As a Type A achiever, I used to struggle with this a lot.
Where I struggle with just feeling happy
and finding happiness because you're always
achieving all the time
and you set a goal, when you achieve it, you automatically,
how many of you do this?
Comment below.
You set this big huge goal, you accomplish it and thought,
"you know what, that would bring me happiness",
the minute you achieve it, you know what, that's it,
let me set another goal.
You don't even take the time to take a break
and catch a breath and celebrate maybe for one hour
or something like, "yeah, good", okay moving on.
That's the type A go-getter achiever mentality, right.
If that's you, comment below.
It's a very, very interesting topic because I thought that
happiness is a destination, that if I get to some place,
I make certain amount of money, if I own
certain amount of things, then I would be happy.
Then I realized as I'm now older a little bit more mature
and a little bit wiser that happiness is not something
that you seek, it's something that's already within you.
But a lot of time, we are blocking it.
So, you think about why people are depressed,
why people are unhappy, usually it's because
when their expectation,
'cause you have a certain expectation of how your life
should look like, where you should be by this point
and your reality.
When your expectation and your reality,
when they don't match up, you get depressed.
You feel very, very unhappy because this is where you are,
this is where you think you should be.
And the bigger this gap, the more unhappy you are.
So, to be happier, you could do two things.
You can either lower your expectation,
so that your gap is not as large.
Example, you wanna make a billion dollars and you're making
now $1,000 a month.
Well, you will feel very unhappy, very, very much unhappy
because if this is where I should be
and this is where I'm at.
Well, you can lower your expectation,
"Oh, he's 100 bucks."
You lower expectation, "now I'm gonna make a $102."
Now you're making a 100.
Okay, now you're not so back.
It's like I'm showing up for $2, right.
That's okay, so you can lower expectation,
which is what you can do or you can now change your reality.
How you can shorten the gap, that's what an achiever does.
How do you match?
How could you push and challenge your reality
to match to your expectation?
You could do that or the other way to look at it is this,
where you are now trying to be happy through achievement
which I did that, not a smart thing to do, but some of you,
you still need to go through that.
You may not get what I'm talking about
or you do get what I'm talking about.
I tried it for a number of years.
Working, hustling, doing whatever it takes,
just all the work, work, work, work, work.
It's about me, not about other people.
I was egotistical, arrogant, greedy, selfish
because I want to shorten the gap.
Funny thing is when I found out, you know what, life is not
just about happiness.
Life is also about fulfillment and meaning.
When I strive for meaning and fulfillment
where I am grateful
and gratitude is something you don't work on every day.
I'm gonna put a link here and there
where you can also listen to my add a good gratitude,
my morning ritual.
That's what I listen to every single morning.
It's free on YouTube, but I'll put a link here.
When I start the day with attitude or gratitude
coming from a place of giving, coming from a place of love,
coming from a place of I have enough, right.
I have enough, because whatever your goal is, you're getting
the same thing, but just more, right.
You have one car, you want two cars, you want three cars,
but it's the same thing.
If you're not grateful, you don't appreciate
what you have now, you're not gonna appreciate
what you'll get then.
So, I am grateful with what I have, I start with that,
while achieving what I want, right.
I'm grateful with what I have while achieving
what I want next.
When I start from this place, I just find that
I'm much happier, like today, I'm a happy guy,
believe me, right.
There is a sense of purpose that changes everything,
that I'm fulfilled, I can see my students
having their success, creating a new life and seeing their
progress, seeing their growth,
I get a tremendous amount of fulfillment.
And if I'm there, I'm naturally happy.
I don't need to work on, "oh, I need to be happy,
what do I need to take to be happy?"
No, I'm like, when you forget that, you just be,
you just enjoy the moment and you're doing what you love
and you're living life on your own terms
and you're naturally, not forcefully, but you're naturally
bridging that gap, then you are a happy person.
It's a very good question, by the way.
If you have more questions about this type of,
just even my philosophy or my thinking on
some of these things, comment below.
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