- For a very long time now,
I'm being asked this question about discipline.
How do you become more disciplined?
How do you become the type of person
that does the right thing,
that is a disciplined individual,
that when they know they need to do something,
they just go out and do it?
And I've been asked about this from people on the street
that randomly recognized me, that met me.
People in live seminars, when I do seminars for 100 people,
there's always people coming up at the end asking like,
Mario, how can I become more disciplined?
How can I do the things, I already know what I need to do,
but I'm not doing it.
People in live events, people in comments,
people in messages and emails, I kept being asked
this question which brings me to two issues.
Number one: most people think that if they
had more discipline,
every single problem in their life would be solved.
Most people attribute their problems and the lack of success
to a lack of discipline.
Number two: most people have no idea
where to begin to build discipline.
They are always mentally masturbating about it.
They're using wishful thinking.
They're trying to visualize something.
They're trying to figure it out.
Nobody's taking any action to really build discipline.
So I'm gonna share with you two things and in this video
that will help you become more disciplined
if you wanna take action.
If you're gonna work hard,
if you are willing to put in the work,
you will become more disciplined.
It's not gonna happen overnight,
and when I show you how me as a person who came from a
position of being a pro gamer.
I played World of Warcraft 12 to 14 hours a day.
I was the least disciplined person in the world.
Least disciplined person among my peer group.
My family never considered me very disciplined.
I was successful but I was not successful
because of my discipline.
In high school, in college, all these,
I went through I would delay things up until the very end
and then I would kinda squeeze in somehow and figure it out
at the very end.
I was never really that disciplined person that would do the
homework day one, that would do the work day one.
I would always delay the project.
I was always pushing things up until the very end
because I loved procrastinating.
I loved the instant gratification of delaying things.
Now today, I'm the polar opposite of that individual.
Today, where I'm at right now,
I am choosing to delay that gratification because if I look
back, okay so one thing that I would say,
now about all the things that I know.
Bring success in life.
Out of every single book.
I read 500+ books on success.
I built a company from scratch that now serves hundreds of
clients every single year in fitness.
Transforms your body, transforms your life.
I influence millions of people.
How do I do that?
And if I could attribute this one single skill that can
bring you success, that will bring you success if you follow
this one thing that is the ability to sacrifice short-term
pleasure for long-term gain.
That's what it comes down to.
If I could boil down success to one critical skill that you
absolutely must have,
it is the ability to delay gratification and that is what
really discipline is at the end of the day.
It's to be able to discipline yourself to not eat the cake
right now so that you can have a six-pack in four months
from now, so you can have the best body of your life in six
months from now or a year from now.
So you don't go watch Netflix right now so in two years
you're gonna have a company or an audience or a business or
whatever you wanna build that you want to have as an asset
in your life that's gonna enable you to live free
and live on your own terms.
You're not gonna go watch Netflix right now.
You're not gonna go get drunk.
You're not gonna go out and party.
Which is the exact same thing that my peers when I was
grinding out building my business when I was working on
myself, upgrading myself, going to the gym,
dieting, doing all those things.
Most people that I knew and most people of my age
and people that were doing things.
They were watching sports, drinking,
going out, partying, not really working hard.
Watching TV shows, watching movies.
You had to delay all of that and I had to delay all of that
to get a level of success that I can enjoy now
and live the life that I wanna live.
Alright, so that's the number one thing.
So discipline, look, it's very important,
but it does not solve everything.
That brings me back to the first point that I made.
Discipline is not the actual end game.
The end game is habits, alright.
Discipline is a stepping stone.
Discipline is actually a tool.
If you have good discipline,
you're able to build good habits.
So why I'm able to enjoy the life that I have right now and
how I'm able to actually be successful is because
I've used discipline to build habits.
Not because I am overusing discipline every single day now
because discipline will eventually run out for everybody.
It is a limited resource because
discipline depends on willpower.
Once you run out of willpower,
you run out of discipline.
So you can't keep relying on discipline for years and years
and years every single day.
Because things that require willpower all come into that one
single reserve thing that you have and
if it's something that overwhelms that thing,
you will run out.
So if you're looking to achieve long-term
sustainable success, it is going to come down to building
habits and using discipline to build habits.
Whether it's fitness, business, relationship,
whatever it is, it is a set of habits.
You are what you repeatedly do.
We know that intuitively.
We understand that.
But we still think discipline is the,
lack of discipline is the root cause of all our problems.
If we had more discipline we'd solve everything.
That is not the truth.
If you want to be successful,
you will have to build habits.
