hi guys welcome back to my channel today
we're going to be doing a real talk
uh-huh what happened this talk but
basically I'm bit but I haven't told
Rose what it's gonna be about because I
want the natural surprise of the topics
suspenseful and this is a highly
requested real talk I do listen to your
suggestions you told me what to do on so
I'm going to do it on this okay go ahead
if you with it with it
jealousy feelings of jealousy when is it
okay when is it not okay how to deal
with jealousy
okay corn anyone talk about what are
then I'm not offensive or anything I
think we should start off with jealousy
in relationship saying okay we're in one
okay well Julie savories never chance
person Ariane jealous yeah okay it's not
like it's out of control it's just that
I have been jealous in the past of you
know people who have been close to you
I've been jealous - jealous definitely
been jealous and maybe took out on
people the most crazy one is back with
jealousy but we'll get on Sundays no
it's one phone get on to it later the
biggest times I've been jealous is when
we weren't officially together you were
like seeing other people obviously I was
naturally jealous of those people cuz I
wants to help today would be good
because when we weren't officially
together and we were playing games
making each other jealous I think we
really gained you did I remember you
flirting with some people and I got very
jealous something will work the child in
there the exactly some people try and
make you jealous on purpose and it's
like why cuz you tried right so each
other's yeah maybe a little bit because
I had absolutely nothing going on so and
once did you think that I had something
going on which i think is fair
i think that it would be a little bit
boring for you you're saying that it's
okay to make people jealous on purpose
sometimes depending on the scenario
complicated it slightly complicated i
think that a lot of people are not that
I'm a game player but I think a lot of
people are in for the chasing for the
game because that's what dating has
become now yeah and I think that
this kind of rules of the game yeah it's
[ __ ] but a lot of people do it
because it does it makes you think it's
it's fun you ride the highs and the lows
yeah I mean I think do it for fun I did
it because I didn't want you to be
disinterested so I thought well if
there's an element of maybe you can't
have me when you want me
yeah and you gonna help me more with
works like a job so I don't regret it
yeah so I think a little bit jealousy is
okay you can be quite sexy it makes you
right there sometimes it reminds you
what you've got um like I remember on
like one of my birthday parties I
obviously had like a nice dress on when
we went out I'd heels on and I think
some guys but I kept calling me and you
got jealous sometimes it's nice because
you're like that's my girl it's true it
does reinforce the fact that you love
Luther you're live what believe me you
look at them again for for everything
they are and through the eyes of someone
that really wants them who isn't you me
think hey when you feel everything that
you felt from the very beginning again
yeah yeah I do think a healthy amount a
lemonade jealousy's okay yeah it's when
it becomes out of control and a problem
your religion yeah that's when things
aren't so good yeah so for example we
never have that yeah so Oh fertility
would be reading my facebook messages
reading my dog no that was an overt
jealousy that was cautiousness caution
no don't tell them it's just caution no
well you could call the jealousy Rosie
or you can call it fantastic private
investigating
okay so we've all made mistakes and the
first one time is okay we will never
bring everybody gets to us at some point
web eat and sometimes it does have to be
romantic Jesse you know sometimes it
could be like friendship jealousy feel
like friends a bit more successful than
you no offense but the only reason I
read a diary and your messages was
because I didn't want to I didn't want
to be wasting my time it was only when
we weren't officially together where
there was like commitment and trust and
a mutual understanding that I felt like
I needed to do that because I thought
well I need to know where I stand you're
clearly not telling me I knew you were
stringing me along a little bit playing
the game and I was fine with it up so
quiet in months and months passed I was
like well I need to know what's going on
yeah you had you had um it was okay back
then
in our healthy relationship while we're
married to each other we don't read it
your stats
we don't read it she was faced with mess
chairs don't read you chose diets
although if Rose wanted to look at my
phone she could
cuz that's cuz I know your pin right so
that that's what you do yeah and I know
yours and there's nothing that I wanted
to do the touch phone can me and Shannon
can open each other and lucky chose
phones with their thumbs
why ja that's how I know baby can have a
second thumb or maybe think what the
same fingerprints maybe they're related
No okay so we've said when jealousy is
acceptable and when it's not okay I
think they're bit jealousy at the
beginning or like if you randomly you
know someone's coming on to your partner
or whatever that's totally acceptable
you're going to feel a bit like hey hang
on punch them in the throat offended and
it contain violence but that's not what
you did I'm just saying sometimes you
got to punch you gotta punch people
there was a reason she did that don't do
that yeah okay much chase I put you in
touch but he touched me inappropriately
yes I pushed in yeah let's not let's
forget that too much jealousy is bad and
also you got to recognize that in other
people so if we you know if we're going
out you know however long we're married
now I think you would be going out I
know three four years like no previous
asking the wrong person
I've no idea we've got to any other
answers if you were still acting like
really jealous still wanting to read my
tests and stuff then there's a problem
man and so you've got to be careful
because jealousy can consume you and I
think if you feed it it does get worse
so it likes carbs no I know exactly what
you mean I think if jealousy becomes
becomes you then that's very very
slippery slope yes you mean to badness
it can basically feels that jealous and
