I wanted to start a family
I wanted to
Not be very old when I had my kids
You know
I wanted to grow up with them
I wanted to be their friend
I mean people used to make fun of so many things you know
There were so many things that used to come out
And that was silly of me
Because I didn't realise that
If I'm helping them I'm not helping myself
Why is papa home?
Why doesn't he go to work?
And I didn't wanna
And when I heard them say that i didn't want to set a bad example for them
I have been to parties earlier in my life
When things were not right for me, no one would give me that importance
This one women just caught me and she won't leave me
And I was like how do I get out of here
You know, I was stuck
But
You know I couldn't even push her
I don't know what to do, I was just
She caught me like for two, three minutes
And I was just stuck over there
The recent times kind of work I have done
Obviously I mean like 'ASHARAM'
I have never done such a bold character before so
I mean
I was watching it with her
And I didn't know how to even look at her
HELLO I'm Sakshi Arora
And joining me today on PINKVILLA
Is mellennials favourite
BOBBY DEOLL
Welcome sir, Welcome to PINKVILLA
Thankyou so much
You are in the best phase of your career right now
Was this what you were praying for in the lowest of your moments?
I think every actor prays and hopes that
It's he's always in a good phase in his life
And as an actor
Definitely I mean, i have been wanting
Trying really hard
To acheieve something
I have not achieved it is yet completely but
I'm on the right track
I mean I'm trying to break my image
And do different kinds of characters and
Luckily
I got the right kind of projects and
I got the opportunity to showcase what I can do
As an actor and
I'm glad because all my fans
Are excepting me as an actor who's
Who can play different roles you know
Who can play different characters because
Earlier on when I started my career
You used to get fixed with one kind of image and you couldn't break through that
But times have changed and I'm glad
That OTT platform has given me that opportunity
To do different kinds of characters
So I'm, Yes I'm really happy right now
I mean but
You are always nervous because you just wanna keep working harder
And getting, interesting characters to play so
You can keep challenging yourself as an actor
When you
Became and actor in the beginning
What were the goals that you had set out for yourself
That you know this is the position that i want to reach
I was too immature
I had
My goal was nothing like
What position I have to reach or
What market I have to tap in to it
It was all about
Being an actor and being love by your fans
So that means, meant to me was like a
The whole world
It didn't mattered that these kinds of people or that kind of people
Who want those kinds of movies would like me or not like me
I just wanted to do everything
I could do as an actor and
I never thought about
Stardom to that level
I never even realised it when I was
When I started my career that I was such a big star
At that point
Because they have seen my father
I mean he's a LEGEND
He has been in this industry for how many years now
And I have seen him being the SUPERSTAR
And then seeing him going through bad phase and then again reviving
And I knew that being a star is something
It doesn't last forever
It was more about being accepted as an actor
Which I realised later on in my career
When things were not going the right way for me
I realised that I need to do characters which will challenge me you know
And I'm not getting those opportunities
So it became frustrating for me and
This way things went wrong in my career but
I mean I'm just glad that
Because of OTT platform you know
Story telling has become even more vast
When you became a star, you got married soon after
And at that point of time we used to hear stories
That you know actors were advised not to reveal that they are married
Or hide all those things
Did people advise you to at least delay your wedding or not tell the world that
It was never like that
I, I don't I mean
I never believed in all that
But did people tell you to do that?
NO
I mean I knew I used to hear stories about other actors
Not talking about getting married
Actor's should not get married early in their life
Their fan following goes down
I never thought about that
I needed
I wanted to start a family
I wanted to not be very old when I had my kids
You know I wanted to grow up with them
I wanted to be their friend
Because I'm the youngest in my family
And the age difference between
Me and my elder brother is quite a bit
And then obviously being the youngest
My dad
Is quite older than me I mean in the sense that I wanted to be close to my father
And
I just couldn't
I used to miss that
So I decided that, when I get married I would like to have a child
As soon as possible obviously I couldn't have it straight away
I mean you have to
You just, its just that's the reason why
I never really cared about all those things
I just wanted to be
Because what do you working for
You work for your family
Before social media came into the picture
The media was brutal and stars didn't have any platform to clarify
Whether the news is correct or not
How did you handle nasty rumours and nasty stories in the magazines
And how did it affect you?
See, you know thing is anyone speaks nasty about you
Writes bad about you or gives wrong information about you
It upsets you
But the best way to stop it from moving further is
Do not react to it
Cause at that point there was a best way to you know
Approach something like that and
Cause if you react than there will be another reaction from the person
Who has written that article and then
It will keep on going on, going on and then
Everybody loves gossip you know
Why the social media is so big
Because people love gossip, people love to hear about other people
They can speak anything abouth the other person
But they won't like anyone speaking about themselves you know
So these same people can speak about others
Won't be, wouldn't like it when they are spoken about but
I suggest to not react to things you know
I suggest, I knew what I was, I knew the truth and
I was like God is up there he is looking
Watching on us and
If you are a good person, he'll always
You know, come out stronger from all this
Yeah
But you remember any piece of news that was completely heart breaking for you and your family?
