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before I jump into this Tana mongeau situation really exciting the discord
server is that like over 500 people and we got so many different chats man and
amazing people like if you haven't joined yet you need to get up in there
like we have like specific chats for like eating disorder recovery addiction
recovery trauma just everything people share like there are what are you
waiting for come on in there hang out with us so yeah I don't know what
happened okay like Tristin should I tell them so I told the chain of events that
happened okay here's the chain of events that happened so I'm just chillin making
me in Tristin some dinner oh my god it's like a tana mongeau story time within a
video about her story time what TANACEPTION looking for you through
YouTube to see what we're gonna watch so this videos like getting recommended to
me and it's something about Tana mongeau being in a fight and we click on it and
apparently it's a woman everydaydays who was involved in this situation and I was trying to
follow along with it and it made absolutely no sense so because I'm a
curious guy I went to go see if Tana talked about it and lo and behold Tana
did so as I'm cooking dinner I decided to watch at Animoto video which I don't
watch and this video is not about her fight I could make an entire video about
how ten not a psychic she's just a hot mess
and these things happen to people who act cray-cray but yeah this video is
more about enabling because the inch of this video it got me kind of riled up
the whole first part of her video was her new merch line called cancelled my
new cancelled merch as you guys know for the past month every single day I've
been working so hard on creating the perfect merch capsule not only the
designs and working with up-and-coming artists to make graphics that I love but
making sure every single item is the quality and shape and size and fit of
clothing that i wear every single day but thank you to everyone over the Black
Friday weekend who's already picked these up I did not expect so many of you
guys just like from my Instagram and Twitter to just go right away and buy it
and you guys literally blew me out of the water I haven't seen merch sales
like that in so so long so thank you so much so today today oh you know what
let's talk real quick you didn't think you were gonna click on a video about
Tana mojo and learn about neuroscience did you did you admit it ok so check it
out today we're gonna be talking about enabling we're gonna be talking about
positive and negative reinforcement we're gonna be talking about famous
psychiatrist I'm even gonna give you an amazing book recommendation so anyways
like I was a little upset about this because I know I know she's selling a
ton of much like she talked about how many people are already ordering it
she's pushing her merch I know I know she's selling a ton of it and I turn to
Tristan and I'm like yeah like this is like messed up this is less than a year
less than a year from the Tanic on debacle right like this whole hot mess
you know her screwing this whole thing up you know pointing the finger at
Michael Wiese even though they both screw this thing up and now she's
pushing merch on people like you guys like let's let's talk let's be honest
just me and you real quick there are people who still haven't gotten refunds
yet there are people who flew halfway around the world to go to Tana Khan all
right there are people who were like what am I supposed to do and all sorts
of things did an amazing job doing meetups and
stuff like that while Tana was out partying that night you know but she was
really just you know trying to do damage control or whatever it is
but there are so many people that screwed over by that thing who are now
potentially buying merch all right Mike let that process for a second second
everybody like this is terrible when it comes to reinforcement like I mentioned
this is one of the Jake Paul videos I mention this in a few videos we are the
reason that people like Tana exists okay so let's talk about neural pathways real
quick and the reward center of the brain so there's this beautiful little
chemical inside of each and every one of our brains and it's called dopamine when
we get something that we like we get a little love spritz of dopamine you know
why do you know why it was very important for our evolution because it
told us to do that thing again so there's this guy named dr. Judson Brewer
amazing man and he calls it the habit loop okay so our brains are set up in a
way where there's a trigger a behavior and a reward right so say for example
you get nervous you bite your nails you feel less nervous all right that lays
down a memory so your training your brain for every time you get nervous you
bite your nails and it'll calm you down right but this works for other things
too so Tana mojo screws up she makes a lot
of money her brain is wiring in a way that's
saying okay screw up sell people stuff and that's okay do you see what I mean
like imagine this and this is again this isn't a video for Tana there's a video
for all of you like especially parents out there like imagine imagine my son
imagine my son screwed up maybe he got in trouble at school or something like
that and he never apologized he never corrected any of his behaviors and I
bought him toys I am teaching my son that if he screws up he is going to get
rewarded think about that for a second like
is not good so when it comes to people like Tana or Jay Paul or Logan Paul or
whoever it is we are reinforcing this behavior
this is enabling so I'm real quick-like go check out this book by dr. Judson
Brewer is called the craving mind anybody anybody who's watching this
video you need to get that book he dives into the neuroscience of positive and
negative rewards he's got a lot of extensive research and done brain scans
when it comes to social media when it comes to food addictions when it comes
to smoking when it comes to alcohol and drug addictions like there's so much in
there and he also talks about developing good habits like if you're somebody
who's trying to develop good habits please please do yourself a favor and
get this book the craving mind but anyways back to enabling and this
positive reinforcement like somebody who is an addict this is something that kept
me in my addiction this is why we need to talk about enabling we need to keep
talking about enabling because a lot of you don't understand that you are
enabling people okay so for example in my addiction I was still getting money
from my parents right every time I would call them to borrow money they would
give me money my friends would loan me money my friends would hang out with me
my parents would invite me over all these things so my brain was training
itself in a way this isn't their fault okay this is not their fault but my
brain was training itself in a way saying like Chris it's okay if you keep
screwing up because things are still going well I did not turn my life around
until that stuff stopped all right so I want you to picture a world real quick
where tannaz merch sales went down where tennis subscriber numbers went down
where these things happened do you think do you think because of that negative
reinforcement she might start changing her behaviors because this is an
absolute mess like there's so many things wrong and I've touched
this in other videos but I was telling Tristan so in the YouTube analytics you
can like see your demographics and you can see your age groups and I'm sitting
there watching this I'm like she she knows how young her audience is and the
stuff that she talks about this it's just mind-blowing like I wish I could
see like who the bulk of her audience is but this goes back to a video that I
just made about Eugenia Cooney like as parents you know we need to be better
monitors of like what our children are watching and know who they're watching
what are they watching a for what are they learning and all that kind of stuff
because at the end of the day it is on us as parents you know what I mean but
if I want to do this please please please for the love of God because I was
talking to Tristan about this and I'm just curious how many people like just
let me know in the comments how many people who are 20 years old or older or
subscribe to Tana mojo please let me know in the comments that will help my
research that I do I don't know what kind of research it is but I'm very
curious about that alright anyways anyways let me know down in the comments
below - here's my question for you like have you enabled poor behavior and
somebody before do you think this is a reason why they haven't corrected their
behavior alright let's not the conversation down below alright
but anyways again go check out that book the crave you mine by dr. Judson Brewer
I'm gonna link it down to the comments
below come to our discord server that'll be
down in the comments in the description below but anyways that's all I got if
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