this morning as I was uploading my first video I was I was born I was on Twitter
and I said you have this wonderful debate with a lovely young woman over on
Twitter so I was like you know what that actually inspires me to make a video
discussing the psychology of being a stand what is up everybody this is Chris
from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
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week alright so let's start this video what is a stand so let me break it down
for you because I know not all of you out there are hip with the kids lingo
these days like I am I got to do YouTube my friend had to explain to me a bike
what what is this stand thing that everybody's talking about so yeah
basically Eminem wrote a song called Stan and it's about like this obsessive
fan I think it's a little kooky right so anyways it's kind of like the slang
turned if you're a fan of somebody like to the next level you've all right Stan
so basically yeah this morning um I usually I usually don't have back in
force with people like something I do to maintain my mental health I usually do
like one reply maybe two and I'm back out of there right but I saw a
back-and-forth going on Twitter about my content so I decided to jump on up in
the mix because I was bored my video about girl to find in anxiety was
uploading so I decided to have this back and forth and so this young woman was
talking about my content and how it's wrong and all these other things and
asking a question I looked at her Twitter feed and kind of saw you know
what she was about and I'm like okay let me ask you this question and she
basically explained you know the difference between myself and PewDiePie
is that PewDiePie uses credible resources I'm like oh oh okay now I
understand now I understand and it made me start thinking about confirmation
bias in the psychology behind it because it's very important to understand that
because we make a lot of decisions and we see certain things or hear certain
things based on stuff that's happening and we don't even realize that it's
happening so real quick and yet if you asked me for book recommendations which
I absolutely love down in the description below I always
have a link to my full mental health reading list and I do little book plugs
throughout different videos to just kind of show you where I learn all this great
information so real quick let's talk about this book right here it's called
the craving mind by dr. Judson Brewer amazing amazing dude so I actually
talked to them and worked on some projects with him when I was working out
the rehab to trying to take some of his habit loop methods and mindfulness and I
teach it to my clients and he wrote this book called the crazy mind it's an
excellent book I highly suggest you read it it talks about just how we develop
bad habits you know and get out of that and develop good habits and there's a
lot a lot of neuroscience in it so not only is he a psychologist but he's also
a neuroscientist as well so he does a lot of brain scans to see how different
forms of like meditation or mindfulness or psychology actually affect our brain
anyways there's a story that he talks about with confirmation bias in the
craving mind so dr. Judson Brewer he likes to do like mountain bike riding
right and he absolutely loved Lance Armstrong he loved Lance Armstrong know
he stand Lance Armstrong so he has a story in there about how he was in
college and human like skip class or whatever it was to watch the Tour de
France so watch his boy Lance Armstrong do work
right and he's watching watching did the allegations start coming out that Lance
Armstrong was using steroids and he was like no absolutely not
they're just haters they don't get it Lance Armstrong is just the best rider
out there they don't understand they don't get it then evidence
he's like no forget that right so he's neglecting to see the evidence because
of how much he loves Lance Armstrong but then he shows about how Lance Armstrong
went on Oprah Winfrey Show and Lance Armstrong came out and he said yes I was
using performance-enhancing drugs in the Tour de France and because dr. Judson
Brewer was being mindful he noticed this conflict in his head because even though
he heard Lance Armstrong speaking these words out of his mouth he still didn't
want to believe it now think about that real quick think about what what we do
or what we think when we love somebody's content here on YouTube we completely
neglect the reality of the situation because of our fandom because of our
love for them because we connect to them and relate to them so so so much now why
is that well let's look at another book called the moral landscape by Sam Harris
for those of you don't know sam Harris he's a little bit of a philosopher he's
also a neuroscientist but he is one of the few people who has actually done
neurological studies on the science of beliefs so why is that why do we refuse
to change our opinion about people even when we're presented with evidence well
the Sam Harris and other scientists found out was that our beliefs are tied
into the part of the brain that is responsible for ownership right when we
have something when we own something when I say this is my cellphone my brain
connects with that right so it feels good to own things it feels good to have
things but what they found out in these studies is when a belief is challenged
you actually start to get signals to your brain that are responsible for pain
it actually hurts when people try to change our beliefs right so think about
that for a second so when we are out here standing different creators and
things like that think about the delusions that our mind
starts making up and just it completely
