(blaire white) really GD we have to believe her we have to believe the woman who's made these
videos Trish has been known to post troll videos before about changing race
coming out as gay and other things in the days following Trisha Paytas coming
out as trans there's been a lot of reactions and this may leave some of you
wondering how does Trisha Paytas say so oblivious to why the community is
reacting the way it is it seems perfectly clear but it's like she's not
seeing it it makes you wonder how something could be right in front of you
without even realizing it and how could someone who has so many videos being
made about them from members of the trans community still not understand in
this video we're gonna try to get to the bottom of it what is up everybody this
is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
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by now chances are while you're here you know the Trisha Paytas came out as trans
just a couple days ago and there's been a big reaction from the community and
since then she's actually made to follow up videos all right one of them she was
crying in it the next one she titled I'm questioning the one
before that yeah it was an apology video which wasn't really an apology but
anyways if you watch them you're watching these and your looks like how
how is she not understanding how is she not getting why people are so upset with
her and some big creators it's like I mentioned Blair white made a video
Calvin Guerra made a video a bunch of creators have made videos many from the
trans community has made videos and they've garnered an accumulative
hundreds of thousands of views so like we just discussed Trisha Paytas has come
out with not one but two more videos since then and if you watch them it
doesn't really address the valid concerns that the trans community is
actually bringing up so you would think with members of the trans community
discussing this placing their criticisms you would think that Trisha Paytas would
kind of rethink what's going on but she isn't why is that so it's easy to look
at Trisha Paytas and say that was a dumb decision and why would anybody do that
but the reality is all of us make really dumb decisions and honestly if you've
known me for I don't know more than five minutes you know that I am no stranger
to some really dumb decisions all right and something I try to do it's something
I try to teach others is how do we minimize the amount of dumb decisions
that we make all right so one of the awesome books that I picked up a few
months ago when it came out was mental models by Shane Parrish but the most
recent book I finished was thinking in bets from Annie Duke
all right so Annie Duke is a professional poker player but she also
goes out and she talks to different companies and different organizations
and things like to try to help people make better
decisions right like I don't care who you are don't you think if you can make
some better decisions with your life like it would be good like there's none
of us I can't think of one person out there whose life is just so perfect
where they couldn't benefit from making some better decisions all right but one
of the things I love about Annie Dukes book thinking and best is that she dives
into so much psychology in this book and something that she brought up was the
psychology of moral reasoning all right
something I'm always curious about when I'm looking at you know Trisha Paytas
situation if I'm looking at the decisions I'm making when I'm looking at
how people defend their beliefs and there are ideas and don't really see
what's going on I'm like why is that and moral reasoning is actually a fantastic
explanation for and here is a little bit of what it's about this comes from an
article from Psychology Today it says motivated reasoning operates in
much more personal spheres as well for example it is seen as a mechanism people
commonly use to persevere a favorable identity particularly in Western
cultures to maintain positive self-regard people unwittingly discount
unflattering or troubling information that contradicts their self-image
individuals engage in motivated reasoning as a way to avoid or lessen
cognitive dissonance the mental discomfort people experience when
confronted by contradictory information especially on matters that directly
relate to their comfort happiness and mental health rather than re-examining a
contradiction it's much easier to dismiss it so what does that mean
alright motivated reasoning is not a mental illness it is not part of a
mental disorder well it's part of mental health because all of us if you're a few
you struggle with this alright all of us do something that I've really been
trying to pay attention to not only with my videos what I say and my own opinions
but I've been monitoring other people as well and something fascinating is how
many people like to toss around the word objective and things like that right
most everything is subjective unless you're talking about like the laws of
physics but anyways this explains why it's so hard to change our minds about
something this explains why we can look at different situations and say how are
you not seeing what I'm saying based on the psychology of moral reasoning we are
so easy to dismiss the new evidence that is presented to us we're so easy to be
like oh this person's just a hater oh this person doesn't truly understand
