(upbeat music)
- Hey, it's Terri Savelle Foy,
your Cheerleader of Dreams.
Some people may disagree with this video today,
but I'm gonna show you
why you should not tell people your goals.
In fact, I read one of the comments
from someone who goes by the title Miss Queen,
which I love the way she talks.
(Terri laughing)
She wrote,
yo, I was three seconds away from calling my cousin
and telling her what God put in my spirit to start.
Then I saw this video, she said,
wow, thank you, thank you, thank you,
big hugs from Florida.
Well, I want you to watch this video,
and let it inspire you
to make changes in private and let success make the noise.
Watch this.
(upbeat music)
I'm Terri Savelle Foy,
your Cheerleader of Dreams.
I pray that, as you invest in yourself today,
you're captivated and you're catapulted to live your dreams.
Today I wanna tell you
why you shouldn't tell people your goals.
Did you know that scientific research has proven
that telling people about your next big idea
actually robs you of motivation?
So, I just say,
(Terri shushing)
keep your goals and your new habits to yourself.
You may have heard about my new book,
"The Five Things Successful People Do Before 8 a.m."
based on the five morning habits that I started in 2002
that absolutely changed my life.
Now, the reason I'm telling you this is
I had no idea that these were the very habits
the most successful people in the world practiced.
I didn't have a clue.
I just knew I was in a major rut,
life falling apart,
marriage fallen apart,
no vision, no goals, no money,
and I was desperate for change.
Well, I didn't announce to anyone what I was doing.
I just grabbed a calendar,
wrote down five things I would do
for the next 21 days straight.
That was my goal.
And I set the alarm.
I did it the next day,
and the next day.
Well, at the end of 21 days,
I went for a month.
Then I went for two months.
Then it was three months.
Well, that was in 2002,
and you've probably heard me say this,
I haven't stopped.
Well, I always tell people those five habits,
which real quick,
the morning routine of praying,
reading,
listening to messages,
writing my dreams and goals,
and exercising,
those five habits took me from ghostwriting books
for other people
to authoring books.
From attending conferences
to speaking at conferences.
From watching TV for hours
to hosting a TV show.
But, here's the thing.
I didn't tell anyone what I was doing.
But, pretty soon, people saw the changes in me.
They wanted to know,
how do you know this stuff?
Have you lost some weight?
Where did you learn that?
Or they'd say things like,
you're kind of smart.
(Terri laughing)
It was all because I was investing in myself
first thing every morning.
See, what happens is, many times,
when people get excited
about adapting these life-changing habits
and setting goals for themselves,
the first thing thing we wanna do is post it.
I mean, Instagram, look out world,
these five habits are starting Monday morning.
Here are my top five goals.
I got my calendar,
got my book,
got my alarm.
It's the new me, right?
Like I said,
scientific research has proven
that telling people about your next big idea,
it actually robs you of motivation.
Now, the truth is,
here's what happens when you announce
what you plan to do,
even just a small approval from whoever you're talking to
will give you such a feeling of accomplishment,
as if you've already been doing the five habits,
or you've already achieved your goals.
It feels incredible.
Well, then what happens?
You got so much reward from just the big announcement,
that then the actual doing it is no longer exciting.
Doesn't that make sense?
Tests done since 1933 have shown that people
who talk about their intentions are less likely
to make them happen.
In fact, four different tests of 63 people found
that those who kept their intentions private
were more likely to achieve them
than those who made them public
and were just acknowledged by others.
So once you've told people of your intentions,
what happens is it gives you this premature sense
of completeness.
Telling someone it's almost as emotional rewarding
as achieving it.
So instead, I want you to just have the attitude of,
oh, you just wait.
Are you reading Terri's new book?
Do you really think that that's gonna help?
Oh, you just wait.
(Terri laughing)
Did you set goals for this year?
Oh, you just wait.
Do you really think a morning routine can change your life?
Oh, you just wait.
So don't tell anyone what you're planning on doing.
Don't share one detail.
