Okay fellas, look around.
Just surrounded by forests and women.
You can literally meet women anywhere
if you've got the guts
to get out of your comfort zone.
If you're too scared to talk to women
because of fear of rejection or humiliation
then come out to a public spot and do a video.
No. What you need to do
is work on your self esteem.
But if you're afraid to talk to women
because of me too
well you need to read up
on what constitutes sexual harassment
or harassment by sea birds.
In most places
it's not illegal to smile at a woman
or say hello, and that can be
as little as it takes
to start a conversation.
In other words,
if you want to meet women
you're going to have to initiate communication
because over 86% of women won't initiate.
And the other 14%
are either starting conversations
with the top 10% of men
or are dominant and masculine
or are radicalized feminist,
which is fine.
If you want a dominant woman or a feminist
hang out at a college or university campus
particularly one with more than one women's
study on the docket.
You might even want to join one of those classes.
But hint, even most of this straight
single female feminists
prefer confident, masculine,
conservative men.
I'm not the creator just the decoder.
Otherwise, stick with me
you'll discover numerous places
in the real world that are not a nightclub
where the average Joe can meet single women.
If you're new to my channel
I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract,
and keep your keeper.
Or at least have better relationships with women.
Welcome to just the tip.
So, while some
traditional venues like bars and clubs
are still popular for hookups.
Couples who stay together
often initially connecting other settings.
So, here are 33 places
to meet single women in the real world
and then an important note
about approaching women you don't know
and a note for introverts
and online dating apps.
One, social events.
Parties, gatherings networking events
find an extrovert
and ask them to invite you.
Two, coffee shops.
Ideal for casual conversations.
If you work from home
try working from a coffee shop.
I've met ton of people at coffee shops
and I’m an introvert,
but no longer shy.
Three, bookstores.
Particularly, if there are book clubs
or reading events.
I met a guy in a bookstore
and it was an interesting conversation.
Four, park's great place
to meet people or enjoy outdoor activities.
Did you read my memoir?
If you did then you know that's where I met JP.
Hi, JP.
Fitness classes that’s number five.
Yoga, spinning, dance etc.
I have met guy is at yoga
and the gym go figure.
No, it's more dangerous nowadays but still.
Six, art galleries.
Great for connecting over shared interests
and I have met many people
at art gallery events.
Seven, volunteer activities
community service projects. Hint,
choose projects where you have
a chance of meeting others like minded.
I volunteered at food bank for little while
and what I
also call the last chance wing at the hospital.
The ladder wasn't exactly
great for meeting singles and hint,
if it's something that you love to do, do it anyways
because that's admirable.
Eight, cooking classes.
Learn new skills while meeting others.
You can set up a monthly cookout
at each other's places
with the theme of BYOB.
Bring your own bestie to meet other people.
Nine, concert and music festivals.
Shared music interests
can spark conversations.
There's a special energy at music events
where you may meet kindred spirits.
10, meetup groups.
Join groups based on your hobbies or interests.
Meetup.com has
every kind of group you can imagine.
Or you can be a leader
and start your own group
based on something you're keen on.
11, sporting events.
Cheering for a team together
can be fun.
I think I’m not really sure.
Sporting events have added bonus of
heightened arousal as in
anticipation and excitement.
These events are very tribal and bonding.
12, wine tastings.
Enjoy wine and conversation
in a relaxed setting or
if you're into scotch or whisky or whatever
just consume responsibly.
13, food festivals num, num.
Try new cuisines and meet food enthusiasts.
Mmm, chocolate. Yeah.
Anyways, okay started raining.
14, cultural events, museums,
theater performances etc, etc.
Don't be afraid to go solo
you'll be more approachable
plus it shows confidence.
15, board game nights not as an ahh.
But as in social groups
joined a group or start a group hint,
me make it a public place.
No woman wants to go to a strange man's home
even if you're not that strange.
She needs to feel safe.
16, dance classes
salsa swing ballroom tap.
Try one try another.
Women do love a man who will dance
and you don't even have to be good at it.
17, farmers markets.
A vibrant and social atmosphere.
If you’re into chefing go solo.
Otherwise, go with a girlfriend
hashtag wingmam.
People are automatically friendlier
when they see you have similar values.
18, alumni events.
University or social gatherings.
Women who are educated
tend to want men who are educated.
And since there are fewer men
attending posted nowadays,
you'll be a minor among sharks.
Okay, 19, professional conferences or lectures.
Connect with like-minded individuals.
I've met so many peoples at conventions
I can't even count them all.
20, dog parks.
If you have a dog
it's a great way to meet others with pets.
Like sporting events,
pet parents share a special animal affinity.
21, beaches and resorts.
