Are you dealing with the narcissist that's
scaring that crap out of you?
And you are so ready to scare
that narcissist out of your life, instead.
Then you definitely wanna watch this
video all the way to the end
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Six ways to scare a narcissist out of your life.
It's time to scare a narcissist out of your life.
They usually have you running scared.
Right?
That's what they wanna do.
They wanna scare you.
They wanna intimidate you.
They want you to be the one who's feeling nervous
and scared all the time.
Okay.
Why did they do that?
Because they get narcissistic
supply from it.
Right?
So the first thing that you can do is number one.
Not be intimidated by their behavior.
You know why?
Because they're actually way more afraid
of you than you are of them.
That's the not so secret secret.
They're the scared little person inside
and they don't want you to know it.
So the minute that you're not intimidated
by their behavior they're like,"
‘‘hey, what's going on here?’’
Because there's certain types of
people that the narcissist respect.
And I want you to check out my video.
This is the only kind of person
that a narcissist respects.
Check out that video
and you will see what I'm talking about.
So number one.
Don't be intimidated by their
behavior and you will start
to see how things will shift.
I know it's scary at first.
You will see.
And closely related is number two.
When you start not giving into their demands.
You're starting to shift they're dynamic.
You're starting to not be conditioned
by them anymore.
What happened was at the beginning
of the relationship if they started conditioning you.
They started to say,
‘‘hey, here's how things work.’’
They started to do things they
first started love bombing you.
They came along.
They were perfect.
They were wonderful.
Rockets were going off.
Things were lining up.
There were soul mates to you,
whether it was a business relationship,
whether it was a personal relationship,
either way.
I was in a business
relationship with a narcissist.
It was the same thing.
Everything was wonderful.
Everything was perfect.
Everything was amazing.
And then they start valuing you.
Then they start doing things,
whether it's a covert narcissist,
whether it's a grandiose,
whether it doesn't matter.
They start doing these little things where you go,
‘‘oh, what's going on?’’
That's when they're starting to condition you.
That's when they start going.
‘‘Oh, let let's see how they do.’’
‘‘Let's see what happens here.’’
Right?
And when you start not
giving into those demands,
you're conditioning them back.
That's when you start pivoting.
That's when you start shifting
that dynamic around.
Don't get into their demands.
Number three
When you start putting those
boundaries into place.
Again, you're starting to turn that ship around.
So that now you're starting to point the guns
at them instead of having the
guns be pointed at you.
And I have a whole video called
Five ways to set boundaries with narcissists.
You definitely wanna check that out.
If you wanna know how to set
boundaries with narcissists.
Alright?
Want you to put in the comments right now.
‘‘NOT GIVING IN!’’
because that's what you're
gonna do right now.
You are not giving in, right?
You are changing how things
are gonna be from now on.
There's a new game in town.
Another thing that you do with
them is this is number four.
When you focus on the facts,
they can't take that.
Especially when they're trying to
gaslight you all the time.
When they're constantly trying
to go this is what happened.
No.
This is what happened and you go,
‘‘mm-mm, I saw it with my own eyes.’’
‘‘I heard it with my own ears.’’’
‘‘I know what happened.’’
This is what happened
and you don't get emotional.
And this is actually number five.
Emotional regulation is key.
You focus number four.
Focus on the facts.
Number five.
Do not get emotional.
Don't allow yourself to be triggered.
When you do that,
you seriously start to scare
them out of your life
because you are no longer allowing
yourself to be triggered by them.
And when you do that,
that's when you're cutting off
that supply source to them.
And that's when you're really gonna
scare them out of your life
because the bottom line is that food,
that oxygen,
that supply source when that
main line is still running toward them.
That's when they're still
gonna be coming at you.
That's when they still want you.
And as long as they're getting some
food source that some oxygen,
some supply source from you,
they're still gonna come around.
If you're still intimidated.
You're still fearful.
You're still giving in.
You're still allowing.
That's giving them some
reason to come around.
Okay?
And especially if you
have an emotional reaction.
That emotional reaction gives them supply.
It also gives them fodder for things
that they can use against you.
Especially if you have some kind of
legal case going on with them.
They will use that against you.
They will say,
‘‘look, there's the crazy one.’’
There's the one while they sit over,
they're all cool and calm and collected.
They use that in text.
They use that in emails.
They use witnesses against you.
Don't allow it.
Okay?
Go scream in your pillow.
Go cry in the shower.
Go talk to your therapist.
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whatever you need to do to not
have an emotional reaction.
Do that!
Okay?
That's number five.
Number six
and then don't allow it back if you can
or if you have to have one form of
communication have it be email
or some other way that you can
track the time and date stamp.
You know, if you have children
the apps are good.
You know, the ones that you can track
because you want a record of everything.
You want something that you can track.
Because they will use it against you.
They will manipulate things.
A hundred percent, they will.
Anything you say or do will be used against you.
And if you are getting ready
to negotiate with the narcissist.
Grab my free crush my negotiation
prep worksheet at crushmydeal.com for sure.
But these are the six ways to
scare a narcissist out of your life.
I want you to make sure you start using these
for sure if you are dealing with a narcissist.
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And remember that today is a great day to
start negotiating your best life.
You can definitely do
this the only win if you give in
which you are not going to do.
We're here to help and support you.
I am so glad that you are here and
I will definitely see you in the next video.