Instead, say absolutely nothing.
And, if you must speak,
just let us know that we should wait and see.
And trust me, people will be talking
about the new you without you having to announce it.
So get your calendar,
start with day one,
do it again the next day,
and the next day,
just practice having accountability
with yourself and with God.
Keep it between you and God.
But I want you to have such positive expectancy
that things are changing in your life.
You may not see it on the outside yet,
but things are changing on the inside,
just wait and see.
And start looking for opportunities each day
to get up and invest in yourself.
I think about David in the Bible.
He killed a lion and he killed a bear in private,
with nobody watching,
but that prepared him to kill Goliath in public
with everybody watching.
So let God prepare you privately behind the scenes,
and trust me,
people are gonna be asking what happened to you?
In a good way.
What are you doing?
How do you know this stuff?
How did you do that?
I love the story of Dwayne Johnson,
also known as the Rock.
(Terri laughing)
He says,
I like this prop,
he says he owes his entire career
to a traumatic experience from his childhood,
when his family was evicted from their apartment
when he was only 14 years old.
He said, he'll never forget the look of despair
on his mom's face when she tried to explain
why he couldn't sleep in his own bed that night.
He had a rough childhood,
he was arrested nine times by the age of 17.
He went through disappointment after disappointment.
As a result,
the Rock says he resolved to change his life forever.
And he said the change began in the weight room.
He didn't make a big announcement.
He just got fixed on a vision.
He said, "in 1995, I had $7 in my pocket,"
and he said, "I knew two things.
Number one, I'm broke.
And number two, one day I won't be."
He looked for opportunities
to grow, to learn, to be the best,
to grow, to learn, to be the best.
The Rock said,
"success isn't overnight,"
he said, "it's when every day you get a little better
than the day before.
It all adds up."
He said, "success isn't about greatness,
it's about consistency.
Consistent hard work gains success,
greatness will come."
So what I'm saying is all this plugging away,
day after day,
it's adding up.
Don't stop. Don't stop. Don't stop.
And he is one of the highest-paid actors in Hollywood.
So, I wanna challenge you.
Don't make the big announcement of what you plan to do.
Just do it.
Every morning when you get up,
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday,
seven days a week,
and it looks like no changes are happening,
the marriage isn't improving,
the promotion hasn't happened,
the publisher doesn't want your book,
the business isn't growing,
the finances look worse,
don't let it faze you,
let it fuel you.
Just smile and think,
oh, you just wait.
Your life is changing on the inside,
and eventually it's gonna show up on the outside.
So, I hope you've enjoyed that today.
I'm telling you from experience,
just wait and see.
So, our YouTube subscriber this week is Julie Sakaris.
I'm saying Sakaris 'cause I speak French,
but it could be Sakaris,
I don't know for sure.
But Julie writes,
"thank you," she said,
"I watch your podcast every time it's on.
I've been through a separation with my husband,
and now we are rebuilding our marriage.
But, meanwhile, I started to read,
have devotions, exercise and write."
That's awesome.
She said, "I started to really focus on myself
to be a better me.
And with God's help,
everything started to change.
Thank you so much for your inspiration."
Julie, that's exactly what I'm saying.
I remember a minister told me that,
when my husband and I separated,
he said, "don't look at Rodney, you work on you."
And Joyce Meyer says,
"God will change your circumstances,
but it'll change you first."
And that's what's happening, Julie.
You are changing on the inside,
and you're getting results on the outside.
So I am cheering you on.
In fact, you've heard me say I changed my routine
and it changed my whole life.
And I know the same will happen for you.
When I go around and speak on this message,
the number one question I get asked is,
Terry, what does your daily routine look like?
Well, if you're just a little bit curious
about what my every day looks like,
I wrote out my morning routine minute by minute.
Now I want you to have my morning routine
so you can just kind of pull the bits and pieces together
that might work for your life,
and then make it your own routine.
So, all you gotta do is click the link in the description
to get a schedule of my personal morning routine.
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