Today I'm going to talk to you about dependence.
Those of us who have found our way to spirituality
have usually done so as a result of experiencing pain.
Our needs have not been met.
This leads to a deep sense of emptiness.
It leads to longing.
This is what really enables us
to walk down the spiritual path in the first place.
most of us who live a spiritual life,
are not strangers to self abuse.
And even though the spiritual path enables us to feel better,
We haven't completely changed our ways.
Instead we use spiritual truths to abuse ourselves with.
This is particularly true
relative to a precious teaching of ours.
A belief which is sacred.
The teaching is:
Independent Self-sufficiency
It is an appealing and beneficial thing
to learn that we alone create our own reality.
When we have believed that our lives are at the mercy
of the circumstance we find ourselves in.
And when we feel like victims to the reality
we are currently living in.
but after we experience the temporary improved feeling
of that independent power,
we feel the isolation that follows
and the pressure to do it all on our own.
The idea of Independent self-sufficiency
contradicts the universal truth that we are all one,
in the same way that hatred contradicts love.
The opposite vibration of love is fear.
Anger is an improvement upon fear.
The opposite vibration of empowerment is powerlessness.
Independence is an improvement on powerlessness.
Shall we stop there though?
No.
Ultimately to recognize independence
is to recognize yourself as apart,
and as divisible from the collective.
This recognition is only beneficial
to move you from a feeling of powerlessness to others,
into a feeling of empowerment.
It ceases to be beneficial and instead becomes detrimental,
when it causes you to feel isolated and separate
and as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders alone.
Most spiritual teachers and channeled entities
will teach according to where the current vibration is right now.
And it just so happens that if you were to take a snapshot
of life itself on planet earth,
the most collective vibration is that of powerlessness.
So it's beneficial for teachers
to come down and teach you
how to become empowered,
how to create your own reality and stop depending
on that which you feel powerless to.
See, spiritual teachers and especially channels
don't have the same attachment to truth that you do.
These beings will offer you a belief that serves your progression
regardless of whether it is true or not.
Regardless of whether it is illusion or not.
The truth is, you have an effect on everything that is,
and everything that is has an effect on you.
You've been told in the past
that you do not need to be affected by anything
other than your own thoughts.
This is not entirely true.
Because you are affected by you.
And your own thoughts are essentially you.
So your thoughts affect you.
Everything you create in your reality affects you.
You are indivisible from everything else in your existence.
Because of the truth of Oneness,
"they" are all you.
This means, they will always be a reflection of you.
We are learning from our reflection.
Everything that other people do affects you,
because everything that you do affects you.
By reorienting your focus towards something positive,
you can create what you want to create
regardless of what they are doing or not doing.
Because you are only as powerless
to what other people create, as you are to what you create.
The perspective that they are bigger and more powerful than you,
is an illusion.
When you realize they are nothing more than your reflection
blown up to a world scale.
The collective is moving away from utter powerlessness,
and so it is time for a progression and comprehension.
Anger is an improvement from powerlessness.
Independence is an improvement from powerlessness to others.
That's why, the teaching of independence,
the teaching of "You create your own reality"
is beneficial to you.
But there is a step that is beyond independence.
And that is, interdependence.
Which could also be called symbiosis
or mutual empowerment.
The bottom line is, you are dependent.
Anyone who wants to think otherwise,
is caught an illusion.
If you have to eat food, you're dependent on the food.
If you have to drive a car, you're dependent on the manufacturer.
You are dependent on all kinds of things.
People, places, things.
The very earth you stand upon, you are dependent on.
Because dependence is an absolute of your existence,
it is very important
that you don't get lost in the idea
that it is possible to be completely self-sufficient.
It will cause more pain in your life eventually.
You are dependent on everything in existence.
And everything in existence is dependent on you.
the universe is dependent on you.
You are dependent on it.
Without you, source could not know itself
and could not expand.
Without source you could not be alive.
Even if your perspective is that you aren't dependent on a person,
You're still dependent on the carrot on your dinner plate.
So why is it that the idea of dependence
scares us so badly?
It's because our own needs didn't get met when we were children.
We are not afraid of depending on things.
We're afraid of other things creating our reality for us.
We're actually afraid of powerlessness.
Because we don't trust that we create our own reality,
we doubt our ability to create.
It has nothing to do with hating that we depend on other things.
It's about hating that we feel is if we're powerless
to other things creating our reality for us.
Depending on something would not be a problem at all,
if we trusted that we could create what we are dependent on.
If we could trust that it wasn't out of our hands
and that we could create what experience we had,
then we would know that it wasn't therefore, out of our hands,
how we truly felt.
We would feel as if we controlled how we felt.
We wouldn't be at the mercy of the universe.
And then we would have no fear of dependence.
In fact we would invite it.
We doubt our own ability to create, to such a degree,
that we try to convince ourselves, using spiritual truths,
to not what we want and to not need what we need.
We jade ourselves by saying that this is a
"more spiritual state" to have no need whatsoever.
Now this is a problem because every single being in existence
has wants and needs.
So you've essentially made it impossible
to live a spiritual existence, and live at the same time.
The only reason that a need or a want would ever feel bad,
is if you don't believe that you can achieve that need or that want.
It's that, that actually causes the pain.
