hello lovelies welcome to narc free formula my name is freedom thank you for joining me um
today's episode is about when will the narcissist leave you or what makes the narcissist leave you
now this video has been inspired by one of my private clients who in her um
in her infinite wisdom decided to use all of the information that she had about narcissists uh to
essentially try and play the narcissist so what i mean by that she really wanted to be with the
narcissist despite the fact that he triangulated her he had um you know discarded her and gone off
with another woman um so she did everything so using like i said using the information
that she had gained from myself and other channels and other sources of information
about narcissists she used that information to try and be his you know ideal woman essentially
so she you know dressed the way he liked acted the way he liked she gave him the sex that he liked
she didn't you know she didn't hassle him she didn't demand anything of him
she didn't call him out on any of his bad behavior she let it all go she was being
what you know she imagined is you know prime primary you know grade a supply but the thing is
did it go to plan no it didn't go to plan um so let's just talk about this let's talk about you
know what actually makes the narcissist leave you and um you know for those of you who are
still trying to keep them happy you know just know that essentially it really doesn't matter what you
do how you play it what you say how you act if you call them out on things if you don't call them out
on things you know if you let everything slide if you give them all that everything they ever want
like it really doesn't matter at the end of the day the outcomes are always going to be the same
because the the one key thing you need to remember is are opportunists so if the opportunity arrives
for them to replace you right then they will take that opportunity so there's a few things
that will kind of trigger a narcissist into you know looking for new supply but essentially at the
end of the day like i said they just you know they're just chronically bored they're always
looking for something that's going to fix the way they feel you know they're looking for something
that's going to fill them essentially you know that emptiness that they feel inside themselves
so and each new thing that they find you know it's like when they when they come across new
supply they get so excited and so high about the whole thing and then after time they realized that
oh i still actually feel the same this emptiness is still here this new thing isn't exactly what i
thought it was you know hey maybe it's not even as good as what i had before and they become
you know they're just miserable they're miserable people so they then will be
looking for other sources of supply but as i said whether or not they actually have the opportunity
to get someone into a position of you know replacing you as the primary source of supply
is you know that's another thing altogether all right so there's a couple of the things um
that will trigger the narcissist to leave you so when you figure out who they are so that's
a really important thing because you know a lot of what's going on with the narcissist
is a mask an illusion a false construct a false facade they pretend to be someone that they're
not they make up a character so like an actor playing a role you know they they are literally
morphing their personality their characteristics into a version of self that is compatible with you
which is why they change with all their different supply sources you know so when they're around
the new supply totally different to the way they are with you you know when they're around their
secondary sources of supply or other people in the nightcare same thing personality changes
so once you realize that you're dealing with a narcissist or once you start kind of calling them
out on their behavior you know this signals to the narcissist that you're catching on and they know
that it's only a matter of time so that once you start catching on you know there's a certain you
know progression of what will actually take place so this has triggered them to then realize that
in x amount of time you'll be leaving you know or they'll be you know things will be changing and so
they in turn need to source new supply so there's that there's also you know they will also um
leave you or you know attempt to leave you when you start needing equality in the relationship
so just say something's happened where you actually need them to step up to the plate
you know to be equal to treat you with respect and to be fair um you know so for example
you get sick that's usually one thing that will get analysis to leave you pretty quick
you know if you're sick if there's something that's going on there's some kind of crisis
that's going on in your home or within you um the nurses will start looking elsewhere because they
don't like um you know not being the center of attention they don't like you asking for them to
do things or you know for them to have to you know live up to a certain standard they don't like that
sure they're happy to act a certain way if it you know if they're going to get kind of kudos
and praise and people watching them saying oh what a good bloke he is but when that's not happening
when people aren't actually paying attention and the real slog of looking after a sick person
you know occurs or you know um like i said some kind of crisis where there's no audience there's
no one kind of cheering them on and rewarding and you know no fuel for them that in itself
makes the narcissist like i said need to source new supply all right also if another person so
if you have a child or another family member gets sick or you know there's some something that they
need you know that family member needs you the narcissist gets hugely butt injured over anyone
else being the center of your attention you know and they actually get jealous so they get jealous
of children even newborn babies you know even though sure like i said once again they proudly
show them off and strut around the neighborhood and get all the oohs and ours from the you know
the ladies down the shop or whatever but the reality is when it comes to the you know the
the fact of you looking after another person that is not them the narcissist gets jealous
they don't like that it you know it makes them feel uh this emptiness you know this emptiness
that they're trying to avoid right so that in itself is another trigger um and as i said it's
you know this can be a lot of things like that you know that it's the normal things that bring
um that happen in life that bring other couples together stronger something you know if you don't
if it doesn't break you it makes you stronger as a couple well narcissists often don't um
they often don't survive those kind of situations essentially because they are like i said they are
all about them their needs their wants them than them and if it's not about them then they get
annoyed and they start sourcing new supply whether or not that supplier is good enough to replace you
like i said that really depends on essentially fate and opportunity but if the narcissist
does have the opportunity and they're very opportunistic you know they will take advantage of
that so getting back to my friend who like said did everything she could to be his ideal woman
um to not trigger him to not do anything you know not cause any narcissistic injury like you know
she did her very best to make him happy and he still did the exact same thing
to her that he did the time before the exact same thing so remember that it's it's not about
you it's not about you what you do it's about the narcissist it's about them their patterns
of behavior their personality disorder you know it's essentially their personality is disordered
they don't um do things or do relationships or do life the way us non-disordered folk
do right so it's always going to be the same no matter how you try and play it
the best thing that you can do is just get your head around that and realize that there's no way
to win with a narcissist there's never a happy ending with a narcissist there may be a temporary
one and look sure someone's going to get holding the hot potato at the end of the day gentlemen
that's a game that kids play you know hopped out and you pass it on and then the music stops and
whoever's holding the hot potato you know he's the winner whatever so sure you know we're all
aging and someone will be the the winner you know holding the hot potato the narcissist at the end
you know as they get old and die does that mean you know that they won does it mean that they were
happy uh no we know that like we know that that a relationship with a narcissist is never going
to be satisfying it's always going to be that same cycle you know of you know putting on a pedestal
and knocking you off you know and you're always going to be like i said trying to figure them out
trying to work out their behavior trying to figure out what you've done wrong like it's just not a
life for anyone it really really isn't um all right darlings i think that's about it you know
and for my sweet sweet girl who um who has inspired this video you know she has more worth
than she realizes um and i wish her all the very best with any crazy decisions that
she makes one way or the other all right darling darlings thanks for listening bye