Hi there students !
HOW TO TAKE CRITICISM .
Ok. Criticism is when somebody says something negative
about you , about the way you act or the way you do things, OK ?
And I as a teacher
I'm always criticizing my students' English
but I hope it´s constructive criticism and criticism that helps .
So let's try to look at ways to
react to criticism . It's not the
easiest of things and I am not
a natural at taking criticism .
I think very few of us are .
SO, I think the first and most important thing when somebody says:
" You did that badly, you didn't do that well .
You couldn´t done that much better " . The first thing to do is just try not to react at all ,
just take a second
and try to be calm .
Then you need to remind yourself that
constructive criticism is good for you .
It´s a way you can improve, it´s an opportunity
for you to get better OK ? But
all of these things are mental . Then
after you calm down a bit and told your self
this is trying to help me, you probably want to
repeat what the person has said so that
you can get it clear . So you might say something like
umm...So what you're saying is that
I need to do this in a different way . What you´re trying to
tell me is that you want me to do this differently ,
OK ? You need me
as I understand what you're saying is that you need me to handle
this tipe of situation in a different way.
Now, I think at this point
it´s very important to try and avoid
analysing or questioning the person's opinion.
Yeah, just stick to the facts to start with,
now comes an important bit
and this one is more difficult: You need to thank them
for criticising you .
So, I really appreciate you taking the time
to talk to me about this . I'm really grateful you raised
this matter with me . thank you so much
for drawing my attention to this. After this
You need to try to get the person to give
specific examples of what the problem was :
So could you tell me exactly when I did this?
Could you give me examples or an example
of the time when I did this ? Could you share with me
the situation or
the situations in which this happens ? OK ?
Then you need to acknowledge,
to acknowledge, to agree with part of the criticism , you need to accept
the parts of the criticism that are
true and real . That´s not easy either...So .
You say something like: " Yes! I think you're right .
I think I could do that better , I could have done that
in a different way " .
" Yes, it would have been better if I had dealt with that differently ".
OK ? And then you need to try to understand whether
you did this thing, you made this mistake once or
it's something you do repeatedly .
So, was this and isolated occasion ? Or
have I done this more repeatedly ? Have I done it on various occasions ?
Was it just the once that I did this ? Or
have I been doing it on and off ? .
Or have I been doing it more frequently ?
Then, you need to look for some type of solution
So, say something like: " I'd love to hear what you think about
how I could do this better. Could you give me some suggestions to
handle this better in the future ? How
could I go about doing this better on other occasions ? ".
OK ? So, that´s the idea, you then
ask them for their advice . Ask them how they think
you could do this better.
OK ? So, let's go through it again!
When somebody criticizes you, first thing
try not to get upset, try not to react at all
just smile, then
talk to yourself, say criticism is good for you,
this is an opportunity for you to learn and improve your self.
then you want to clarify
exactly what the person is saying. So what you're saying is that
I did this wrong
because I did it in this way, yeah?
What you're saying, what you mean is that
I made a mistake while I was doing this .
Or you mean that I'm dealing with
this type of the situation in the wrong way.
then don´t go any further don´t
analyse or questions the person's opinion yet
because now you need to say: " Thank you ".
" Thank you so much for taking your time to bring this matter to my attention ".
" I really appreciate you taking your time
to talk to me about this " .
Then try to get from the person
specific examples of when you´ve done
this thing. Then you need to acknowledge
when they are right, OK? " So
you're right I did make a mistake while I was doing this,
yet I think you're correct, I could have handled this better ".
Find out if it was a single isolated occasion
or if its a repeated mistake: " So, have you noticed me doing this
on other occasions ? "
" Have I been doing this frequently ? ".
And then, ask them for solutions, ask their ideas...
" So, could you tell me how do you think I could deal with this in the future ?"
" How might I handle this differently
on other occasions ? " OK ?
So there you go ! HOW TO TAKE CRITICISM,
is not the easiest thing to do but you need to try to sound polite,
OK ? So, anyway , if you enjoyed the video
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