I mean people used to make fun of so many things you know
There was so many things that used to come out
You know it happened to as much as my family
It happen to all the families, or actors
In our industry
And it's sad but then it's a show business you know
People, who will they talk about
They won't talk about Industrialist to that level
They won't talk about Doctor unless he goes wrong
In an operation threater or something
And they won't talk about anyone else
Beacuse no one wants to hear about them
It is easy for to people to talk about people
Who are from the film industry
Because you watch them they entertain you
And you wanna know about their lifes
In the olden days
People used to talk about
How they have helped their friend by doing a film for them
Have you ever done films just for your relation?
Even when you knew that this film might not work but because
You were emotional or you were
You wanted good for that person so you
Had a big heart and did it
I mean you end up doing things like that
You know, there have been some of my projects
Which i wouldn't have done otherwise
But because they weren't even family of
Very close but I just felt bad
And I, that was silly of me
Because I didn't realise that
If I'm helping them I'm not helping myself
You know, I'm spoiling my career
The only way I can help them is if
I just keep
You know tell them that what you trying to do is not right
You know, and
If I had that courage to do that at that time
They wouldn't had such
Bad
Films that came out you know
So it is difficult
My dad has been doing that all his life you know
Those days were different
My dad has helped I don't know
So many numerous people in his life
But those days an actor could still come out of that
Cause every actor did so many films in those years
In those times
They used to have four, four, five, five releases every year
So if one or two didn't do well
The three did well it was fine
But now it's not like that
I have never tried to
In my career
I have always tried to do
The least amount of films not because I wanted to do less work
Because you can't give your best otherwise you know
And they have also
I went into films which I sometimes felt I shouldn't have done but
I ended up doing it
Because then you have to start thinking
You have to take care of your family you have to work
And also sometimes for the other people
Yeah, sometimes for the other people
So these things happen no one
You can never have a perfect track record
As an actor
After all these years have you learned to say NO ?
Yes I have kind of
You know, but even then
Sometimes your gut feeling confuses you
You know there's a gut feeling that
Every actor works on his gut instincts mostly you know
And if your gut instincts
You can be right or wrong sometimes you know
It's never gonna guaranty you a hit film but
As long as
I'm enjoying what I'm doing
I do it
And definitely sometimes I, I mean
More often now I say no
When I don't like something because I know what I have been through
And I know that I won't loose out on
If I keep doing films all the time
I would at least whatever I try to do it'll just make me move forward
And that's the way I try to look at my career
I was watching one of your interviews
That made me very emotion
Because I'm very close to my dad
And you had mentioned that how
You just wanted to work for your children
You just wanted to show them that you know
I'm doing well and I'm trying my best for them
And you know as much as
It might be difficult for you
It might have been equally difficult to them to their father like that
Because you know fathers are
The first hero of any child
Yes
Right
So how did your kids in that phase of your life
How did they come to support you
Emotionally or in any way
See my kids were very small at that point
When I was doing through the worst phase of my life
And
They were so naive
I mean they are still naive and innocent
But at that, I mean they were so young
They, you know they would notice things around in the house
You know, that grandfather obviously he doesn't work so much
Uncle is working
A mother is working but father is always home
They were happy I was always there
And I got a lot of time to spend with them but
They still would wonder I mean you know
It's like a normal thing
Why is papa home
Why doesn't he go to work
And I didn't wanna
And when I heard them say that I didn't wanna set a bad example for them you know
Because
My dad has always been working and
My brother he's done really
He's also been a big star and
So I just wanted to
Not set and example which would make them
Not believe in themselves
I wanted to make them
Feel that you have to believe in yourself
And even if, and if you believe in yourself
You can achieve anything
Because no matter how much your family loves you
It's you yourself who has to do something to move forward
And they know that
I'm very honest with my kids
I tell them what I feel what I have been through
Because I don't wanna hide it from them you know
I don't want to have a facade where I don't tell them about life you know
It's not like I'm trying to scare them
I'm trying let them understand that this is the reality of life you know
And we have been brought up in a very sheltered environment
So for us
It's always gonna be not that easy to face the world outside
Because
With every decade every generation
It's moving faster and faster you know
Everybody has to look after themselves and
And everybody is
It's become a ruthless world outside
It's not that they trying to be ruthless
But that's just the way it is becoming so
So that's how I
You know my kids understand
My older son definitely
He's doing business management
Because I want him to study
And not just think about being an actor
And he's good in studies so he's studying
And even my younger son
He's in the eleventh standard so
He's studying
And I just want them
To finish their education and then decide what you wanna do
Obviously they would all want to be in movie business but
I mean I'll be really proud to see my kids
My sons on the big silver screen one day but
Even then even if they don't become actors
I'll still be proud of them
You know first of all thankyou for being vaulnerable
Because as a man
Many men they just can't
Be vulnerable in front of people so thank you for doing that
First of all
No I, that's just me I, I
I don't know I can't
I don't have any kind of defence mechanism or I don't play an act
I just am the way I am you know
You know after all these successes as an actor
I'm sure that now when you go
To events or in the public eye
