hello in this video I'm going to explain exactly how anxiety is fixed through therapy
there are many misconceptions out there especially when it comes to things like
hypnosis and people have this idea that they go into a trance and they're giving
suggestions and their mind is controlled by someone else and when they wake up all of the
problems are magically gone well in this video I'm going to explain why that is and isn't true
my name's Paul and I work online with people all over the world to help them overcome their fear of
driving now it doesn't matter what your problem is if it's anxiety fear of flying fever driving you
can be weight loss it can be stopping smoking what I'm about to say works for all of those
things and pretty much most problems you can have in your life we're going to use driving anxiety
as an example so imagine you've got a client who gets scared every time they start driving on a
highway in any kind of speed now what's happening is that problem lives in their subconscious mind
so that's why when you're driving you can seem so weird because you think well hold
on why am I getting scared I've done all this before and I don't understand why I'm getting
scared it's because you're thinking consciously but the problem is coming from your subconscious
BC where people go wrong because they often have this idea that the way you get rid of a problem is
you put someone into a trance by counting down from ten to one and you talk very softly like
this and you whisper and talk about waterfalls and unicorns and the soft music playing that
stuff is for people who don't really know what they're doing okay that is amateur stuff and I
will explain why in other videos but for now let's keep the focus on how the problem actually fixes
the reason you have this problem is it's some kind of dark mysterious thing the lurks in the
shadows in your subconscious mind that's how people think of it so what we do is in therapy
we shine a light on the problem we talk about the problem we explore it from different angles
because I understand how the mind works and I've try and do things like hypnotherapy NLP counseling
Psychotherapy all these different things I can use a number of different approaches to bring
that problem from your subconscious mind into your conscious mind and that is really all you
need to do you bring it into your conscious mind now when it's in your conscious mind it makes more
sense and then you realize it doesn't make sense and then the problem goes but it's not magic okay
we're not talking here about some magic where somebody clicks the fingers waves through Arm
System magic words and then your problem magically goes and your subconscious mind has been taken
over by a hypnotist all that stuff is nonsense and even though I tell everyone this before coming for
session with me they still expect that that's what I have people say at the end of the session well I
thought you were going to put me into a trance and do all this stuff no because that stuff is
rubbish that's not what happens now can it work yes you can do things which I'll come on to in
a moment where you can tell people things and if their mind takes it in it can affect their life in
a positive way one example of this for me is cats so whenever I think of cats I only have to think
of a cat and I'll smile and I'll laugh and I'll think oh yeah little cats little kittens running
around that for me sets off a reaction of being happy and smiling and it doesn't matter what's
going on I just think of cats and I'll smile so these things do work you can what you call
Anchor some link into someone's mind so that when I think of a trigger which is a cat it sets off
the anchor so the trigger is a cut and now sets off the anchored state of Happiness so for me
cats equal happiness but it's not that simple when you have a fear driving you don't just put someone
into a trance and say when you're driving you're going to feel happy and then the person goes out
driving and thinks oh wow I feel happy he's done something to my mind that stuff's rubbish okay
to do that can take many many weeks if not months of constantly reconfirming those triggers and
anchors you can't just say once or twice or three times and expect it to stick it does
not work when people have done sessions for stop smoking they often think that they're going to
be able to come out of a session and they just magically won't be able to pick up a cigarette
of course you can if you want to you can always pick up a cigarette and smoke but the difference
is when you've brought the reason for the problem from your subconscious into your conscious you
simply won't want to do it anymore because the need to do it would have gone so let me give you
an example of how I fix this and how it's got nothing to do with post-hypnotic suggestions as
many people think I had this problem where I kept getting a tight pain in my chest and I didn't know
what it was and I just kept thinking why does my chest keep feeling tight I knew he wasn't a stroke
or a heart attack because he'd been going on for quite a while but I couldn't work out what it was
now some of you will already know what it is and this is the thing when you look in someone else's
problem it's so easy to see what the problem is but when you're trapped inside the loop you just
can't see what other people can see it's a bit like when you get someone in a relationship and
they're being abused by the partner and you think well why don't you just leave them and
anyone who looks in and says well it's obvious just leave them but the person in that situation
