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Namaste, everybody, I bow to the love and the light that's absolutely in
you and today I wanted to address a youtube comment that is on my video what
video is it podcast awakening from the sleeping mind our path to enlightenment
and it is writtend by Blondie Lynde and she posted these comments a
a couple of weeks ago and she writes" I believe sometimes that I hate myself I
know it's just a thought and we aren't our thoughts but when I challenge that
thought my brain is ready with so many answers so many reasons why I'm not
enough so many ways I fall short of what I've been taught in perfection
my mind is heavy with this all the time I'm in a constant state of self-loathing
I'm going to keep following your work Lisa and see where it leads me I know I
have enough love for myself somewhere down deep to push on because I too made
the choice not to kill myself at 12 years old" So I wanted to address Blonde's
comments and I really hope Blonde you see this you see this video
so when she says I believe sometimes that I hate myself
if we if you believe that you hate yourself, hear what I'm saying blondie
land and everybody else out there I'm wearing really dark jeans today I just
noticed my hands like getting dark from the dye so if you guys want to know what
the hell that is that's why so dear one if you're saying that that I believe
sometimes that I hate myself what we have to recognize is that there is a
belief there and a belief is really running the ship so no matter what we
think in our conscious mind the belief is always going to win out because the
belief is a product of what's been planted in the subconscious mind and the
subconscious mind has now assumed to be true
now remember dear ones the subconscious mind only accepts information and never
rejects information so if you consistently like I talked about my
12-week break the coaching program it's through repetition observation and
consistency a child continues to feel on seeing and invalidated this create
grooves in the end a child thinking minds and subconscious mind and these
patterns get ingrained in the child subconscious mind and when it becomes
the belief it's like a 500 year old rooted tree it's it's in there and so
the healing that you have to do blonde Yulin is subconscious as well as
conscious if you're just going to attack this thought on the conscious realm
you're not going to win because when it comes to a thought over belief the
belief is always going to win out so that's why I believe we have got to
start moving into in terms of therapy we're going to have to start moving into
the subconscious realm because talking about our beliefs is not going to change
our beliefs and that is not awful that's just not our fault so we have to be a
little bit more open when we approach our own healing right and our own
recovery and I do think that we have to be more proactive and so many of you are
so many of you who write me on youtube or write you privately come through one
of my coaching programs you say to me Lisa
you know I've been around the block with therapists and you know I learned more
on YouTube about myself or my situation than I have in 20 years of therapy good
for you do one that's freaking awesome because even though even my therapist
who is brilliant told me you're codependent will actually depress but
too depressed because you coach Bennett he could have done it because he loved
to unrecovered ill children alcohol is raving you who don't even realize that
their childhoods were terribly traumatic because of the way they were raised my
parents thought because they didn't drink everything was cool and because
they didn't get drunk everything was cool
you know my parents didn't understand that we needed to feel seen we were
robots as children we were soldiers which is not natural for a child a child
is limbic they are all emotional they're supposed to they are mind body and soul
and when you frighten the child to the point where that kid has to suppress
their natural instinct to be a child you have forced a child into a state of
survival and that fucks them up plain English fine English fuck them up
so we've got to become more confident as parents if we're going to have children
we have to take you very very seriously we've got to know what these babies need
we've got to be willing to check ourselves we've got to be mature enough
to understand what they need we've got to put our child's needs above our needs
so we've got to be in check emotionally so um
blondie Lynne I believe sometimes that I hate myself so understand you got a
challenge that belief and the reality is dear one you are enough no matter what
this belief says you are enough just because you hear it doesn't believe
don't don't doesn't make it so I know it's just thought and we aren't
our thoughts but when I challenge that thought you're challenging it
consciously they need a lot you got it you got to go deeper than that dear one
my brain is ready with so many answers now the brain is a product now the brain
is organic and it has certain defense mechanisms like pain versus pleasure
that's not our fault that's part of the primitive brain right and you said that
my brain is ready with so many answers or rebuttals because you have cognitive
dissonance right this is where this comes into cognitive dissonance comes
into play so when you have a thought in the mental
field which is the conscious field Oh enough please say Romano says them
enough I gotta be enough his book or I didn't ask to be born I was innocent
