hey lucy here and i've got to ask you
this
do you know the difference between your
child's wants and their needs
because most parents don't and it's for
this reason
that they feed into their children's
wants which results in
doing things for a quiet life giving
into tantrums and
generally ignoring the real problem
while actually
making it worse in the process and you
might find yourself doing this too and i
get it you
just want what's best for your child
like most loving parents and i respect
that
but once you can distinguish a want from
their need
your little one is going to feel so much
more safe
and secure that they can count on you to
not only meet their needs
but also to trust your response to their
wants
you'll have a calmer happier child
who'll quickly respond to your direction
and you'll feel comforted that they're
getting all the best things they need
to thrive
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so in this video you're going to
discover how to respond to once
versus how to respond to needs so that
you confidently meet your little one's
needs without feeling like they can
simply get whatever they want
even when you know that that thing is
bad for them
but before we get into that can you
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and their little ones now let's get into
it so one of the mistakes i see
most quantitations parents make is that
when their little ones wake up in the
middle of the night they assume
it's because of hunger and give them
milk now
don't get me wrong i'm not saying that
sometimes the baby isn't hungry
but where the fatal mistake comes into
play is that
the parent gives the baby milk every
time they wake up in the middle of the
night
the reality is not every time the little
one wakes up
is because of hunger and if your go-to
solution is to give them milk
well eventually they're going to form a
habit of
wanting the milk and they're going to
start waking up consistently in the
middle of the night
expecting and wanting milk
not needing milk that means you the
loving mom are going to be losing sleep
every night for your baby's unnecessary
once
and this means that you're going to find
it much harder the next day
to be in a bright and productive mood
and to give your child your
best attention while juggling the home
and work
and meals and diaries but
could you imagine if you were woken only
for your little one's needs in the
middle of the night
that would mean you could sleep through
or just have one waking
instead of waking up multiple times
every single night
what kind of impact would that have on
how you feel when you wake up
what could you get done that you're
currently too tired to even think about
how much better company would you be and
how much more
joy would you get from a cheerful
well-rested little one by your side
in fact let me tell you about one of our
clients
jenny now her toddler daisy wouldn't go
to sleep without holding her mum's hand
so
every bedtime and any time she wake in
the night she needed mom to come back
to her with the hand jenny was exhausted
she felt
broken during the day and daisy was
often getting
colds and having tantrums or because she
wasn't getting quality sleep
you see daisy wanted mom's hand
but what she needed was to go to sleep
and by giving her what she wanted over
and over was making it worse
and stopping daisy from getting the
sleep she needed
it was hard at first for jenny to change
things she felt mean
but she soon saw the huge benefit
as daisy got better at going to sleep
happily
knowing her mum was close by and daisy
started sleeping through the night
because she didn't need help to get back
to sleep if she stirred
within a matter of days jenny felt like
a new woman
with renewed energy to enjoy daisy
who was like a different child so
refreshed and cheerful
that's the power that comes from being
able to distinguish the difference
between your baby's wants and needs so
now
let's get into the nitty-gritty details
on how you can tell the difference
so let's start by looking at the needs a
baby really
only needs a few simple things from you
your love
of course which comes in many forms so
we'll get into that in more detail in a
moment
they need to be fed they need to be
clean and dry
and they need to be comfortable so when
you put your little one to bed can you
confidently say those needs are met
if not it's not too difficult to address
the need
you see the trick here comes from
preparation
before they go to bed what i do and
recommend you do
is go over the basics and ensure all the
needs mentioned
a few seconds ago are met
so you can do this with some simple
things
some milk a nappy change some winding
make sure they're not too hot not too
cold nice and comfortable then
any further fussing from your little one
is likely to be connected
to a want and that want as mentioned
could be derived from
habit or expectation simply not knowing
any differently
for example if your little one has
always fallen to sleep in your arms
he or she will cry for that to happen
because they want it to happen
and they want it to happen because they
don't know how else to get to sleep
they don't need to be in your arms to
get to sleep
they just need a new strategy for
falling
asleep and that's why i created the
mind your sleep method it's specifically
designed
to walk you through the steps to help
your unique
little one sleep healthfully so if you
want that then
click the link around this video for my
free ebook
and tell me what once does your child
have at bedtime or in the night that you
know
deep down are not true needs
let me know in the comments below with
that being said
i'll catch you next time for another
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episode
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