just cannot see that as a solution they're trapped in this Loop but let's go back to this example I
was giving you about this tight chest that I had I did some work in this with a friend of mine who's
a therapist and we found out that the reason I was getting this was because of indigestion
now indigestion can be caused by if you eat too quickly so when I realized oh it's just
indigestion because I'm eating too quickly I had to make a conscious effort to eat
more slowly so every time I ate a meal I had to consciously think right slow down don't rush it
the difference is because you might be thinking well why not just do that anyway it's obvious
you won't find the reason for your anxiety that easily you can't just sit down close your eyes
and think about why you've got it people always say to me every time I get emails from people
every time people leave comments they say I don't get it because I've sat down and I've
thought about this for ages and I've thought about it for 20 years and I just can't think what it is
you won't because you don't find it by thinking about it that's where a therapist comes in
therapists are trained in ways of finding these things that you will never find just
by sitting down and thinking about it the more you think about it the further away it will get
when I found out why I was eating so quickly I thought wow I can't believe that's why I've been
rushing things and I had to make a real conscious effort to slow down my eating in many respects I
used to also talk too quickly if you watch my other videos these stories and people sign a
contest I'm saying she's talking about a thousand historizers in my videos and that's how I used
to speak all of the time I used to rush so much whenever I spoke and if you notice in my recent
videos I've slowed right down because I've been made aware of the reason I used to rush my talking
and my eating and I used to walk really fast now I'm aware of why that is it makes me laugh
I think I can't believe why that is I'm not going to tell you because it's something personal but
that's why I used to rush everything and now I know that I no longer rush things so you see it
wasn't some magical trigger that someone put into my mind so the point of me telling you all this is
that therapy is not like people think it's not about going into a deep trance and having these
deep suggestions hidden in your mind those things can work and a good example of that is theme songs
to your favorite TV show you only have to hear the theme song starting to play and you start smiling
you think oh yeah you turn the volume up you sit down you think I'm excited I want to see this
new episode that's an example of something being anchored in your mind so the TV theme is anchored
but every time you hear it it triggers you into feeling happy and wanting to go and watch the TV
that's why if you didn't know that's why they use jingles in adverts so you can remember the product
it's the same thing as logos it's all about triggering an anchored state but that's not how
the therapy ID works be aware it takes a conscious effort to overcome the fear of driving it's not
just that because as you know if you watch my videos about exposure therapy that alone doesn't
work that's amateurs who looking from the outside and think hey look these people just kept driving
and they got better and they tell people go and drive just drive everywhere keep driving and push
through and you'll get better exposure therapy alone does nothing because what they're doing
is the conscious part they're doing the thing you have to do after therapy but they haven't actually
done the therapy they've missed out the bitr where you go and find the cause of this problem
so that's how you get rid of anxiety to sum that all up very simply you find out why you've got it
you find out the exact calls and it isn't exactly why you've got it I'm not going to give away all
of my secrets in these videos but why you've got it is not actually the thing you want to joined
it's something else but for the sake of this video I'll just take this example I'm going to State why
you've got the problem you bring that into your conscious mind and you think hey that's silly
you mean I've been getting these chest pains just because I've got indigestion and it's because I've
been eating too fast and that's because of this thing that happened years ago and you see no way
that's why I've been rushing everything and you slow down so you see it's not about some magical
Quick Fix solution and I keep saying the word magical because that's what people think hypnosis
is and it's not the kind of hypnosis I use is a style called conversational hypnosis so I can
effectively hypnotise someone and I hate saying that because you don't hypnotise someone they do
it to themselves and there'll be a link to a page on my website which explains all this in detail
but simply I can hypnotise people as you were just by talking to them and I started doing this when
I worked as a driving instructor and I would talk to people when they were driving because
do you know what one of the easiest ways hypnotise yourself is to drive a car I mean you've probably
heard of highway hypnosis I won't go into that now but have you ever wondered why you can get
to a destination get out and you can't even remember the journey check out these videos
on the screen now and if you'd like to learn even more and work with me one-to-one visit my
website 1stdrive.com thanks for watching and as always I'll see you again soon for more videos