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Hey I'm Terri Savelle Foy.
Thank you so much for watching today.
I want to talk to you about the five easy ways to build your self-esteem.
You know years ago when I was going through such a hard time, had such poor self-esteem,
low self-image even a root of rejection in my life,
I remember hearing this minister make this statement.
They said “God will change your circumstances but he'll change you first”.
And I remember thinking, but I want everything around me to change.
Then I heard this statement,
“Things will never be right around you until they’re first right in you”.
See the whole thing is God needs you to be healed,
he needs you to be made whole, he needs your shoulders back and your head up
so that you have confidence and positive self-esteem to go after the dreams in your heart.
See all of this is about preparing you for something bigger than you even realize.
And then I began to realize for myself that God can't use you publicly until you get victory privately
in those areas where maybe you suffer from a poor self-image.
You know you might even wonder well how do you know if you have a poor self-image?
Or what causes a poor self-image?
Well it can be anything from damaging words that have been spoken over you
by parents, by an ex-spouse, a coach, a boss, co-workers, siblings
It can be being violated, being raped, abuse
you know physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse.
It can be a list of things that damage our self-esteem and cause us
to feel so low on the inside, but it affects everything in our lives.
Well here's the thing, the devil knows that.
He will use any circumstance he can to instill in you a poor self-image.
Why? So you never walk out the plan of God for your life,
you feel bad about yourself, you don't feel like you're as good enough,
You don't feel qualified. He wants your head down.
So we have to do certain things that I believe will boost your self-esteem
and give you that confidence to go out and do what God puts you on this earth to do, right?
So I want to share with you five easy ways that will help you improve your self-esteem.
Number one is be grateful.
Now do you know that it's scientifically proven that when you express gratitude
it actually builds your confidence? Isn’t that crazy?
But see here's what happens, it forces you to get your mind off of your negative circumstances.
You get your mind off of the negative environment, the life that you're living,
it causes you to put more emphasis on what you have to be grateful for
and what you're thankful for.
It builds your confidence and your self-esteem in the process.
It's amazing how that works, and I want to give you this challenge.
Go 24 hours without complaining, don't complain about your life, don't complain about your body
don't complain about your hair, or your aging, don't complain about the weather, how you slept
how tired you are, how much you have to do, don't complain.
Just that alone will drastically change the way you feel about yourself.
And then kick it up a notch by you know, get a gratitude journal.
We have them on our website, but you can just get a pen and paper
and just make yourself think of things that you have to be grateful for.
You know every morning just jotting like three to five things down
it forces you to just look around and go "I have a lot to be grateful for. "
This is an easy way to boost your self-esteem.
Number two is be a blessing.
Do you know that when you put a smile on someone else's face it actually puts a smile on your face?
See here's the thing about a poor self-image and low self-esteem, it makes you self-conscious.
Well when you're self-conscious, you're conscious of yourself.
That means you're putting all this focus on yourself.
Well when you get yourself off your mind and you look for an opportunity
to be a blessing to someone else, it actually builds your confidence in the process.
You know you think about it, go to a women's shelter, or a homeless shelter
or go to a nursing home, go to a safe house you know where young girls have been rescued
from prostitution and human trafficking.
You know I did that and we support girls like that.
And being in that home and listening to their stories, their heart-wrenching stories
you hear young girls saying that they've been drugged, they've been raped
their bodies have been sold for money and for drugs.
You can't hear a story like that and then leave going
“Oh my gosh I look so overweight, I feel fat”.
No you're thinking "oh my gosh I have nothing to complain about".
You know go to a nursing home and decorate an elderly person's room for them.
Take them a fresh plant that they can take care of.
When you get yourself off your mind and you look for an opportunity
to be a blessing to someone else, it not only builds you up,
but it brings honor to God.
So that's another easy thing that we can do.
Number three is be proactive.
I want to challenge you to do one thing that you've been procrastinating on
in fact I read where the word procrastinate
pro means for and the cras part means tomorrow.
In other words we keep putting things off to tomorrow.
But you know every time that you prolong things,
it diminishes your confidence.
So pick one thing that you keep delaying and putting off,
it could be a simple thing it doesn't have to be big things.
It could be call your grandma, or go get your teeth cleaned
or you know vacuum that room, or make that scrapbook
or you know return that item that's in the back of your car that you've been driving around with for three weeks.
Okay just something that you've been putting off
do one thing that you've been procrastinating on and I'm telling you
it builds your confidence every time you achieve a goal, big or small.
Number four is be positive.
You know your mind is your greatest enemy or your greatest asset.
And when you fill your mind with positive things, your life will start to change.
But it has to be intentional, it has to be strategic.
In fact you know Proverbs tells us that as a man thinks in his heart so is he.
So what you think about you bring about.
Well when you start thinking on the Word of God and you start filling your mind with positive input
then you're going to start to agree with it.
You’re going to start saying “I am qualified, confident, courageous.
I am a child of the Most High God.
I am highly favored of God. God is working behind the scenes in my life.”
That's how you start changing all that negative input to positive input.
And number five is be intentional about what you listen to.
This affects number four.
When you start listening to God's truth, it starts to override all of Satan's lies.
See, he's been lying for all these years telling you you're not worthy
you're not good enough, you're not smart enough, you're not thin enough
You're not rich enough. Whatever it is, you have to proactively
override all those lies with God's truth.
So I want to encourage you don't just leave the TV on for hours
or the radio just to have noise on in the background.
I mean strategically choose to hear God's Word, that's why I tell you subscribe to this podcast
So that way you're intentionally listening to the Word of God.
You're listening to the truth and it's going to push all those lies away
So do that on purpose not by accident, do it on purpose.
And you know you may have heard this phrase before
“That what you fail to master will eventually master you”.
Don't let a negative self-image, poor self-esteem don't let that master you in your life.
Remember God will change your circumstances, but he'll change you first.
So those are five easy “be’s” that you can apply in your life.
I mean starting today, you can start putting those in place.
And I'm believing that you're going to build your self-image and your self-esteem
is going to go to a whole new level, so you can walk out God's plan for your life.
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Thanks for watching I'll see you next week.
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