Hey Dan here and if you are an ENFP thinking about making a big change in
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ENFP, which I am by the way, change is inevitable at some point in your life
there's going to be a big change it could be ending a relationship it could
be starting a new business it could be moving across the country or the world I
have done all of these things as I'm sure many of you have as well and it's
never not scary shall we say but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it and in
this video I want to cover a bit of advice around that the first bit of
advice which really is the biggest is do it now no matter what else occurs it
will always be easier to do it now there's this thing in economics and it
also applies to poker called the sunk cost fallacy which is when we are
committed to something so let's say you've been in school for three years to
get an advanced degree right maybe you're getting a master's degree I don't
know why that would take three years but it is in behavioral economics but around
year one you're like I don't really like behavioral economics at all this sucks
and then my gear to you like yeah but you know it it took so long to apply and
I got accepted and I've spent all this money like I don't want to lose that
let's just stick with it another year and then you're in like year three and
you've still got another year because somehow it's before years master degree
in my made-up scenario here and you're like oh but I've already invested like
two and a half years and there's only a year left and and this is the kind of
thinking that gets people into serious trouble it's also the kind of thinking
that gets people to buy like little collector sets and there's a whole
marketing trick around this where you send people like one part of a 12-part
collection for free and then they're like I have to complete it and they'll
buy the rest different story for another time no it is totally natural that when
you have something scary to do you will put
it off right that's what fear often makes us do avoid whatever it is we are
afraid of and whether it is ending a relationship or moving to another
country or starting a business those things are going to have some level of
fear now in many cases they're going to carry a similar or even bigger level of
excitement and anticipation like yeah I might have to move to Italy and it might
be a little scary but it's also gonna be awesome I'm gonna eat pizza for like
three meals a day so I know when I lived in Italy a gelato for breakfast many
days and somehow lost weight it was amazing but anyhow you are going to have
this fear and that's totally natural the thing is is the longer you wait the more
that sunk cost fallacy keep adding things to your commitment right so if
you're at a job right now and you've been there a year or ten years and
you're like I don't want to do this anymore but you're like I've already put
in some time here and like next year I'll get a raise the longer you stay the
harder it becomes to leave because you have more and more of a commitment now
eventually in my experience you know coaching a lot of ENFP is working with a
lot of people is eventually you will end up leaving because the pain of being in
that job or relationship or living in the place you don't like eventually
becomes too much and you say fine I will do it but the thing is is usually
there's like a year or five years or 20 years wasted in between and the longer
you wait the harder it becomes so you just really end up wasting a lot of time
so that is the beginning here of why you should do it right now the other reason
is that in my experience enfps have an incredible sense of intuition and
whether or not we're able to know ourselves so well and predict the future
or it kind of becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because once we decide
something in our gut we just like make it happen and stick to it
you're the odds are that whatever you're feeling now in terms of the big change
isn't going to change within you so if you're in a
relationship and you've been wanting to get out for a long time you're probably
not going to change your feelings on that a year or two from now if you're
not that happy with your current life situation maybe where you live or what
you do to earn money and you've been wanting to do something different for a
long time you're not gonna wake up in like six months and say you know what
this is call center it ain't so bad they got ergo nama chairs last month they
care this is a pretty good gig not going to happen right so if your gut instinct
if the feeling you have that's pushing you to want to change isn't going
anywhere then why not act on it now you might be thinking that I've spoken in
other videos about shiny object syndrome and how in a piece change direction way
too much and not to be doing that and I want to just you know differentiate
between these two things right one is when we're into something that we really
are meant to be doing so let's say you start a business and it's aligned with
who you are and what you enjoy and you're six months or a year into it and
because it's getting tough and because you're a bit afraid shiny object
syndrome comes in and you feel like you want to quit or change direction that's
bad that is making a change because of like
either fear or just not knowing how long success takes or something seeming
easier and not being willing to commit to that hard part and I'm gonna talk a
bit about that in a second as well that is not a good thing what I'm talking
about is when you know in your heart of heart and maybe you verify it with like
a friend or coach or someone but you know the path you're on is not the right
one for you and you're letting fear keep you in it that's what I'm talking about
here in either case one of the things that's really important to understand is
it's going to be a bit hard at the beginning I'm gonna use the example of
starting your own business here because it's just part of my world and an easy
one for me to talk about your first couple years of business can be really
exciting that can be fun they can be just a total adrenaline kick
like a lot of billionaires have said that they missed the early
stages of their companies when it was challenging and scary every day and all
that kind of stuff so it can be really awesome but it's also gonna be tough and
you are going to need to sacrifice if you're thinking of starting your own
business and you're like yeah so I currently earn $10,000 at my job and a
month let's say and I'm going to start this entrepreneur thing and I'm gonna
earn $20,000 in three months and upgrade my lifestyle and probably not the case
you know prove me wrong and some people do transition really quickly but usually
you are gonna take a bit of an income hit for your first year or two when you
work for yourself and you're also going to have to probably put in a lot of
hours go through some stressful situations all that now you ask me it is
completely and absolutely worth it but sometimes people don't expect this and
so this leads to a couple things is one someone will say quit their job and
start a business and it's really hard at first and they're like well if it was
hard it must not be what I'm supposed to do so I guess I'm not meant to be an
entrepreneur and I'll go back and I'll quit and I will go back to being an
employee not the best thing you know cuz it's really a misunderstanding it's
supposed to be hard when you start out now the other point I want to address is
from is if you are aware of this and you're in kind of a cushy job that you
do not like get is sucking up your soul but you're in this job and you're
thinking of making a change just like yeah but it's gonna suck for a couple
years and I don't really want to deal with that and I'll do it
later maybe in a few years it'll be worth it but I'm really comfortable now
and you know that's fine it will never get easier it goes back to the beginning
of this video right the longer you stay in your current position the more you'll
get used to your lifestyle the more you'll get used to that position and
you'll have the sunk cost element going on as well where you're just like I put
in all this time and so yes it's gonna be a bit hard maybe the first couple
years but it is totally worth that sacrifice and it is better to make that
sacrifice as young as possible and make that transition then doing it later in
life when you're going to have less time the backend of it to prosper from all
your you know success if you start a business at sixty versus thirty you can
succeed in both ends in fact I work with people you know in their fifties and
sixties starting businesses or who have successful businesses and you can
totally do it and you'll probably have some really good results because you
have all this life experience and discipline and that built up already but
ideally it would be better to do that when you're like 25 and then you build a
successful business and then you have your whole life to enjoy the freedom and
the fruits of this business you've created so long-winded long story short
here whatever that big decision you're thinking of making do it now it's always
going to be tough but the sooner you do it the better off you will be and the
more time you will have to reap the rewards of your courageous gutsy
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