well the Internet has spoken and Jake Paul's whole campaign to end cyber
bullying but confronting cody ko backfired so in this video we're gonna
discuss why that happen and if you're somebody who is wondering why people
don't listen to what you have to say you're definitely gonna want to stay
tuned to this video what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul
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don't know what's going on a bunch of content creators are chiming in on the
situation where Jake Paul confronted cody ko for being a cyber bully I already
made one video about this just explaining kind of the difference
between cyberbullying comedy and everything like that I highly highly
highly highly recommend everybody go check out the Jarvis Johnson video on
this I'm gonna link it down in the description below but Jarvis brings up a
very good point about power dynamics vulnerability and things like that so
technically what Kodi code does is not cyberbullying so go check out the Jarvis
Johnson one alright but anyways again the purpose of this video is for all of
you I'm new context by using the Jake Paul
situation but my goal is to help all of you understand how to get people to
listen to what you actually have to say because we all want to be heard okay so
Jay Paul is absolutely baffled right now he doesn't understand why this backfired
so much in his face so two tweaks that he sent out after the launch of his
video the first one says this this generation we live in is disgusting from
the beauty community drama this week to people taking a serious message about
cyberbullying and turning it into a joke because quote-unquote Jake Paul said it
where's the good where's the fun where's the love too many negative souls next he
retweeted Ethan Klein from h3h3 productions and he said this if someone
goes to jail when they when they come out are they not able to have a positive
voice or do anything good because they went to jail just a thought but also F
Jake Paul so yeah like what I'm reading this I'm like oh man this poor guy he
just doesn't get it right but I'm somebody who also used to not get it
right like in in Jake Paul's perspective he did a good thing he was sending out a
good message and he doesn't understand why it didn't get consumed in the way
that he expected it to all right and this happens with a lot of us so what I
want to talk about today is how do you get people to actually listen to what
you have to say and the first thing I want to talk about is having an
authority on something you have to be an authority on something before you can
speak about something okay and here's here's the two main types of
authority there's academic authority alright so academic authority is you
went to school for this thing you have a degree in this thing right so if you've
got a degree in biology you're pretty well-versed in biology right so you have
an academic authority because you have this degree in this thing the second
type of Authority is life experience alright if you have life experience to
back up what you are saying you can then have authority on this topic that you're
talking about now when it comes to academic verse life experience
anyways these things differently alright the perfect example that I can think of
was when I was working at the addiction treatment center for three years there
were many clients who preferred me running groups rather than a therapist
now I would say objectively like neither one is better or worse than the other
you just get two different types of groups but many of the therapists who
were my co-workers were not addicts or alcoholics in recovery but I had life
experience Authority so how does a guy like me with no degree in any way shape
or form when it comes to addiction or mental health how do I command authority
when and I run a group well think about it when I am standing in front of a
group of 6070 sometimes it was over a hundred people why are people listening
to what I have to say well I have a few things going for me the first one is
pretty obvious I work there alright so they didn't just
hire some random guy obviously they hired me for a reason
so that's one reason I have Authority the next one is I'm coming up on seven
years sober no drugs no alcohol all right so they're looking at me and
saying okay well this guy has actually done the thing that I'm trying to do
maybe actually listening to them alright the third reason I have some authority
on that is people sitting in treatment centers are usually trying to figure out
how to make their life better so I have an authority on talking about how to
improve your life because my life no longer sucks since I went through years
of overcoming my addiction and becoming a better person so if you don't have
either academic authority or some kind of life experience authority on a
subject guess what nobody is going to listen to you and this is exactly what
happened to Jake Paul and this is why people were bringing it up and not
taking his message seriously because in this situation Jake Paul was trying to
take a moral high ground but one would argue that Jake Paul is currently doing
things that are morally apprehensible alright so here is an anecdote for you
all right so I was working at the treatment center of
my actual role my title was lead alumni coordinator part of my job one of the
many aspects of my job was helping people after they left treatment helping
them with their sobriety if they had a friend a family member who needed help I
was more than happy to talk to them and everything like that well anyways I had
a client and he stayed sober for about six months and he just kind of said
screw it stop doing everything that was suggested of him and he started drinking
again and he would call me up drunk all the time right and most the time I
didn't answer his phone calls just because that's a whole different aspect
of it but if you're wondering don't talk to people and try to help him when
they're drunk or high doesn't typically work out too well anyways one day he
does call me while drunk I pick up the phone and he is currently sitting at the
bar and he is drunk and he and he's sitting there he's talking to me he's
completely confused about the situation because he's telling me while drunk keep
in mind an alcoholic who relapse in his drunk and he's telling me Chris I have a
friend here who has a problem drinking and she won't listen to me and get help
we'll think about that for a second what authority does he have to tell somebody
to stop drinking if he is an alcoholic who is currently drinking are you
following me here so think about this in your own situation what authority do you
have to speak on certain subjects do you have an academic authority do you have a
life experience authority okay like some people you know don't understand why
they're screaming into the void of Twitter it's because people are often
looking to you and saying okay what authority do you have on this subject
unless you roll the dice and you get some followers just purely based on
confirmation bias it's typically not going to work out very well for you now
the other aspect of this that I really want you guys to think about is why you
care so much what other people think because sometimes we get caught in this
situation where we forget that the person giving us this information is not
an authority on a subject here's a great example
alright let's say you go back home for the holidays and
this dinner and your aunt Betsy is there she this woman has had seven divorces
she is absolutely miserable always in a bad mood hates everything now aunt Betsy
is talking to you judging your love life okay like sit back and think about the
source of this criticism is aunt Betsy the best authority to critique your love
life probably not because she has no life experience authority on that
subject seeing as how how many failed
relationships she's been in so the trap that Jake Paul fell into is that he has
not earned the right to take the moral high ground against anybody okay not to
toot my horn but if I went in there and talked to Cody Co which is a completely
hypothetical situation because I don't consider him a cyber bully in any
stretch of the imagination but me going in there would be received much
differently why because I have life experience all right in my addiction I
was a terrible person I would like cheat steal I was an awful
human being right over years of hard work arguably I am NOT a terrible person
anymore so if I were to come out and talk about cyberbullying
it would be much different than Jake Paul who is still doing a lot of
questionable things all right so I think the last pitfall that Jake Paul had was
his own hubris he believes because he is such a large
creator because he has such a large audience which he forgets is a bunch of
children he believed that he had the authority to take the moral high ground
and talk to Cody Coe about cyberbullying and this is a problem that we see all
the time with rich people famous people celebrities they they got their fame
from being a good actor or a singer or whatever that is and then they try to be
an authority on something that they don't have life experience with or an
education on so one of the other issue use that I'll bring up just because
we're on the topic like being rich and famous what we're all learning right now
doesn't exactly mean that you know how to run a country all right so the moral
of today's story is don't be the drunk guy trying to tell other people how to
get sober all right but anyways that's all I got for this video
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