hey everybody happy Monday um today I'm
doing something a little different
because something came up on the
internet and I'm sure that you've heard
about it um but a girl named Nicole
Arbor put up a video called dear fat
people and it was really offensive and
before I even get to start talking about
it I want to let you all know that the
last thing that I would tell you to do
or the last thing I'd want you to do is
to go over to her Channel or find her on
social media and spread hate because
even though I don't agree with this
video at all I think it's really
offensive I don't necessarily think that
she's a terrible human and deserves to
get a bunch of hate because at the end
of the day she's a comedian and
comedians are offensive and I just
really don't agree with this one video I
don't know her personally therefore I'm
not going to attack her personally but I
did want to take some time to talk about
the video because I'm sure many of you
have seen it and if you haven't I would
encourage you not to watch it because
it's actually not anything positive it's
she's a comedian like I said and she's
talking poorly about people who are
obese and she does take the time to for
briefly say like but some people have
you know medical conditions and things
that cause them to be heavy but the ones
that I'm talking about and this is where
I have the biggest problem the people
that she's talking about the fat people
she's addressing in this video are
people who just like to eat a lot and
overeat and that's
it it's like that person doesn't exist
that's like calling a person you're like
looking for the one unicorn of something
that they have no emotional distress
they have no stress in their life or
depression or all the other things that
we talk about that can lead to binge
eating disorder to cause you to be obese
or to cause you to overeat day after day
she doesn't talk about any of those
things as if they don't exist and as if
the only reason that they're overeating
is because they enjoy
food we I enjoy food a lot of people
enjoy food it really frustrated me that
she didn't address the emotional
component of it and thinks that all
people who are obese do it by choice and
that it's just a choice that they make
and so if we fat shame them this is the
whole point of our video if we fat shame
them enough that they will stop their
unhealthy Behavior we're actually doing
them a favor and so she's kind of
promoting fat shaming um and so
obviously I 110% disagree with what
she's saying um but I wanted to put up
this video because I think it's
important to remember that a she is a
comedian she's not a professional in any
capacity comedians do things that are
offensive they say things to stir us up
um and they try to you know they make uh
blonde jokes they make black people
jokes they make Jewish people jokes they
make all sorts of jokes that are
offensive and this is just another one
of those and so I would encourage all of
you to not watch it to not engage in the
negativity associated with it and to
remember that we all
know why people become obese and what
emotional components can be part of that
not to mention medical issues and other
things that are going on but a lot of
people that I work with in my private
practice and who watched my videos know
that you know it can be caused by
traumas it can be caused by depression
anxiety OCD it can be part of a lot of
things to self soothe or to numb out
overeating doesn't happen in a vacuum
it's not just because we like food and
so please share this video to stop
anybody else from promoting potentially
that fat shaming someone can make them
stop eating and that's what the goal is
because I think that instead of saying
that we should encourage those in Our
Lives who we know are suffering who are
struggling to reach out and get
professional help because it can get
better and we can stop overeating to
soothe whatever it is that we're doing
it for there's a lot more to this than
what that video is about so like I said
don't watch it don't engage it'll just
make you feel worse and I find that if I
engage in negative comments and negative
behavior I just end up feeling more
negative and the hope is that we spread
more positivity so like this video if
you like it share it so that we can
share something that's actually accurate
and positive um so that this whole fat
shaming to make people stop eating thing
just halts before it even began I love
you all have a wonderful week and I'll
see you on Thursday