Not the desire or the need in the first place.
Our problem is not that we have needs.
Our problem is not that we need of people.
It's that we're convinced that by needing them,
they now create our reality.
We're convinced that our life is dependent on
what they do and don't do.
That throws us into a state of powerlessness.
In other words, we become a victim
to our own creation.
It's incredibly important that you remember this:
you are not powerless to anything as long as you create
what you are dependent on.
It's you doing it.
It always was all along it.
It just doesn't seem like it, when you're caught in the illusion
of self and other
We are constantly told by advocates of independent self sufficiency
that it is not appropriate to try to fulfill ourselves through other people.
That it's not okay to try to use people to fill the void within ourselves.
That every need should be filled in and of ourself.
But this is to see other people, as separate from you.
They are you.
If you use them to fill the void within you,
you are using you to fill the void within you.
We are all looking to fill an empty void inside of us, of need,
But the answer is not to stop needing or wanting,
it's to realize that we have the power to create what we need and want.
Even if what we need and want is another person.
In a world that is one, you can only ever be dependent
on that which is you.
See, we mistake dependence
for powerlessness.
And they are not the same thing.
Not even close to the same thing.
You cannot become independent.
To do so would be to separate yourself
from the rest of the universe.
This is not only not possible, It is also, not wanted.
Because the desire that vibrates at the heart of every being,
is the desire for unity.
We don't want to be alone.
We don't actually want the independent self-sufficiency we think we want.
We only want that when we've been hurt,
by needing something and not getting it.
Let's say I'm dependent on a significant other to feel safe.
Traditional spiritual teachings say that this is inappropriate.
That I am now powerless to my mate.
And to what he does and does not do.
But in a universe that is the reflection of thought,
I have created my mate.
I have caused the universe to bring him to me,
by virtue of law of attraction.
So all I am dependent on is my own creation.
All I can feel powerless to is my own creation.
And each creation of mine causes me to learn more about me
and hone and improve my creations.
My creations are therefore constantly evolving.
And therefore my sense of safety is constantly evolving.
If I don't like my creation, I can always improve it.
And change it.
If you depend on your creation,
which ultimately everything in your reality is,
then you are trusting your creation.
And everything in existence that is a creation is you.
So it can be said that to be truly dependent
is to be trusting.
See, we understand that a spiritual heightened state to be in
is the state of trust.
but you can't condemn dependence
without condemning trust at the same time.
And so it goes without saying,
that independent people, trust themselves only slightly more,
than those people who are completely powerless.
But neither actually fully trust themselves,
or what they create.
Depend is not a bad word.
Yet again, it is a beautiful concept that has been confused
for a different concept that is ugly.
To depend is to become one.
The world is so much more gentle and supportive than we realize.
So much more gentle and loving and interwoven
than we would let ourselves understand.
because we still feel so powerless to the world at large,
that we are trying to be a universe in and of ourselves.
The ego has used spiritual teachings
that were designed to empower you
as a tool to separate you further
from the Universe at Large.
This is a very good example of it:
it has used the idea of "you create your own reality"
and the idea of "Independence", in the spiritual community,
to separate us from the Universe at large.
That's an ego concept.
Those people who resonate
with the personal empowerment of Independence,
are the very people who have felt powerless
to getting their needs met by others.
Maybe they grew up in homes
where their parents weren't attentive to their needs.
Maybe their parents, vacillated back and forth
between meeting their needs and not meeting their needs.
Either way, needs became painful.
Depending on other people and other things became painful.
And that's the reason that it feels so good to them to become independent.
They had no choice, but to turn to themselves.
But this is an intermediary step.
Only a step, towards empowerment.
It is not all the way to empowerment.
The next step is to recognize your complete dependence on you.
And you includes all other beings in existence,
because they are all you.
This is an interdependent universe,
because the most absolute truth of this universe is that of oneness.
To want to only be dependent on yourself as a single unit,
is to only want to meet your own needs.
It is to want to dis include all other parts of you in this universe.
Because you've bought into the illusion
that they are other than you.
it is much more in alignment to include everything
that could be seen as other, as part of you.
And therefore enter be with it.
By allowing your dependence on it.
I want to introduce you to a concept;
The concept of going to the hardware store from milk.
I really love this idea.
It's the idea that It's okay to get your needs met.
You just have to go to the places
and the people who can meet your needs.
Which is not something which we're very good at.
We go to the hardware store for milk.
And we keep doing it day after day.
Even though, they're never going to sell milk.
What we really have to allow ourselves to do
is to give ourselves permission
to want what we want and need what we want.
And then to go seek out the people and places where we can actually
find those things.
And I promise you, that it is completely possible,
if it is people that you want,
to find people whose joy is satisfied
by meeting your needs and your desires.
You're not powerless to them.
You don't have to con somebody who doesn't want to meet those needs
into meeting your needs.
You have to go to the milk store for milk.
As an extension of source energy
you are endowed with the power to create.
And you are not powerless,
the minute that you understand that you can create
what you're dependent on.
So does that make you dependent?
No and yes.
The time has come for those of us
who are in the spiritual practice and in the world in general,
to step into a place of empowered interdependence,
and away from a place of independent self sufficiency,
which is an illusion.
I promise you, your happiness will increase
as a result of it.
Have a good week.