you can't control her finger Jesse you
might try and control the other person
physically yeah and be like no you're
not going out you're not wearing that
let me read your phone that's all bad
but let's talk about jealousy with
friends as well because that can be
difficult because what if you've got a
really good friend right say you're at
school you've got a really really good
friend but they're just better at
everything and maybe they're better
looking than you what can you do well
that never happened to me before so I
used to be jealous of a few of my
girlfriend's in school but I didn't
realize
Genesee became fancying them right okay
they were do you think it was the
beginning of that or do you think do you
think you did actually start off jealous
of them and then because they're all see
prettier and clivia clever or whatever
that you were like oh actually I fought
so much about them that now I can't see
them yeah I wanted to be there basically
so I lost my weight came athletic that's
interesting that you say that right
because I used to be jealous of people
and then I realized actually I wasn't
jealous he was fancying them because I
obviously in within the jealousy
although Chelsea's a bad thing I've
realized that I really liked qualities
about them that I obviously thought I
didn't have that's right jealous and
yeah I ended up not becoming them but
really being into them I think it makes
me different for straight girls there I
think straight girls just look at
someone might be jealous and they kind
of like inspire them to change
themselves or be more so way but and so
little I mean when they're jealous as
well though something loud denial about
their maybe the media and people just a
vagina
I'm almost bullying it at school I
wasn't a bully but I know that's
definitely been a moment or two where I
might been slightly mean to someone
because I was jealous but I think I
didn't even realize at the time I used
to throw in little pieces of paper into
someone's hair because I was jealous of
her intellect and then she got um a
scholarship to Cambridge through singing
Wow so I got a scholarship to in-n-out
burger it's okay get off me
the concept of back with jealousy is a
little confusing for a lot of people
basically in a nutshell backless
jealousy is when either of us or
interview in relationship get jealous
because the other person's getting
attention not because you're jealous
that you want to have their attention
because you want someone else to give
you attention right it's a very
confusing concept it's really confusing
maybe they really have it much do we
know you used to have it in the past I
think at the very beginning of the
relationship we might get a little bit
backwards jealousy yes they say some
some girl on a club really fancied you I
wouldn't be jealous because of what you
had between each other I'd be like why
like what's wrong with me what's wrong
what's wrong with me
like it's really strange concept it's
kind of like it's almost you know it's
self-indulgent really how do you do it
just about it is right it's hard but
you've got to be less worried about what
other people are doing
there's always can be something about
someone else that you haven't gone that
you want whatever it is right it's a
plan there's for you there is a big
difference between thinking oh I'm
jealous of you because you've got all
that and actually I'm going to be
inspired by that yeah better myself
yeah you had no good phase everybody has
an all good play going through it yeah
yeah so whatever whatever that person's
got you can't put all they've got it
they work for that I guarantee you they
took them time to get to where they're
at so dude that jealousy make you treat
people differently because yeah that
just makes you such an [ __ ] son isn't
it okay
you never have to put jealous of anyone
is that a [ __ ] joke yes I've had to
be chance saving people but then again I
always what I think I worried in the
early days of our relationship because
I've I really did think that I was
everything maybe that you would like and
and it's very difficult because when I
thought oh okay well you're still seeing
a lot of other people and you're not
like set on me I thought what is it but
they have but I haven't gotten oh then
I've got mean about the most like that
guy he's not even he you know he's not
even be kind and he's not you know I've
been outwardly need about the people
that use granted before I've been mean
about people I'm jealous of oh I can I
can knows well I do want a nail anyone
by like living or ex-partners apart from
a few that I thought were actually you
know half decent I'm pretty much hated
because just because they go ex-partners
yeah you know which is a there's no
logic to it
there's a lot of logic to its the fact
that you've been with them intimately
and I don't like it yeah that's why
they've never you we're inviting your
friends or not hey I make the rules when
you think you make the rules that I let
you think hey Tracy I make the rules you
know my ideas yeah it's very clever
okay so I think that's everything we
have to say on jealousy if you're a
jealous person that's fine remember
everyone gets jealous very naturally
very natural but you've got to work on
it you've got to work on you improve
yourself you know trying think glass
compare yourself less to others just be
content if you want to improve yourself
great but don't feel like you have to
just because I'm with who you are but
honestly someone is gonna love that
exactly about you not just your mum
every single person in the world even
there's millions of people in the world
every single person has their own
certain thing that makes them attractive
whether it's like something I don't know
some quirk about them some unique thing
jealousy you for you so stop wasting
your time holding yourself up to others
because say you're just asan and they've
got a perfect partner you're gonna get
the right partner for you you're gonna
get the right career for you your life
is your life so be inspired yeah but
don't let it consume you know so try and
make into a positive thing you are
either no one's perfect everyone makes
mistakes it's okay to be jealous
sometimes just don't let it consume you
don't let it kill you and don't let it
kill anybody else nobody's perfect but
everybody is perfectly imperfect Oh bye