Now you will need discipline to build habits and that
actually brings me to the second point.
How do you become more disciplined?
And here's my strategy.
Here was my strategy that I used to actually build up my
discipline from scratch, from zero,
from nothing, to actually becoming disciplined to a point
where I could say no to things and I could delay that
gratification enough to get my momentum and
to start changing my life, okay.
So you start by expanding your comfort zone
of what you say no to.
You start with delaying some simple pleasures.
You start by challenging yourself and getting some of those
simple things that you find enjoyable
and pleasurable out of the way.
Let me give you an example.
You go take a shower.
You just slightly make it colder, alright.
Just don't give yourself the pleasure of full comfort.
You start removing comfort from your life.
You start building up some resilience.
You start adding some friction.
And when you start adding that friction,
you start building that willpower muscle,
that discipline muscle.
And you start expanding this.
You start doing uncomfortable things.
You start saying hi to strangers in the shopping mall or
when you're doing your groceries.
You start doing things that you find uncomfortable.
You start expanding that comfort zone.
Because that comfort zone is either expanding or it's
shrinking, so it can go both ways.
And it's in constant flux.
If you're not consistently keeping it expanded,
it is gonna start shrinking.
And then even the basic stuff like taking the garbage out
can become something that you wanna delay
and procrastinate on for days.
It can do that. It will do that.
I've been there.
I've been the guy who didn't want to do anything.
I've been the guy who was the least disciplined person
in the world.
I wouldn't do absolutely anything to move a finger if it
required hard work unless I absolutely had to.
Unless the consequences were terrible, right.
To avoid that and to not get to that position which is a lot
of negative momentum and it's a deep negative spiral,
you have to start building up what is outside of your
comfort zone to make that inside of your comfort zone.
So slowly start chipping away at that comfortable life
that you're living right now.
Put yourself in a slight calorie deficit.
Feel hungry a little bit.
Add friction. Add some suffering into your life.
A little bit, not too much.
Don't overwhelm yourself.
Don't do like day one fasting all day,
no food, water fast for five days and
do ten hours of cardio.
You're gonna burn out and you're just gonna crash.
You're not gonna make it.
But if you slowly start expanding that comfort zone,
if you slowly start working on it,
if you start just delaying those simple pleasures like when
that instinct comes to go watch your favorite show because
the episode just come out.
Delay it for the weekend.
Push it away from the week and when the weekend comes,
push it away to the next weekend.
Wait for four, five episodes to gather up and then binge
watch them all at one time.
But delay it. Learn how to delay.
If you can delay, if you can just remember this word,
delay. Delay the gratification.
If you just do that,
that's what's gonna build your discipline.
Just delay the gratification.
When you find something nice and you wanna get it right now,
your first instinct, your first reaction is
I'm gonna grab that ice cream.
I wanna grab that cake, that dessert.
You delay it.
I'm gonna do it next time.
Get into the habit of saying next time,
next time, next time.
Let me just wait a little bit.
Create that gap and once you create that gap,
you start building that discipline muscle and over time
things start becoming easier.
Saying no becomes easier.
Don't say no to random stuff.
Someone calls you up and says hey dude let's just hang out.
Randomly out of the blue,
no I can't.
You start becoming more comfortable with saying no.
Now you have more time.
You have more discipline.
You have more willpower.
Now your life starts changing.
Instead of doing random stuff,
now you're not spending time on random stuff and
now we have all this free time.
Now you're starting to read books.
Now you're starting to get into courses.
Now you're starting to get mentors.
And now your life started changing.
And that's really how it all starts.
You first discard a lot of the things that make you
unsuccessful so you remove things from your life.
You remove distractions from your life.
You remove things that are holding you back.
And then that opens up space,
both mentally, physically, and energetically and time-wise,
opens up that space in your life that now you can start
adding things back in that will make you more successful.
And that is how you expand that discipline.
And that over time that discipline as you keep repeating,
reps and reps and reps and reps,
now you're starting to build habits.
And that discipline, because you now invested it in the
building of habits, once you build the habit,
let's say going to the gym.
You eventually will build that habit up to a point where
you don't need discipline anymore.
If someone stops me on the street right now and asks me,
Mario how do you get yourself to the gym?
You're so disciplined.
I'm not disciplined.
I don't need discipline to go to the gym.
I need discipline not to go to the gym.
I would need discipline to hold myself in the house
to lock myself up.
You would need to put me in the prison to prevent me from
going to the gym or to prevent me
from doing the right thing,
to prevent me from reading books and working on myself.
