so I'm wondering if you've ever seen a friend that you haven't seen in years and they've lost a lot
of weight and you're kind of shocked especially if you have some weight to lose no I know I've been
in that situation and you end up commenting on how good they look and then they tell you about the
magical diet that they did to lose the weight whenever this has happened to me it's always
sparked my desire to get into shape and to lose those extra pounds that I've been carrying around
so I would commit to eating better and stop buying junk food obviously and at some point
I would struggle I'd often find myself picking up chocolate bars or some kind of dessert when I go
shopping I buy chocolate bars at the exit you know when you're leaving the checkout at the pharmacy
and of course stopping for takeout on the way home if I've had a long day what I find frustrating is
that in my mind I think I'm doing better that I'm on track because I'm eating home-cooked meals more
than I'm eating like out right so I'm eating much less junk food and then inevitably I get some kind
of wake-up call the one that stands out the most for me was my daughter's ninth birthday party
we were making um a Cookie Craft that I actually I created so I created these heart-shaped cookies
and then um they had to with a little like in between part that was to rise it up and
then so they were making like little containers out of cookies little heart-shaped containers
and I was wearing this like um loose fitting kind of dressy red top and jeans and my friend
took a video of like me helping the kids do all of this and then when I watched the video back
I could see wait in my face and I was like shocked at how much weight I was still carrying after
being so good right I was eating healthy and I was still so obviously overweight so what did I do
well of course I stopped torturing myself stopped worrying about what I was eating and went back to
eating normally because clearly it wasn't working we have a tendency to underestimate how long it's
going to take us to accomplish a task or how much investment will be needed so how much work
how much time and energy and effort will I need to put in to do something and especially if I see
Susie do it and she's not special so I think it's going to be easy right because if she can do it I
can do it this is particularly true when we talk about keto because the instructions are so simple
eat 20 grams of carbs or less every day and the results are amazing simple isn't the same as easy
because we think things are easy then we're willing to dedicate a few months to getting
into shape so I remember when I was in my 20s I could easily give a few months to
getting ready for bikini season for example the difference is that as you get older and
you have responsibilities and you have children every holiday or special occasion or event that
comes up is a scramble to find something that fits when we add this working from home thing
that we've all been doing it's even more obvious because we live most of our day in our pajamas
and our sweatpants and like workout clothes and we're not dressing up to do online meetings
or even if we do dress up the top half not the bottom half so we're not aware that our waistlines
are ever expanding right and of course there's the fact that we don't actually fully commit to
the diet too right like I was only half doing it that's why I was still buying some desserts and
I was still you know allowing myself to eat out or fast food I should say so I'm still allowing
junk into my diet and so for a few months we think we can manage to eat properly but those
few months turn into a few years and you don't get the success that you're looking for because
well you're not actually doing it right the fact that for some of us weight isn't the only
issue that years of eating junk food has led to metabolic damage ever increasing prescriptions
that we have to take and possible um surgeries on our Horizon that we've been eating junk and
hurting ourselves we go to doctor appointment after doctor appointment with the appointments
ending with the doctor saying that classic you need to lose weight try to cut out those sweets
I hadn't already thought of that right that I hadn't already tried to cut out sweets
but Keto seems like a great way to get our food under control because it seems to be one
of the big benefits of living a keto lifestyle that you're you're Cravings right they go away
another reason that we feel that keto is super simple is what we think is super easy actually
is because most people say that they lose the weight without doing any exercise I know that
I'm guilty of having said that because I honestly lost the weight without doing any exercise and
I've talked about that losing weight on a keto diet just it honestly just seems all
too good to be true and on I want you to understand it's because it actually is too good to
be true the problem is that none of the benefit that you get from doing a keto diet happens
overnight none of the benefit that you get is happening because of some kind of magic
that keto brings to the story it is an easy to eat 20 grams of carbs or less every day
all right I had cravings I had withdrawal I needed to learn a whole new way of cooking
I needed to verify what was on the menu whenever I wanted to go out to eat at a restaurant restaurant
because I had to cut out fast food restaurants and guess what the whole world thinks that I'm crazy
for eating the way that I eat that's not easy when you're talking to someone who successfully lost
weight and kept it off they accomplished something that's bigger than just changing the food
that they were eating right they decided that their health was worth eating differently than
everybody else that's a big deal that most people discount because in fact when they're doing a diet
they're planning to diet privately and what I mean by that is a lot of people when they're
doing a diet they eat healthy when they're at home by themselves but then eat garbage when
they're with family and friends or at any kind of event or when they go to a restaurant or any time
that they're with other people and this doesn't work I'm going to link a video to explain why
it's going to be here and it's going to be in the description but the other thing that they've done
is they've changed the way they manage problems when they get upset
so rather than self-soothing with food a common reaction that I used to have when I had some issue
happening I had to stop and actually solve the problems that were occurring in my life
