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Many people have a fear of being a failure.
And that is kind of
with us almost all the time.
And then we judge a lot,
and we think we have failed.
But — this is very funny —
most of the time when we think
that it is a failure,
for some people it might be a success.
And some people do not see it as a failure.
So your failure might be
a really successful thing for someone else,
and someone else's successful thing
might be a failure for you.
Of course, all of this depends on
how we label it, how we perceive it,
and how we look at it.
Of course,
at the same time,
we constantly feel like a failure
or like we are not good enough.
And there is a lot of judgment
and guilt. All of this comes together.
So then, we could ask, “What is a real failure?”
Maybe I will tell you a story.
I normally tell this story a lot.
One time, I asked my father
a similar question.
“What if there is
a dead end?”
You might feel like that is the biggest failure.
“If there is no hope,
what should we do?”
And my father
gave me an example.
“If you are going somewhere,
and then you reach a dead end,
and in front of you there is a huge wall there,
how do you cross the wall?”
And he said, “You take out your backpack first
and throw it over to the other side of the wall.”
And then what happens?
Then, normally, we really use our
innate intelligence,
senses, and feelings
to explore different activities.
So he said,
“You need to accept that
you cannot cross this way.
Even if you bang your forehead against the wall,
you will only hurt yourself.
No matter how strong your head is,
you will not be able to break the wall
and cross it like that.
But then there are other ways
to cross the wall.
There are many different ways,
especially when we begin to accept impermanence.
There are a lot of possibilities,
potential, and many things.”
So, the real failure is
if you give up.
But accepting that
you cannot cross one way,
and letting go of that, is not giving up.
So, do not give up!
There is some hope there.
But accept the reality —
if you cannot cross one way, change something.
Try to look for different possibilities,
different doors, and different answers.
The most important thing is that
we have great strength within ourselves.
We have capacities
and skills — all of us!
We all have unique things.
Actually, we are more than
what we believe
about ourselves.
We are amazing, actually.
So, there is hope. Do not give up.
But also
try to explore outside the box,
in different ways.
I think this has really helped me my entire life.
I try that.
When everybody looks in one direction,
at a certain level, I look at something else.
I have always found a solution.
That solution's result is similar,
but it may not be the result of going that first way directly.
So, it is really important that
we try to believe in ourselves.
Of course, sometimes we make mistakes.
But the important thing is
that we can learn from our own mistakes.
Even if we feel like a failure,
we can grow from failure.
We can transform obstacles
and problems.
In the end,
if we use everything
as a friend,
transformation, and support,
there are no real obstacles.
If all the obstacles become opportunities,
then the problem may become a solution.
Thank you.