That's what I need discipline for right now.
Because my default now that I'm operating at is the right
thing and that's exactly where you get.
And the good part about that is once you get all those
things out of the way so all those things now
are a part of you.
They're a part of your belief system.
They're a part of your mindset or your core values,
however you wanna call it, your identity.
Now when you have that now you have all this discipline,
all this willpower, all this self-control that you could
invest in new things and pushing yourself in some new area.
Maybe you wanna learn an instrument.
Maybe you're gonna build a business. Maybe you wanna go out.
Maybe you wanna approach strangers.
Whatever you wanna do,
now you have that discipline leftover for that because you
invested it and built habits in other areas.
And that's how you start.
You start by slowly expanding and remember,
discipline is not the end-all, be-all solution but it is
something that's gonna get you started and is gonna
start making you successful.
It is gonna start changing your life.
It is something you have to work on taking your own control
right now because if you keep procrastinating,
if you keep delaying, if you keep delaying the hard work,
you will not make it.
There is no success without hard work.
I have to say this every time because people here always
thinking about the four-hour work week.
They're thinking about the random supplement that you can
take, the electric ab stimulator,
the shrink wrap, the keto supplement or whatever the hell.
People are thinking about shortcuts,
shortcut, shortcut.
There is no shortcut at the end of the day.
You have to put in the work.
You have to put in the time.
You have to put in the effort.
And you have to be patient.
It is gonna take some while.
But guess what, the time is gonna pass anyway.
Now a year from now looking back at this video,
you could be in a much better position.
You could be in a position where you're looking back a year
and you're just looking at yourself.
You're like oh my God I made so much progress.
I can't even recognize that person.
That's what happened to me.
I don't think I could even sit down and have a conversation
with myself from five years ago or ten years ago.
More accurately ten years ago,
before I started my journey.
I don't think we would have anything to talk about.
Really. Like that person was a totally different person.
Different belief system,
different core values.
I had to reinvent myself.
You have to reinvent yourself.
If you're not happy with yourself right now,
maybe you don't need to reinvent your entire area
of your life.
I don't know you.
I mean maybe right now you're not struggling
with your social life.
Maybe you're not struggling with your business.
Maybe the only thing you're struggling with is your fitness.
Maybe the only thing you're struggling with is
how to get in good shape.
But that's the belief system you need
to change about yourself.
That's the part of you that you need to change,
and that's the part of you when you look back a year from
now you can't recognize yourself making those choices and
you won't be able to relate to that.
And that's if you do that every year,
every year looking back you should be smarter.
Every day you go to bed you should be a little bit smarter
than you were yesterday.
That's how it's supposed to be.
Life is about progress,
and if you push yourself,
if you keep expanding comfort zone as I said earlier,
you will get to this level in your life where you are
insanely disciplined and most people will be very,
very jealous and envious of where you're at now,
because they're able to sense.
They can sense that you're the type of person
that gets stuff done.
When you say you're gonna do something,
you're gonna do something.
And that integrity is something that's very,
very polarizing.
People wanna hang out with people like that.
People wanna hang out with people that know
what's the right thing.
They do the right thing and they don't make any excuses.
Those are leaders.
Those are influencers.
Those are people that inspire action in others,
and those are people that make other people
wanna become more disciplined.
That's where I see you.
That's where I see you going and that's where you should be.
Now look, if you wanna become more disciplined.
If you need help in the area of fitness,
I got you covered.
There's gonna be a link in the comments below where you can
go and check out some of the results that I've been getting
with my clients and if you're interested in that same page,
there's a link on there as well to apply for the program.
No strings attached, you can just check out the results.
See if you like it.
See if you resonate with that.
If you do, go and apply.
If not, if you don't need help with your fitness right now,
that's super cool.
Work on your discipline.
Build habits. Get healthy.
If you want to know what to do,
and if you need my help,
if you need help from my team
so we can guide you step by step.
We can grab you by the hand.
Then go to that page,
check out some of the results we've been getting with guys.
Listen to some of the videos and some of the guys,
the stories that they're sharing about their journey.
If you relate to that, if you need that help,
we'll be here.
My company, me and my team.
We'll serve you. We will help you get there.
But you do have to put in the work to improve yourself.
There is no shortcut.
I gotta say this once again.
And I appreciate you watching.
Glad you were here.
Glad you got this.
Let me know in the comments.
If you like this, share the video.
If you find this to be helpful for your or some of your
friends that need to build more discipline,
and I will see you in the next video.