disconnects from reality we are hearing truths about people or we're choosing to
see what we want to see we're choosing to hear what we want to hear all because
of confirmation bias right so this is why we're always taught never judge a
book by its cover you know what I mean so people say first
impressions are the most important right when you think of first impression you
think is when you shake hands you greet somebody for the first time that you
have that first conversation no no no no you are judging that person the second
that you see them why do you think I left so much stuff roll off my shoulders
some people might look at my thumbnail and be like I don't like bearded fat
guys I just don't you know what I'd be hit without even clicking on my content
or getting to know it and that's totally cool so one of the reasons why I learned
so much about psychology and mental health and the brain is look as helps me
cope with the world around me so so so much when I see people who are for or
against my content whatever it is I try to take a step back and understand what
different processes are going on in their brain that might make them think a
certain way so and I surprised that I just stands from other creators coming
in and absolutely trashing my content of course not because I know I am
challenging their beliefs about someone who they watch right so going back to
the PewDiePie analogy I asked this person I said okay so what do you see
the difference between my content and pew news on PewDiePie and the answer was
was that PewDiePie actually cites sources and that's what I'm like oh okay
right so again when we are sitting in our confirmation bias and not being
mindful of where our brains going we choose to see what we want to see we
choose to hear what we want to hear right I have about 700 videos on this
channel right this is why I also don't mind but people say this is a drama
channel I would I would challenge anybody out there to find me one drama
channel who implements psychology and neuroscience we're talking about
youtubers don't worry I'll wait but I understand that when people are looking
at my content they completely neglect those things for example I've had plenty
of people to my channel and say that I diagnosed
people again I would challenge people to find me one video where I've diagnosed
somebody other people come to my channel and they say that I claim to be an
expert I would challenge people to find me one video where I claim to be an
expert one of the things that I often promote on my channel and those of you
who are loyal rewired soldiers out there you know that I'm just trying to get you
to get to a moment where you're like oh crap maybe I need to start working on
this oh crap maybe I need to go see a licensed professional oh crap kris has
never claimed to be a licensed professional and he doesn't even know me
so maybe I should go talk to somebody to say yo maybe I need some help with this
situation but the whole stand culture is something that worries me as well like I
always try to teach you guys keep people around who tell you what you need to
hear not what you want to hear I don't want any of my viewers out there to
blindly follow me you guys I'm human I could screw up
well I often taught my clients and treatment is don't put all of your eggs
in my basket because I am a recovering drug addict an alcoholic who lives in
Las Vegas I am one or two bad decisions away from completely destroying my life
right and imagine let's just say let's say hypothetically what if that happen
would you stand by my side would you justify my behavior if I screw up I want
you to call me out like we wonder why different youtubers and celebrities get
so egotistical is because they're surrounded by these stands who play into
everything that they say right I brought this up in a few other videos but
something that freaked me out to no end was when Logan Paul went to that forest
in Japan he made his apology he told the Loghain
to not stick up for him and they were basically like screw you Logan no game
for life we're gonna stick up for you anyways like what what so if I screw up
massively I want you guys to call me out on it feel free to cancel me if you want
if I don't make a sincere apology do your thing baby
because I am too I am a human just like everybody else and I don't want you to
play in the confirmation bias with me now something else that I get is that
when people say oh you can't take criticism now there there's something
that we need to discuss which is that there's a huge difference but
not taking criticism and disagreeing with somebody all right for example
somebody can tell me Chris your content sucks and I could say I disagree with
that if they say I can't take criticism that's a little different right
but that is an entirely different video because we all need to find this balance
between taking criticism and just disagreeing with somebody in fact if
you're not signed up for my mailing list go ahead and sign up right now because
I'm actually gonna write an email about that I just thought about that
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list I'm gonna talk about finding the balance between taking criticism and
evaluating the criticism and having the ability to disagree with somebody all
right but let me know down in the comments below have you fallen into this
confirmation bias like the story I told about dr. Judson Brewer where you stand
somebody so much that you refuse to see anything negative about them has that
ever happened let me know down in the comments I would love to have a
conversation about it alright anyways that's all I got for this video if you
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