what I'm going through all these other things it's so easy for us to zone it
out right we become these magnets for things that confirm our beliefs so if
you want a great example of what this looks like here are some clips from
Trisha Paytas most recent video I should say I should actually say like oh there
was a couple people a lot of even a few emails and ATMs for people who say who
felt the same way I don't I wanted to read them word-for-word but I don't
think it's my place to share other people's stories there were so many
people just one off the bat I just want to read this little paragraph it doesn't
say too much about the person but um identity isn't always clear to us in a
way that would you fully understand or explain sometimes the words don't come
to us in a way that other people can comprehend only we can truly feel the
way that we feel you're correct in saying that people don't always
transition because it's a hard and very depressing thing to do go through I
myself don't think I can and they say fully transition I know that's a lot of
people don't like that term but they say I don't they can fully transition and
even I still like makeup in hair and looking cute and dolled up from time to
time that doesn't necessarily make us women that's just an occasional
preference as far as style and appearance goes it doesn't make that
insight any less valid it will take a lot of time for you slowly to get used
to talking about yourself in a way that isn't how you were raised by that I'm
you know Bo before you even see yourself as a boy
there are times they misgender myself because I'm so used to having to wear
the curly costume that I was given at Birth it's part of your journey and it
doesn't make it any less of what you say you are how you feel so when it feels
like people are against us and we're trying to hold on to our belief with
that kungfu grip we gravitate towards calm our comments towards people who
confirm our beliefs right so in your situation in my situation maybe this is
finding people in our friend groups or in our family that will just agree with
us I know I can relate to this from back in my drug addiction right and which was
potentially fatal because there were a bunch of people I kept around who would
tell me what I was doing was normal and I was a full-blown drug addict and
alcoholic so this is one of the reasons why we need to discuss this and learn
about this because in some situations it can be deadly when we start pushing away
factual evidence right or other points of view just so we surround ourselves
with ideas that already confirm our beliefs and the strangest part is that
we start to really hone in on other things going on in the world and maybe
it's something a complete stranger says that also confirms our beliefs in
talking about these things as important and I'm not victimizing myself but I
think in general we just all need to be more accepting and loving I just watched
the thing on Ellen the other day about her being friends with former President
Bush George shoyu Bush and I just thought that what she said was really
amazing and important and I have it I'm against her I'm sorry so let me just see
if I can play this real quick
people who don't share the same beliefs that I have we're all different and I
think that we've forgotten that that's okay that we're all different just
because I don't agree with someone on everything doesn't mean that I'm not
gonna be friends with them when I say be kind to one another I don't mean only
the people that think the same way that you do I mean be kind to everyone so
like right there right there when you're going through a
certain experience like Trisha Paytas is it's easy to see what Ellen DeGeneres
said and said oh my god this fits perfectly with my experience
like you ever been listening to a song and oh my god it is just fitting
perfectly with what you're going through the way our brains operate is that we
are looking for that we are looking for these connections especially because we
are wired to try to find some kind of connection and this typically happens
when we identify with you know music sometimes movies sometimes TV shows
sometimes books and things like that if we're feeling lonely it's a lot easier
to kind of pick out lyrics or storylines or characters and connect to them right
they understand how we feel all right so the point of this video is you me all of
us we need to start recognizing when moral reasoning is coming into play
is it clouding our judgment is it clouding the decisions that we're making
is it making us oblivious to other points of view you see what I mean all
right anyways that's all I got for this video but before I let you go I just
want to send out a huge thank you to everybody who watches my videos like I
have been happier making content the last I don't know a week or so since I
started doing videos like this and just I love taking what I learned you know
about psychology philosophy and things like that and just kind of intertwining
it with everyday lives and using different things to give context like I
don't know I love it makes me really happy so all of you who've been leaving
like good comments and stuff and you're enjoying this too
maybe it's my motivated reasoning going into it but I really appreciate it and
I'm having a blast and I I'm glad you enjoy it alright anyways that's all I
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