Holiday destinations attract single travelers
not only that but no one knows you there
so you can try on that
new social hat with little risk.
22, spiritual or religious gatherings.
If you share similar beliefs
go to church or a spiritual center
or heck join the Tony Robbins retreat.
Whatever speaks to you hint,
if you hear voices
I want to get help first.
23, group hikes or outdoor adventures.
Best is to join a group.
Women's primary need is to feel safe.
24, the language exchange meet-ups.
Learning any language while making connections.
Awesome. But Duolingo Rosetta stone
while they're great for self study
that won't you help you engage in conversations
in English or your preferred language.
So, you're going to need to
maybe set up a group or go to a group.
25, comic conventions or fan events.
For those with shared interests
again you'll share a common interest
plus you get to get dressed up
and "become" someone else
leaving your shyness at home.
26, writing classes or workshops.
A fun and interactive way to meet new people.
I’m still friends with people I met
at a screen writing class many moons ago.
More on that in a minute.
27, pottery or art classes.
Engage in creative activities with others.
A woman will admire you
for showing up to a not
traditionally masculine class
if you truly and enjoy it
or have fun in it
and have no self consciousness about it.
28, film screenings or movie clubs.
Whether you're into noir
or oldies or indie flicks
host a private screening at your local movie theater.
Charge a minimum to cover the cost
and give the intro to the movie.
Invite people to chat with you
or meet somewhere after to discuss it.
Some of the friends I met
in the writing class the screen writing class
went on to make movies
and I met others through them
at some of those screenings.
Also, hi five, to those people.
29, historic tours and sightseeing excursions
or simply traveling solo.
Whether it's in your own city or abroad
you'll meet broads with the same interest
plus they won't know if you're shy,
so you can don your confidence cap.
As an introvert
I've done a lot of solo traveling
and have always met new people.
30, gaming cafes or video game events.
The only way super keen gamers
are going to get the girl
is if they meet the girl in the real world
to talk about their favorite artificial world.
31, local community events or festivals.
Check your city's calendar for happenings.
Try something new
you'll discover if you like it
or not so much.
32, speed dating events
I know, I know.
Organized meet-ups designed for singles.
Minimal time commitment
maximum potential for funny stories.
33, through work.
Yep, many couple still meet through work
and their social related functions.
I met my first boyfriend at work.
He looked like Martin Short
but he was way funnier.
Just make sure you know the risks
and abide the HR rules.
Bonus number one,
acting or improv classes.
Uh, ha, ha.
Yes, scary as... Yes.
Especially if you're shy
but it will help you get over shyness stat.
When I was in LA I took acting classes.
I’m a terrible actor
but it did boost my confidence
and I’m still friends
with many of the people I met their.
Bonus number two,
similarly toastmasters
or other public speaking classes
will help you boost your confidence
and get over stage fright maybe.
Which ultimately applies to all conversations.
I tried it, it helped.
Where else have you seen or met women
that you were attracted to?
Share your stories and ideas.
Start from wherever your social skills are at
and take one step out of your comfort zone.
Key point,
just for the sake of getting out of your comfort zone
the only goal being
to take the step
not for anything else other than for practice.
Not for some grander outcome
like having a conversation
or getting her phone number.
Just practice.
Remember, the key is to be open
friendly and respectful when meeting women.
And don't take it personally
if she's not in the mood for a conversation.
Women are moody creatures.
You have no idea what's going on in her world
so you might as well assume
it has nothing to do with you.
And act accordingly, which is
respectfully and compassionately.
Life begins outside your comfort zone.
You are not going to die
if you smile at a woman or say hey,
how's your day going so far?
Even if she scowls or worse
if she's rude thank God you dodged a bullet.
And if you don't let her reaction phaze you
then if she is a throwback
she won't have the satisfaction
of seeing you squirm.
But if she's just having a bad day
she may apologize
or at minimum potentially feel bad later.
Hard to believe I know,
but the good ones actually do feel bad
when they act rudely.
Also, remember
different settings suit different personalities.
So, find places that align
with your interests and passions.
This is especially important for introverts
who often don't like to leave their cozy homes.
Engaging in activities you're truly enjoy
provides common ground
and you'll enjoy yourself regardless.
And if you don't know what interests are
start trying new things.
You got to get out of your comfort zone.
Remember, rejection
is God's protection
and re-direction.
Or if you're not a God person the universe.
If you're an introvert
and she just want to expand your options
well then yes, maybe online dating is the way to go.
But tinder is the worst dating app
and I guarantee 99% of
you who've tried dating apps or are on them
are posting photos that are
instantly turning women off.
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If you do the work
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to attract the kind of woman
you want to keep.
You got this, I believe in you,
lots of love God bless.