when I was getting programmed to hate myself it's all my fault you get that
consciously but unconsciously if you have a belief running in the background
that mommy and daddy sister and brother priest rabbi whoever teacher Monsignor
whatever whatever older brother uncle and whoever whoever foster mother
adopted mother whoever whoever was your caretaker and person that you looked up
to and thought was needs already realized if you have consistently gotten
the message that you are not enough then that thought that thought in a conscious
realm created a feeling which got downloaded into the subconscious realm
and now bingo you have a belief in the subconscious mind so you now have
cognition and dr1 it's not your fault your brain is actually doing what it was
designed to do so you said my brain is ready with so many answers of course it
is so many reasons why I'm not enough many reasons why Apple short of what
I've been taught is perfection so you've been taught to seek perfection which is
means you were never given validation by the people who raised you right
probably because they want to keep you on the hook probably because they
treated their children like little circus poodles you know like yeah maybe
if you do this maybe this again eh I'll pat you on the back and say good job
maybe if you lose a couple of pounds and you're the prom queen and king or
whatever I'll you know I'll say good job maybe if you you know become a fireman
or an attorney or a doctor maybe then I'll say good job so you say that my
mind is heavy with this all the time of course it is I'm in a constant state of
self-loathing okay I'm going to keep following your work and see where it
leads me okay I know I have enough love for myself somewhere down deep to push
on because I too made the choice not to kill myself at 12 years old okay so Ron
Yulin this is my this is my theory right so you know people who have imagined
being born blind and you suddenly are healed and you now can see you more than
a sighted person who's always had sight it's going to appreciate the Sun the
Moon the Stars the oceans bubble bees dragonflies butterflies you can
appreciate more because you want to soothe the darkness of it if you were a
child who came from a home that was purely neglectful and you never had an
ice cream sundae and all of a sudden you're 12 years old you're invited to a
party and you are given an ice cream sundae now the room was full of kids who
had ice cream sundaes once a week or every other day one of my dream Sunday's
of just part of the norm you are going to enjoy that ice cream sundae a lot
more than a little kids there who have had ice cream sundaes throughout their
lifetime so it is the lack and a contrast of the lack to that which you
have now received which creates appreciation in you and gratitude
in you because you have known the lack of this thing it's the same thing with
the recovery journey when you haven't been abused which you have been even if
your house was perfect if you were raised by perfectionistic parents if you
were raised by people who you know we're very professional and intelligence and
they wanted their children to be the same and you should just achieve achieve
achieve achieve and you felt unseen that's abusive right because you're not
getting the type of authentic heart-to-heart connection from your
parents that you need to really develop you know on a natural timeline and you
know you end up being self actualized very naturally because you've had this
experience of being seen by another that that had conveyed to you that you are
enough you know in order for you to love the self you have to experience being
loved by someone else first that is the truth that's the truth that's a truism
and you like me like so many of us who follow my work when my coaching programs
read my books whatever those of us on this path have learned that we have to
somehow override our our psychological attempts at validation which is we are
designed and driven to do we've got to override this and love ourselves in
spite of not experiencing love from another we have to learn how to do that
and once we learn how to do that that's when our reality begins to shift right
so those of us on this path who have known great lack lack of love lack of
connection lack of authenticity lack of integration lack of feeling seen by
another human being those of us who have known desperation who have been so
programmed to seek the validation of other people who have attracted
narcissistic people into our lives and their flying monkeys and we have been
gasps biding our entire lives that we don't even we have any
realize it and we're just starting to wake up and we want to be free of it but
we're stuck in it and now we're afraid to rock the boat and we're afraid to
make that first step and oh my god so terrifying to tell this narcissist I
want nothing to do with him or I want nothing to do with her holy crap it is
terrifying terrifying so those of us who have experienced these experiences we
know the darkness we know the darkness but I will tell you what we're just like
that kid experiencing that ice cream sundae for the first time when we for
the first time learn to honor the self and decide to set a boundary or we
delete that text message from by that narc when we walk away from that
narcissist to try to bait us into a conversation and arguments when we go no
contact or we go minimal contact or we don't react to the dog that we live with
we just let them be we just pull our energy from their situations in this
situation what we begin to do those types of things we increase our
