't do it just for them, do it for yourself.
Do it for yourself.
If they come along, that's fine.
But don't drag them along.
If they want to follow along, that's fine,
but don't drag them along.
If they stay where they are, that's okay.
Don't let that slow you down, you keep moving forward.
It's your life, not theirs.
At the end of the day, it's your life, it's your life.
It's your path, this is your time.
You get to decide how you wanna use it.
How you wanna maximize it.
How do you wanna live this life fully?
Not theirs.
I don't care who they are.
And this is not being selfish, this is being generous.
You can't help nobody if you don't help yourself.
You got to help yourself first.
Then maybe, just maybe, if they want your help,
you can help them.
Just maybe, if they were willing to support you,
that's good, but don't fucking expect it.