and this is really hard because you no longer get to ignore things you no longer get to wait for
stuff to just blow over you actually need to take steps sometimes hard steps sometimes embarrassing
steps sometimes steps that cause problems between you and other people sometimes steps that change
the entire way your world's working you have to actively change a situation so that this problem
that's occurring in front of you a is solved now and potentially doesn't happen again in the future
and if it does happen again in the future you need to be willing to re-engage the solution
that you've come up with or find something that works better that is extremely hard that's why
a lot of people don't do it and that's why a lot of people end up self-soothing with
food and you need to stop that if you're going to successfully keep the weight off
another thing that I had to do was find fun
through activities and engaging with people rather than eating for entertainment right am I wearing
to prioritize health over taste right I had to put my health first and that meant finding fun a way
from food and I think this is the one that takes the most time to my to put our mind around because
in order to do this you actually need to learn about the impact that food has on your health
that means that you need to learn how eating the wrong foods not only makes you gain weight
which I think we all know that part but it also causes internal damage and sickness
and why that's important is that if I don't understand that my body struggles
to keep itself healthy when I eat chocolate bars when I eat chips when I eat ice cream
if I don't understand that fast food which is not made from the best ingredients
right because it's fast food causes damage internally because of those poor quality oils
and other negative practices that happen in fast food restaurants that
end up harming us then I don't understand why I have in my case I had sore joints
I had a lack of energy I had skin issues I had intestinal like so issues like bloating
and bathrooming issues there are lots of people that have heart issues PCOS high blood pressure
these are real health problems that we get prescribed medication for that are actually
being minimally impacted maximally caused by the foods that we choose to eat by the garbage
that we eat calling it food because all the things that I just listed are not meals
they're concoctions that were created to get us eating poor quality things that we shouldn't
be eating there's no reason that I should ever eat a chocolate bar there's no reason
I should ever eat chips but I was eating that stuff right because why it tastes fun
if we eat better if we eat meals if we eat for health we actually improve our health
but that takes time it takes time to lose weight it takes time to improve your health so
I was rushing home and I stopped at the store to buy fast food because when I get home I'm
not going to have time but then I'm exhausted but then I'm in pain so I'm moving slower and
I'm not able to accomplish what I need to accomplish in a reasonable amount of time
do I ever question what I'm doing the fact that if I would just rather than stop and
buy something just go home Violet and cook a proper meal that even if I eat it at 789 even 10
o'clock at night that the benefit to my health that I'm gonna get from eating that meal would
mean that I would actually gain time and I didn't know how true this was until I really lived it
but the fact is that because I cook every day and wellness words is not a statement that I
ever thought I would make that Violet would say I cook every day but because I cook every
okay I'm gonna give Pat credit sometimes he cooks and I don't have to but because
on a 14-day cycle I'm cooking like 10 of those days what that actually means is that
I'm eating healthy well cat Cooks healthy foods so we're eating healthy all the time investing
the time to make that meal not only meant that I healed my body but now I only ever eat when I'm
actually hungry and the benefit to that is that will actually most days and when I say most I'm
talking like 99 of the time I eat one meal a day and on that occasional one percent usually
happening on vacation when we're all together and I choose to have breakfast with everybody because
and I would even only do that one out of the seven days that we were on vacation I had breakfast once
why am I saying this out loud because I want you to think about something
I'm not cooking three meals a day I'm not cooking two meals a day
I'm cooking one good meal per day all of that time that I would have been giving
to eating at lunchtime eating at breakfast time to making that meal or searching for that meal
breakfast and lunch gone I got time back so I didn't have time to eat properly yes I did yes I
did we always have time to do the healthier thing for our body how do we do it we make the time
stop watching TV make the time for your health stop playing video games make the time for your
help stop scrolling Tick Tock and stop watching YouTube videos that are not helpful make the time
for your health you're going to put a lot of energy into resisting junk food
eating healthy learning how to understand how the different macronutrients impact your body
learning how to cook you're going to put a lot of energy into learning these things and you're
gonna feel like you're getting a degree in health to do it all it's a lot of work in the beginning
but once you've done the work and you start to see those small improvements because at the
beginning they're small but they get bigger and as time passes and your knowledge is increasing
and it's ever increasing can I point out that I'm still learning today can I point out that
I'm constantly seeing videos from Dr Berg Dr Ekberg Dr Barry um Dr Westman Dr bickman
I'm still Dr Baker like I'm still watching videos I'm learning new things
Dr O'Mara finding new doctors that's the other part of the story finding people that are
helping me to see that different perspective and helped me to realize that it's important
to have information so that I do what's best for my body and my health continues to improve
that's the lovely part of all of this we get older and we're made to believe that you're you
get older and you're just well it's all downhill right you pass 50. it's all downhill I feel better
than I felt in my 30s today I feel better how is that possible if it's all supposed to be downhill
because I'm actually taking good care of myself today how am I doing that by eating better
that one change eating the correct food for my health changed it all