vibration because we're finally holding on to our own energy and we begin to
understand what it's like to walk in the light we have to start somewhere
dear one this is an action based universe so execution is everything so
to know something to have an idea and then to not execute that idea in an
action based universe because we are action beings right we are spirits and
we have this physical body that acts that moves our muscles contracts we move
through this thing that we think is space and time so this is an action
based universe we have to act on this knowledge that we are receiving and
achieving and gain it with the act on it and sometimes the action is in action
meaning that you know someone from my 12-week breakthrough coaching program
just posted a post in our secret Facebook page and she said that she's so
proud of herself because she has no contact with her dog but she's got to
work with him and she received a text message from him
and he baited her into he was a lovely text message and e-juice sisters he bade
in her right so the first text message is usually loving because he wants to
beat you in and as soon as she started to engage that's when he started to like
vomit all over her right classic classic you ignore me you ignore an arc long
enough they come they come running back and they try to engage but it's really
they just want you to they want to get their foot in the door and they want the
opportunity to black mom and all of you and if you feel like crap again that's
my goal so you know the fact that you're feeling more powerful in an arc they
don't like that they got to pull you down and they find ways to do it so the
first time you delete that text message you hope that's an Annette well it looks
actually it's moment in action that's acting out you're actually acting on
that once you feel you're making or deleting the text message but sometimes
what we have to do is just not engage sometimes you know we've got to walk
away I remember when I was working in a Wellness Center and it was it was really
very soon after my ex-husband I broke up and we were living separately and we
lived in a really small town and everybody gossip totally crap it was
like not slamming dating myself and dynasty and here I was you know in the
locker room and these two older women who were friends with my
ex-mother-in-law began talking about me like a whiz Lyon there and I just
remember saying to myself to myself at these women are deliberately talking
this smack about me like this this is so I would I don't think I would never do
that to somebody like that is just obnoxious
nobody should throw stones because we've all made mistakes
anyway I just turned around and I said to lay this is good day ladies I said
you know everything that you just said is actually a falsehood I said I'm not
going really debate this with you but like have a good day and I walked out um
there were other times where people said things to man accused me of things that
went on a divorce that didn't go on divorce they were just trying to justify
why we were getting divorced and there were times it's just like strict my head
you know in my head was like that ain't true you know and I walked away but
every time we do that we're holding on to
in life and we're learning to love ourselves so fear one fear blondie Lin
oh eight or zero eight your mind is heavy with this all the time dear one
and I can totally relate to you and so many all of us can write so shout out
please YouTube viewers please shout out to blondie Lin and encourage her to hang
on and to confront the belief she's got a direct to her thought process a fuller
focus towards that belief to challenge that belief when that belief comes up
like I'm no good you have to immediately go to know I am good I was programmed
not to believe I was good but I am good all day every day consistently
consistently post a note below the house understanding that on an innate level
you are devotee or Divine Being and you were innocent and you were your mind was
corrupted and this ain't your fault so dear one I believe in you I encourage
you and I and I ask that YouTube YouTube viewers out there in love and light
let's send blondie Lin some love she is one of us we are all on the State House
and that's towards emotional evolution the evolution of our consciousness and
we are all on the path to enlightenment we're all here to discover that we are
enough in spite of what we have experienced in our childhood homes in
spite of the programming we are enough we can rise up as a subconscious mind we
can give birth three births to ourselves we can actually become reborn in our own
concept itself we can learn to believe that we are the love that we are the
life we are the light we are our own light there is a light within you doing
at our subatomic or we are all light it is true you are light and the more
enlightened you become the more you light up right where you are the more
you help your children the more you help your co-workers just by being a brighter
light about a being who doesn't really care about people say about her anymore
I think it's amazing tremendous so you are the light dear one you are
the light got to confront the dark blond demon namaste
I bow to love and lies it is absolutely in your dear one and I know that you can
do this stick to this work get to do in my meditations twice a day I suggest one
in the morning and when I got plenty of them on youtube
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going to everybody about the love the life that is absolutely in you bye