if you know someone wealthy that means at some point somewhere in the
generations someone took a stand and said enough is enough and they were the
breakout person who went from broke to making an impact to making a change to
changing the legacy of the people below him
welcome to the Dene Graciosa show all success starts right here if you know
somebody that's an amazing relationship or they're an incredible parent but they
came from dysfunction that means there was a point where someone said enough is
enough and they made a stand they drew a line in the sand basically and changed
future generations with all the changes and the craziness going on in the world
isn't it time for all of us to take a stand to say enough is enough in our own
lives for society for the human race listen I drew my family's history here
because I I think it's so important to see how radical change can happen in a
moment it's not handed down it's not a gift
if previous generations didn't do it for us for the human race then it's our time
we must stand up we must decide that we are the generation that can make change
for ourselves for our family and for the world so I want to give you a little
history here I think it's really important in 1901 and I know all this
because my father is 84 years old tomorrow and he has the greatest memory
every my son was inherited that memory and he shared me with me all these
stories and I know I'm probably better than anyone in my life
but in 1901 my grandfather Carmen Graciosa left Italy and came to the
United States with nothing now my grandfather Carmen left because he was
in a very abusive family physically abused
so he said enough is enough and he left and came to America with nothing didn't
even speak the language he got here he married my grandmother myrtle how well
they have 12 children now unfortunately my grandfather didn't
stop the dysfunction he physically abused all 12 of his children he
physically abused my grandmother my grandfather my father tells me horrific
stories they finally divorced my father was the youngest of 12 my grandmother
was blind in one eye because at one point she was pregnant and I guess my
grandfather didn't want to have another baby and he punched her in the face
while her glasses were on and when she went on the floor
he took his heel and ground it and I don't mean to be so graphic but my dad
tells me in that story it still sticks in my head I've never shared it publicly
ever in my life he took his heel and ground it into her face and she went
blind in one eye that's what my grandmother dealt with massive
dysfunction finally she left him and and unfortunately none of the brothers and
sisters really got help with all the craziness so none of them really talked
to each other all my uncles and aunts my father's brothers and sisters none of
them really talked to each other my dad didn't talk to his own father when he
passed away he wasn't even talking to his mom at that moment because of family
craziness right you see how the dysfunction carries over so my father in
1963 marries my mom now when he marries my mom I'm betting he says if I have
children I'm not gonna hit them like my father
his father my father's father hit him and beat him so bad in second grade that
he said he was snapping the pencils they didn't have pens back then and he was
snapping the pencils so much that they sent him home and he missed second grade
because he was so stressed about what his father had done to him in 1963 he
marries my mom and they have my sister 9 am I'd like I said my dad carries over
and says I am NOT gonna hit my kids but my dad didn't work on his emotional
scars and my dad was very confrontation and by the time I was three my parents
were divorced and it was very ugly and craziness and moving all over and a lot
of fighting I won't go really deep in it and this happens for us I'm not
complaining about my past I wouldn't change one bit of anything I'm the man I
am today I'm the father I am today the husband I am today because of this
journey I'm showing you how there can be a line in the sand for our own lives for
our family for the human race for our culture so matters my sister and my dad
goes down a rail bad path I mean to this day my sister and him don't talk he
didn't talk to us a lot a lot of his brothers and sisters my parents I'll
keep going on here were married nine times between them I moved 20 times by
the time I was 19 years old we had massive um dysfunction in the family my
parents on-and-off being depressed I mean it was so confrontational I'll just
give you this at 11 years 12 years old they came home from school went behind
the dumpster at my dad's house and I threw up blood and found out I had a
bleeding ulcer my grandmother brought me to the hospital found out a bleeding
ulcer and I would not tell my dad because then he would blame everybody
else and it would be it would be way more stress to share so I didn't also my
parents didn't have money I lived in a trailer park with my mom until we got
asked to leave because we couldn't afford it at 12 or 12 I moved in with my
dad there was no heat in the house the only thing he had was a little electric
plug-in heater so we lived in the bathroom of the house there probably six
months through the whole winter never had money always stressed about money
both my parents worked hard my mom worked three jobs to make you know
nothing make a hundred bucks a week so money was always a problem stress always
a problem I'd have new stepbrother stepsisters then they were gone I have a
new step grandparents that I love dearly and come home from school one day and
say pack up we're leaving move in with another family with my dad and get
married have a new cool stepbrother and then all of a sudden I find out they're
fighting and it's horrific and the cops come and we move out and just all kinds
of dysfunction now why am i sharing this not surely because of poor
because there was a line in the sand I want to tell you this my father his
father my grandfather caused so much dysfunction that all his twelve children
I think 11 of them lived 11 children had so much dysfunction they handed it down
when I went to high school in my little town in Marlborough New York I went to
my town I go to my teacher mrs. Marta sello the first day of school she says
to me oh my god another grazi OC oh this is going to be fun
my cousins were so crazy because they handed down this dysfunction they handed
