In this video we're going to talk about how to tell if your ex left you for someone else.
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So, with that being said, we're going to talk about how to tell if your ex left you for
someone else. Now, with all of this in mind, I just want to make it clear that these are
just pointers towards something. Like if you start to notice that, "Oh, I've got one or
two of these," it doesn't necessarily mean that, yeah, your ex left you for someone else.
It's just a pointer. So, for example, my wife, she's one of those
symptom checkers. Whenever she has a headache or something like that, she'll go onto one
of those websites and say, "Oh yeah, I've got a headache. Maybe I'm a little bit tired
or something like that." And it inevitably spits out answers like, "Yeah, maybe you just
need to drink some water, but also it could be a sign of cancer." And again, probably
not cancer, just a headache, right? But still, I guess, apparently headaches can be a sign
of brain cancer or something. I don't know, not a doctor. But just because you see some
of these signs present in your situation, it doesn't necessarily mean that your ex has
absolutely left you for someone else. Okay? Keep that in mind.
All right, let's get into this. So firstly, your ex may have had someone in their life
before your breakup, who seemed to be getting uncomfortably close to them. Specifically,
if it's someone who they are of the gender that they would be in a relationship with.
So if they're a normal heterosexual kind of relationship, and they were a woman, it might
be a guy or vice versa. Or if it was like a same sex relationship, it could be they're
a guy, could be another guy. They're a woman, could be another woman. Things are really
complicated when it comes to relationships these days, but you get what I'm saying. If
there's someone in their life that was getting uncomfortably close to them, then there is
a good chance that could be a pointer. Again, pointer to the possibility that they may have
left you for someone else. Not going to confirm it 100%, but it could indicate that.
Sometimes people do start to develop feelings for others that they spend time with, and
they look for excuses to increase the amount of time that they spend with one another.
There've been scientific studies about this, explain why we often fall for coworkers. That
is just based on spending lots of time together that we actually start to develop feelings
for one another. It's why you often, back in high school and stuff, would start to get
crushes on your study buddy or things like that. That was actually my main seduction
trick in high school, was to help a girl with her algebra homework until she fell in love
with me. It worked at least one out of one time. It doesn't really work so well in the
real world, mostly because people stopped doing algebra.
Anyway, another way that you can tell if your ex may potentially have left you for someone
else is that they got into a relationship after the two of you broke up very quickly.
Now, obviously, perfect set up for a rebound relationship. We do have our whole playlist
on rebound relationships up there. Check it out if you're curious about it, if you want
to learn more or if you just want to learn about kind of the dynamics of rebounds, why
they happen, what people often do in rebounds, et cetera. But that's very clearly a setup
for a rebound relationship. Now, it's not necessarily that they left you
for this other person. They could have just broken up with you and then gotten together
with this other person very quickly for any number of reasons. But it's also possible
that they could have been warming this person up beforehand before they felt safe to cut
the cord with you and go to someone else. Again, not 100%, but it's just a pointer in
the direction, okay? Another way that you can tell, potentially,
that your ex has left you for someone else, is if they have a history of not being single
for very long. So, if you look back at their previous dating or relationship history, it's
kind of like, "Okay, I was with this person for however long, and then we broke up, and
then a week or two later, I got together with this other person, and then we broke up. And
then a month later I was together with this other person."
So, that just shows that they have a difficult time being alone, or potentially they're just
really attractive and people are hitting on them all the time. But it just shows that
they don't often spend a lot of time alone. And if that's the case, then they may potentially
be, again, kind of warming someone up to go to a new relationship to when they start to
get the sense that things are going downhill between you and them.
Sign number four, that you can tell that they potentially may have left you for someone
else, is that they were not very present near the end of your relationship together. So,
they kind of checked out either mentally, emotionally, or also physically, too. They
spent a lot of time out of the house, away from you, doing things, working really late
on work projects, spending a lot of time out with their friends or things like that. Obviously,
if they're not emotionally present, they might be because they're developing that emotional
connection with someone else. They're withdrawing their emotional connection from you and putting
it into and investing it into a new dynamic with someone else.
That is definitely something that could be happening. Again, not 100% solid confirmation
here, but if somebody was leaving someone for someone else, they might be doing this
sort of thing. That people could often just withdraw their emotional connection because
they sense that the relationship is ending and they don't want to continue to invest
in it, but they may also be taking that energy and investing it into a dynamic with someone
else. And also, lastly, if your ex may have left
you for someone else, they may not be expressing very clearly what their dating or relationship
life is like. They might be holding that back or concealing it from you or not being forthright
with it. They might leave it vague or ambiguous. And the reason for this is because maybe they
don't want to rub salt in the wounds and let you know that, "Yeah, I was getting ready
to date this other person. I just jumped right into it."
Because maybe they feel guilty about it. We all know that we're not supposed to do that.
We all know that we're not supposed to warm up someone while we're in a relationship with
someone else. It's not really a very cool move to do. And so they might be avoiding
that out of feelings of guilt, out of trying to protect your feelings, out of all sorts
of things. But that is something that they may potentially be doing in that sort of situation.
So again, just as a recap, they might have someone in their life that they were getting
uncomfortably close with before the two of you actually broke up. They may have gotten
into a new relationship very fast, a rebound relationship alert right there. They may have
a history of not being single for very long between relationships. They may also have
not been very present physically or emotionally with you in the last stage of your relationship.
And they may have also not been very clear about what their dating or relationship picture
is like, maybe intentionally being vague. Of course, there's other reasons why they
might be being vague. Maybe they're trying to provide an air of mystery about them, to
make you want them even more or make you jealous or something like that. I don't know. But
those are some things that your ex might be doing if they left you for someone else.
Again, not exhaustive, not total 100% confirmation, just little pointers pointing the way to something.
Again, doesn't necessarily mean anything. It could just be that it's a headache. You
just need to pop an aspirin and drink a glass of water. On the other hand, it could be something
more serious. Once again, if you do want to be able to handle
these tricky little conversations in situations with your ex, that potentially could go really
bad and flip them into opportunities for greater connection, you might want to check out Connect
and Commit. Again, info on that is down below in the description box for this video.
But once again, thank you so much. My name is Clay with modernlove.life. If you want
to learn more about how to connect with your ex on an emotional level, you may want to
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