People would be responding to you very differently
Vs the time where you were in your low phase
Do you see the difference yourself
See
I have seen that happen to me
Throughout my career
But I never really took it so seriously
Because I know I have seen my father going through all that
I have seen times when my dad would have
So many people around and suddenly there won't be many people around him
So I have never let that play on my mind
But it's very difficult
It is difficult
I have been through that
I have been through parties earlier in my life
When things are not right for me
And no one would give me that importance
But at that point
It affected me, but I think that made me stronger
I think that made me realise that nobody is yours
Everybody wants you and they need you
Everybody uses each other to move forward you know so
Just work hard
Cause they need to use you one day and
Things have changed
Itself and I think you know
Creatively people need to have the faith in you
Also not just financial box office but also as an actor
And I think the most important thing
I feel is
An actors inning is longer if
They get recognised for their acting talent and
So I'm moving in that track and I'm glad
That people are noticing that you know
And I hope I can just keep living up to the expectations now
Because definitely people expect a lot out from me but
Thinks have changed now yes
People look at me differently again
They are interested in seeing me around
But my fans have always been nice to me you know
All these years even when I wasn't working
They would still come up to me and you know
Be affectionate
So I think my fans have all stood by me all these years
And I made new fans now so
I mean, it's just
It's really nice
Let's talk about SOLDIER, GUPT, BARSAAT AND HUMRAAZ
These are like your iconic films
Were you like aware that these films would become such a huge hit
When you were doing them
Of course you were expecting them to be but
I mean I was
As I said I was really young I mean I
I never, Never thought about it in that sense
I don't know how to explain it to anyone you know
When people ask me
When you were a star, people used to go crazy about you
You must get some fan moments
I don't, I never looked it that way you know
I just was happy yes you know
Other people would come and tell me your film is big hit you know and
I would be happy, I mean
I never really looked in to that way you know
And what were the crazy fans
Female fans specially
Because you were known as like the most good looking among your contemporaries
I know it's very cringy
But you know people used to describe you as
So good looking and all
So how can you deal with that kind of female fan following?
I'm a very shy person and
Those days I was really more shy
Because I was very young so I used to get embarrassed you know
I used to feel nice that all my fans
Are reacting to me in that way but
It would be embarrassing
But it's not their fault because you know
As a fan myself
When I used to, when I liked some actor or I like some cricketer or something
I would be so excited to meet that person you know
So I can understand that excitement
That's what important I mean that's what
So nice about being an actor the love you get from people you know and
No other profession can give you that kind of love, affection
Like how being an actor can you know
So it was nice I mean
I remember once I went for some premier in Pune
This one women just caught me and she won't leave me
And I was like how do I get out of here
You know, I was stuck
But
You know I couldn't even push her
I didn't know what to do I was just
She caught me like for two three minutes
And I was just stuck over there
These kind of things happen I think it happens to all the actors
When they start their careers or
You know when you are the new
You are the talk of the town and then that changes
And your work starts taking you forward so
It was nice
And how did your wife react to all of this?
My wife knew I was an actor
Before she met me
So yes it is difficult for a wife of an actor
To see him being romantic you know
But on screen
But then my wife understands she's mature
She knows that my husband's an actor
That's a profession, that's a job
And
In the recent times the kind of work I have done
Obviously i mean like 'ASHARAM'
I have never done such a bolt character before so
I mean
I was watching it with her and
I didn't know how to look at her but
But I knew I mean I told her before
I did the show that this is how it's gonna be
And it's a character I'm playing
And the character has to do all these things you know
Because that's what the character is
You can't
If it was just unnecessarily being done and I won't even do it
But as an actor when you playing a character
You have to live the character you know
So you have to do these kind of
Whatever the character requires to be the way he has to be so
But my kids they also
You know
They are proud of me, they just want people to appreciate their dad
Cause as I said I'm very open with my kids
And I tell them how I feel what I go through
I mean first thing in the morning when
My movie or my web series released
I don't like to look at reviews
And I, when I
As soon as I get up my kids my wife
They all going through their phones saying the reactions
And
Obviously the first few are never nice
And then slowly slowly as the days go by
They become better and better and then suddenly
I have been very lucky
Because
Three projects I did till now and
It was so positive the response to three of my works so
It was really nice
What makes me happy is that
Because I'm happy and my family is happy you know
When you are sad your family gets sad
And the, and that's how it is because we are so close to each other
And My brother he wanted to throw a party for me
After LOVE HOSTEL released
Because he was so proud of me
And he himself doesn't go to parties
Yeah but obviously he also does party at my house
But I was busy promoting it so he couldn't do that
Then he put this lovely post for me on his Instagram and
So that's how we are
And your story proves that good things do happen to good people
And even when people did not return you the favour God did
Yes I think
I believe in that and I also believe that
How work turns into luck and
I think you should never give up in life
I think luck is always around the corner
You have to just keep working hard
Thank you so much for talking to us
Thank you so much
Thank's it was nice talking to you
HI this is BOBBY DEOLL
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