down the craziness but when it got to me and my sister this line in the sand I
want to tell you the moment you decide enough is enough that you are not
settling you're not going to repeat the mistakes of the past and past
generations who didn't fix it who didn't change who said they were and they
didn't when you decided I'm gonna be the one that below me nothing will ever be
the same below this generation nothing will be
the same below that I don't know because I have to tell you me and my sister
because of all the dysfunction we lived in separate houses by the time I was 10
we never lived together and before that I was with Graham she was with mom I
wasn't the closest or my sister I loved her dealer dearly and we're very close
now but we weren't but both of us had this desire to say we're not going to be
dysfunctional anymore we're not going to be broke anymore we're not going to
repeat the sins of the past that the the depression the the dysfunction of the
past and we decided and I don't know if it was God the universe my grandmother
and my mom something inspired me personally to make a difference now I
want to tell you my sister married the greatest man you could ever imagine my
brother-in-law Rob they've been married for 30 years they have two incredible
children oh my god Hunter and Tanner Tanner works with me he's my nephew he's
one of my top employees team member I should say he's amazing well-rounded in
a perfect relationship my nephew hunter top graduate top of his college married
already amazing business my sister has an incredible business self-employed I
was blessed to have more success than I ever imagined possible
I have three incredible children I have a wife that I mean she's my best friend
I fall more in love with her every day did some of my past come over into my
world yeah until I fixed it I was married before and divorced right but I
changed I didn't like living in a bathroom I didn't like the stress I
didn't like the dysfunction I didn't like the no relationship with parent I
didn't like confrontation and it just got to the point where I said enough my
sister said enough and here's what I know
every generation passed me will not reflect the same as all the disaster
before me do it would I change any of it hell no and that's why I wanted to do
this video today for my heart to ask you to share with you if don't you want to
be the one that said enough is enough for you enough is enough for your family
enough is enough for our society the human race that we could take a stand in
all areas it's I'm drawing a line in the sand this isn't something we're gonna
fix someday this isn't something somebody else is gonna fix for me or for
other other people there's no knight in shining armor coming to save us it's on
us and when you take responsibility for it oh my god when you take
responsibility for old beliefs I have to tell you the beliefs of multiple
generations of dysfunction are still inside of me my father instilled I love
him dearly now and we're in a different space but he's instilled some really
shitty for a lack of a better word beliefs inside of me then I had a purge
out because if I kept those beliefs I would get what they had if I kept those
beliefs about money I'd be broke if I kept those beliefs about family I'd be
single I have massive dysfunction if I kept those beliefs about being a parent
being married I would keep getting divorced over and over again and keep
screwing things up same with my sister if we take the sins of the past in our
society and the human race we will keep repeating this generation after
generation and enough is enough for us and the world what if we just declare
today this moment right now that we're going to be that person for our family
we're going to be the one that shifts everything we're going to be the ones
that in three generations from they're gonna look back and say oh my
god my grandmother you know she came from this and she other people her
family settled and they thought this but my grandmother my god she just she took
a stand and these are now my new values these are this is my new culture this is
what we've done wouldn't that be the greatest gift you could give and if you
know I mean think about it when success happens we could sell help solve
problems right we could solve with our actions the books we read the people we
surround ourselves with the words we use the actions we take we can also help by
cutting checks and helping foundations go faster and quicker like that's what
life is about growth and contribution this just shows that I was blessed to
grow I'm lucky I don't know how I got here but I did but we don't have to make
it look we can make a conscious decision to move forward I made conscious
decisions to model other successful people not my family I decided to read
books and go to masterminds and gain capabilities to make a shift and you can
make that decision right now wherever you are and it doesn't mean your life
has to be this horrific it just means that maybe you want to make a shift
maybe it's time for something new maybe it's time to have this line in the sand
in your lineage and when people look back they know you took a stand you made
a difference this message was on my heart this is my family this is where we
are and I believe all gracio sees below my sister mother maiden name is Gracia
see and my children it doesn't matter how much wealth they have the wealth
will be inside them the success will be who they are as a part of this human
race the contribution they give to the world the growth they continue to have
and how they pass that down to their children like handing off a baton of the
success baton not the dysfunction baton thank you so much for allowing me to
share my family's journey now please know I wouldn't change one bit of it
this made me the human I am today and I'm proud of the person I am but I'm
betting as I was sharing one part of it or multiple parts hit you maybe in your
relationships or the way you or the income that you created the
career you're in or the society that we're in and bonding the human race and
not settling anymore not allowing the past to repeat itself to stand up and
say enough is enough this is the generation this is the time I'm the one
that do it no one else can do it for me if you feel that way then then I did my
job sharing my personal life today thanks so much for being with me thanks
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