hello in this video i'm going to explain why you can't overcome the fear of driving
on your own even though you're the only person that has the solution so this is a bit of a
funny paradox how can you not be able to fix it by yourself despite the fact that you're
the only person in the world that knows the answer well let me explain more when you have a problem
in your life whether this is a fear a phobia some kind of anxiety it's because you've given yourself
that problem for the reason which is normally for some kind of protection you may have been in a bad
car crash and then later on you developed driving anxiety now it's not quite that simple and i've
been over this in other videos about how the crash itself doesn't cause the anxiety but we won't get
into that for now what we're looking at is how come even if you've caused that problem yourself
and even if you've given yourself this issue why can't you fix it on your own
well it's simply because you are too much stuck in the problem to see what the solution is
you may have heard the popular saying i can't see the wood for the trees and it comes from a sort
of funny story where someone is in the middle of the forest and they're looking around in the same
i can't see the forest all i can see is all these trees and they're blocking my
view of the forest well of course the trees are the forest but this person is so stuck
in that problem they can't see the answer despite it being right there in front of them so this is
why you need professional help when you want to overcome the problem the interesting thing is
that it doesn't matter how good you are therapy and how much you understand it you still can't fix
your own problems and i am testament to that because at the time of recording this video
i'm currently going through therapy myself and it's nothing to be ashamed of this is not some
stigma like it used to be it's actually become quite trendy and in vogue to have a therapist
and people actually like to boast about oh i've got my own therapist it's actually quite a trendy
thing to do isn't that funny how even though i know exactly how it works and i know what the
therapist is doing and i know all the stuff that's going on but i still can't fix my own problem
because i am too much stuck in my own problem and when somebody else steps in to help you
very quickly you can unravel the problem and get the solution because sometimes all it takes is
for them to say well what about this and you think oh i never thought that before and then they might
say well what about this and you start to get all these realizations about things that you've never
had before but you won't get those on your own you just can't do it doesn't matter how good you are
how much you know you can't do therapy on yourself so what about youtube videos because people often
ask me do youtube videos work do they do anything well i've got a page on my website which i've
written about this but when you read that page it will slowly bit by bit explain why youtube videos
can't get rid of a problem okay it just doesn't work even though some people
may have success there are always going to be people that can get success from them that's great
they've got a result brilliant but often it's not actually a proper result it's just a bit of a
fake result where they think something's changed and it hasn't so the real problem remains but they
just think they've got rid of it because they've listened to a video it's a bit of a confidence
trick real therapy is not a confidence trick real therapy digs down gets to the root of the problem
and fixes it check out these other videos on the screen now for more help with driving anxiety
and if you'd like to work with me one to one to overcome your problems just contact me through
my website 1stdrive.com thanks for watching and i'll see you again soon for more videos