so much like millions of other people I just finished watching Dave Chappelle's
helotes new stand-up special on Netflix called sticks and stones but I saw
Twitter was blowing up because apparently someone advice got really
offended and we need to talk about it
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired so where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to
do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community or pop culture and
try to see what lessons we can learn from them to improve our own mental and
emotional well-being so if you're into that stuff makes you subscribe and ring
that notification bow and yeah we're going to be talking about capsule
culture outraged culture and just sticks and stones can't break your bones baby
but anyways for those of you who don't know I recently wrote a book called
cancelled inside YouTube canceled culture it's a book specifically about
canceled culture within YouTube and people freaking out over very trivial
things the book is available for free in the eBook version until the end of the
month alright so you got like five more days or so spend down in the pen comment
as well as in the description down below if you want to check that out if you are
against canceled culture and people being outraged over ridiculous stuff
you're gonna love that book alright so yeah anyways um before I get started for
those of you who have not watched Dave Chappelle's newsstand special there's
gonna be some spoilers in here so go watch it laugh your butt off come back
watch this alright I'm gonna link this vais article down below so one of the
funniest things one of the funniest things about this is in the beginning of
Dave Chappelle's stand-up he makes a joke about how he's gonna do some
impressions right and one of his impressions was preparing it was a joke
about what somebody like this writer advice was going to do which is freak
out like something that gave Chappelle pokes fun at threw out
his entire stand-up is this outrageous canceled culture and people losing their
mind over the silliest things like stand-up comedy alright so in the Vice
article I'm gonna again I'm gonna link it down in the description below you
could check it out they they were upset about his jokes that he made about trans
people they also call him a misogynist they were also very upset that he
defended fellow comedians like louis c.k as well as Kevin Hart all right and like
it's just absolutely ridiculous like man so right now I don't know if any of you
watch the youtuber dr. Mike but anyways he has been recommending this book right
here the coddling of the American mind he's been recommending it like crazy and
one of his most recent videos was he interviewed the author of that book I'm
like you know what let me check it out and see what this is about like I didn't
want to read it because I'm more liberal leaning and I thought this was just
gonna be a book for my some conservative dude calling people a bunch of
snowflakes and stuff like that but that's not what this book is at all
right like I don't know this dude's affiliation or his ideas but he's just a
logical dude and he seems pretty open-minded maybe a little bit more
liberal I might be wrong doesn't matter but the thing is this book is filled
with psychology social psychology statistics and studies and it's
basically a book talking about why we're at where we're at in the United States
with people getting so easily offended by the silliest things like something he
talks about like okay so I don't know if any of you have ever been through
cognitive behavioral therapy if you happen let me know down in the comments
below but in cognitive behavioral therapy
you're taught to catch different cognitive distortions alright cognitive
distortions are the lies that your brain tells you alright some of that is black
and white thinking categorizing things as all good or all bad like people
saying this person is all good or they're evil you're either with me
you're just the enemy right it also includes mind-reading like thinking you
know another person's motives and intentions something that you could
never know right so what's CBT does and they talked about it quite a bit in this
book is it teaches you to get out of these cognitive distortions the problem
is is that we live in a world where many people have had their cognitive
distortions encouraged right like I want you to like this this came up in the
book so I'm not taking credit for this but it made perfect sense I know what
you imagine I want you to imagine this vice author going into their therapist
or into a psychiatrist right and this is the vice person isn't in the book but
this is the example they give imagine this vice person going into the
therapist or psychiatrists or psychologists and telling them about
what happened to like man I just watched that that Dave Chappelle stand-up
special and I feel very anxious I feel like scared and worried I feel like I'm
being threatened right and imagine if that mental health professional look
them dead in the eye and said oh wow you're feeling anxious well anxiety only
happens when there's a life or death right so wow we need to do something
right like wouldn't that sound crazy coming out of any therapist or mental
health professional so something else from the book that I found really
interesting I just finished a chapter I think was chapter 8 or so I've been
binging this book I absolutely loved it but anyways statistically people who
grew up in upper middle-class families or households they are more likely to
get easily offended by things all right and a lot of it has to do with being
sheltered as kids and not having as much exposure to hardships and things like
that so now when I see all these situations
when I see Kancil culture happening when I see people freaking out about silly
things I'm like huh like were you just never exposed to like real threats real
danger like real issues you know what I mean like it has me thinking a little
bit now that doesn't mean everybody from you know upper middle-class
families but statistically more of those people are alright but here's the thing
all right like again my videos are to try to help you like I want all of us to
start improving our mental and emotional well-being I'm telling you this right
now like if you are getting offended over silly things like this your life is
going to be miserable alright this is what we call having an external locus of
control you are giving other people too much
power over your life if you're letting people offend you
especially comedians like Dave Chappelle like you are giving other people in this
world way too much power alright but here's the other thing we
have to realize that intent matters alright let me say it again for the
people in the back intent matters and for anybody sitting here than to think
that I'm just being you know empathy for these groups let me tell you this for
those of you who don't know me I'm a recovering opioid at it if you saw the
episode or the stand-up special you know exactly what I'm talking about he made
quite a few jokes about opioid addicts and I laughed my butt off all right at
the beginning of his stand-up he made several suicide jokes in fact his very
first joke was about suicide okay in the last three to four years I have lost
over 70 people over 70 people have died that I knew from drug overdoses or
suicide all right and imagine if I got offended
about the jokes that he made now I want you to imagine this - in the Vice
article that we're referencing they don't mention anything about Dave
Chappelle making fun of opioid addicts or suicide victims even though each year
tens of thousands of people are dying from opioid addiction what if I got
offended that Vice didn't stand up for people like me who's a recovering opioid
addict or all the other people out there who are still still struggling with
in addition you see what I mean like we could all get offended by whatever thing
that we feel that we care about you see what I'm saying but here's the thing the
reason why I didn't get offended is because intent matters all right any
comedian any comedian especially their intention is to make us laugh like this
world is such a silly messed up place with crazy things going on all the time
and if we can't even take a break to watch a comedy special and just laugh at
the things that are so chaotic in this world like we're going to be miserable
man like quit taking life so seriously it's okay to joke about these things
because part of it is it takes power away from those things you see what I
mean so when you're watching this stuff even when you're interacting with other
people online or in your real life ask what their intention was so when I look
at Dave Chappelle I'm like what is his intent
so in this special two he threw in a quick line but I see where he stands on
the opioid epidemic he briefly discusses about how you know drug addicts aren't
these like terrible criminals they're people struggling with an illness right
so you could tell that his idea is that people should receive treatment rather
than just locking everybody up also just yesterday he did a benefit concert in
Ohio for the victims of the Dayton Ohio mass shooting right like Dave Chappelle
is not a bad guy so remember intent matters like we have to look at the
whole person we don't look at just this one thing they did right we don't say oh
he made an offensive joke he's a terrible person clearly Dave Chappelle
is doing good things to make this world a little bit better in the place he's
doing a lot more than most of us are doing all right but anyway it's like God
everybody just needs to relax just a little bit all right and if you can't
if you can't get over comedians making jokes I highly recommend therapy I'm in
therapy nothing to be ashamed of but maybe you need to work with a therapist
and get through some of these cognitive distortions all right but anyways don't
forget my brain Newport cancel is out and available now you get a free copy of
the ebook until the end of August there's also an audio book available of
audiobooks ten bucks the e-book is free until the end of the month
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