Guys are obsessed with first lines. What do you say when you first meet her? What's the
opening line? What's the pickup line? What's the opening line to use when you're on Tinder
or Hinge? What's the first line? What's the best thing to get a response or the get her attention?
Well on this video, I'm going to be explaining why none of that matters at all
and what to do instead. If you're having trouble with meeting women online, or you've just given up
altogether because you're not getting any results, I really urge you to rethink this. Something that
the coaches here at Tripp Advice do is help you build a complete customized profile from scratch.
If you're not getting any dates, or you're not getting dates with the women that you really like,
I want you to go to Coached By Tripp.com because you can work with a coach
right away to help you set up a custom profile. We tell you exactly what pictures to use,
exactly what types of pictures to take, we tell you exactly what to put in your profile and bio.
We give you a script in terms of what to say to women online to get them to respond,
and then get to the point where you're getting them on a date and actually have her texting you.
All of this is taught through the coaching program. Go to www.coachedbytripp.com
if you're interested in learning more. Now, let's talk about that opening line.
A lot of guys think that opening line matters. And I know I even said a second ago that I have
a script, but let me tell you something: When it comes to opening lines, here's my proof of
why it doesn't matter. It's because when you are messaging a woman, and let's say you have
the best response in the world, in fact, I've had my clients have these really amazing lines,
the ones that they found on YouTube channels, and blogs, and Google and wherever. And they copy and
paste these opening lines; they're witty, they're funny, whatever they are, and they get a response.
And most of the time, it doesn't lead to a date. So you might think, why is that? How come I'm able
to get her to respond, and she responds to my witty funny opening line that I've created or
copied, but she won't go on a date with me, I don't get it. That's because the opening
line doesn't matter. What matters then? The only thing that matters is this: It's your pictures.
Your pictures are the ultimate. If your pictures aren't good, it doesn't matter what line you use.
Even if it's as lame as Hey, and all the way to, I don't know, insert funny witty line here... your
pictures are going to be everything. If you have crappy pictures, you may be able to send a funny
and witty line and get her to respond. But it won't lead to a date. Now, you might think that
sometimes it does, because maybe you do send that witty line and get her to respond and then
she ends up on a date with you. So you put all that focus on that line, and you put that line,
that opening beautiful line on a pedestal. When in reality, it wasn't the line that got her on a date
with you – it was your pictures, and also a little bit your bio too of course. If you don't have a
bio, that's not going to be very trustworthy. Like, if we go to the whole end of the spectrum,
where you have no bio at all, but really good pictures, it's gonna be a little shady,
and that's not going to help. You have to have something in your bio that just generally says
something about you; maybe something funny or witty or something that you like and that you
enjoy, something that you do for work, whatever it may be. So you have the general lines there,
but you have to have really good pictures. What's a really good picture? A really good
picture is a crisp HD picture, a high definition photo, something that's taken on like a DSLR,
or maybe even an iPhone using the portrait mode for example. If you have those kinds of photos,
it's going to make you look your best. Now you may say, "Well Tripp, I'm not that attractive of
a guy. If I have an HD photo, something that shows me clearly, isn't that going to show me just being
more ugly and more gross?" No. First of all, it's gonna actually put you in a better light. Because
photos can make someone look better or look worse. There are photos and different angles
and different ways of lighting yourself that are going to make you look more attractive. So those
have to be there. But even with all that, if it's not an HD photo, and it's kind of blurry or just
looks like you took it from like an iPhone 5, or something really old, it just gonna look worse.
Even if you're a guy who's super attractive, but you take a selfie of yourself, you take some low
res photo, it's not going to help you. You need to have the combination of good lighting, good
angles, photos that are high definition, and then you can start working on your opening lines. Now,
no I don't think you should be doing something as generic as hey, or how are you, or how's your day
going? That opening line is pretty lame. Okay, so the line matters, but only just a little bit. But
again, you don't have to go to the other spectrum. One line that I like to use, you can just copy
this right now, is "Hey, do you have any travel plans coming up?" or "Any travel plans lately?"
If you say that, it's a pretty normal line, it's very easy for her to answer that, and then
that will lead itself to a little bit of conversation and then you can get her to
text you or you text her and then get her to meet up on a date.
But again, you got to have that boundary. Now, if you want to go to a crazy line, you can, but it's
not going to matter as much, unless you have those good photos. Something that gets her to respond,
that's easy for her to respond to, is going to be the best type of message that you can send, along
with your great photos. If you want to know what kind of great photos to have and what exactly to
put in your bio, I actually have a template for that, you can look into coaching with us. I wish
I could put it all in this video right here. But there's just so much to be discussed. And also,
it's custom depending on who you are. So it all depends. I like to say this: some guys,
for example, look better when they smile with teeth versus no smile at all. Some guys look
better when they don't smile with teeth. Every guy has a different thing going for them. That's why I
say if you ever go and get your photos taken, you should make sure that you do all different kinds
of angles and different kinds of smiles to see what looks best on you. One thing that we do in
the coaching program is pick out the photos that will look the best. But for yourself, if you're
going and getting photos, make sure that you are doing all different types of angles and different
kinds of positions, different kinds of smiles so you can get all different options to make sure
that you look your best. And yes, that's right, I did say you should be going to a photographer.
One of my biggest tips to have the best photos to make sure that whatever line you use,
she's going to respond to you, is going to someone who's going to take photos of you: a professional
photographer. And right now there's so many out there that do photography for online dating. And
even if they don't, if you're in a city where you can't find that person, just hire a wedding
photographer. Those people are everywhere and they will know how to take great portraits of you.
Here's another tip, make sure that you're doing it outside, outside always has the best lighting.
My point here is that don't focus so much on that opening line. Focus on your pictures and what you
look like. I know that seems weird like "Tripp, I've been following you for a while. You always
say that it's not about looks as much as it is about behavior." Now here's the thing: Yes, I do
talk about that a lot. Because there's a lot to be discussed when it comes to behavior. There's not
really as much to talk about when it comes to grooming or style or things like that. There's a
lot to talk about behavior so I talk about that a lot more. But the thing is, it all matters.
Yeah, that's right. It all matters. Like yes, your grooming is important. Your style is important.
What you look like is important. Your status is important. Whether you live with your
parents or not, and you're like 30 years old living in your parents basement is important.
If you make no money, that is important. If you're not confident, that is important. If
you're not showing her attractive, masculine behavior, and being dominant, that is important.
It all counts. The only thing is you can only go so far with your looks. There's only
so many things you can do. So you do those things and then you can focus more on the,
behavior because the behavior takes a lot longer to be a confident, dominant and masculine type of
guy that I do talk about here and as well as in the coaching program. To sum this all up nicely,
don't focus on that first line. Focus more effort on the pictures, and then you'll see more matches.