This video is about "Green Flags in a Guy." I will reveal the top green
flags to look out for for a guy that you want to date or have a relationship with
To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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Ladies are you having trouble meeting a good quality man? Are you stuck in the cycle of
ending up with the same type of guys? You know the types I'm referring to... Well allow me to go on a
little rant here before I reveal the top green flags to look out for in a guy you wish to date.
Social media is full of lies... from fake news to heavily filtered images and more. With that are
couples who look like they're perfect in every way aesthetically but are most likely actually
toxic and dysfunctional under the hood. All of this is contributing to your potentially unrealistic
views of men and especially relationships. One social media video went viral about "how men love
a woman who is a b****!" I can safely say healthy genuine good quality men do not want a woman who
behaves or acts like a b****! Ignore the BS online for your own sanity and for a better chance of
attracting someone more worthwhile. Sometimes also your closest friends can want to see you fail due
to their own insecurity and anxiety. If you are constantly complaining about your dating failures
a sneaky friend could be giving you advice that will hinder you actually turning things around
such as = "well he seems nice but maybe he's too nice...or he looks good but how much money does he make..."
Ignore the BS from your friends especially if those friends are divorced or single
and lastly whilst family approval might be important some of the happiest couples I know
of were originally dismissed by their parents, AKA "he's not good enough for you" and then they've gone
on to have the best relationship one could ask for. My point is trust yourself and your own intuition
of course avoid anybody toxic and be very very aware of the glaring red flags to look out for
when it comes to certain men especially if you've not been single for a long time...
With that being said here are the green flags to look out for in a guy!
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The first Green flag to look out for in a guy is someone who's comfortable in his masculinity
He doesn't need to be ripped or Adonis but he's unapologetically a man. I once dated a woman who
used to be a huge feminist (not for very long) but she said that "all my life I was acting a certain
way until I met you, who came across confidently and kind of manly... it may be naturally more
feminine towards you!" No healthy relationship wants the woman to take on the role of a man trust me.
The following are examples of healthy masculinity to look out for he takes the lead he knows what
he wants in the relationship and his future with you he plans the date, the socializing, the moving
in, The Proposal... He confidently knows where he's going and wants you to go along with him
Personal responsibility = the masculine man owns his flaws and takes responsibility for his actions
if he does not pursue his goals then they don't get achieved... if he abuses his body he
suffers... if something goes wrong he'll do his best to rectify then blame the world
Real men own their life regardless of the circumstances, and lastly protective the
masculine man is passionate and protective of his woman... not in a possessive or controlling
way that's toxic, but he gives off an aura that she feels safe and comfortable in his presence
He won't blow up over the littlest of things that he can be calm in the storm of the life
that is their relationship and if a crisis comes he swims instead of sinks. I'd focus more
so on masculine personality traits rather than masculine and physical ones because you can have
rippling muscles, six-pack abs, a chiseled jaw and everything so on but looks fade over time
and looks are not what you need from a man in the Long Hau,l because if that's all you're basing
it on then you might go down the narcissistic sociopathic toxic route when dating a man like that...
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Regrettably we live in a era of BS and Extreme Fabrication just look at social media
I've researched and asked hundreds of women over the years of an underrated green flag
they look for in a guy, this was up there with the most common response = honesty!
Look in the dating world men love to impress and are known to exaggerate and overcompensate
they'll say things like this "I am in finance AKA I invest in crypto... I'm in real estate I own an
apartment and rented out on Airbnb... I'm in media I'm an influencer..." whilst that in my opinion seems
relatively harmless the angle of honesty I'm going down is more about intentions, feelings and future
plans. Most unhealthy and toxic men are cowards are not upfront with anyone at all and are emotionally
dishonest... they hold on to relationships because they're too scared to let go or perhaps cheat
and have affairs and create nothing but drama. Look out for the following brutally honest
statements from a good man = "I'm happy to tell you about my past... I want you to move in with me... I'm
looking for something serious... I love being with my family... I have nothing to hide I'm an open book
I spend a lot of time alone and therefore I'm looking for a real connection...
I've been through a lot of trauma but now I'm ready for something healthy and genuine...
I genuinely want something meaningful... This is me I'm not ashamed of who I am...." That last statement is
one of the most important. For example I'm a huge nerd I love comics, gaming, geeky stuff, I tell women
that's who I am I'm unapologetically myself which I've been told makes me very attractive.
Real men know who they are... real men own who they are... real men are not afraid to show who they are
and honesty is a rare commodity these days! If you see it if you hear it it's a green flag!
A huge green flag is a guy that's consistent! Again very rare to find in a very flaky, dishonest world
consistent can mean different things... consistent plans when he sets a date in a diary he means it
even if it's weeks ahead he shows up on time and plans the entire night... he books, trips, vacations
and even promises to meet you, friends, family regardless of how busy he is and his work is
if he makes time for you and plans accordingly that's great to see! Next consistent effort in the
early stage of dating it really is the man that makes the effort AKA asks the woman out and so on
not necessarily does he do all the chasing but he must put himself out there, he must take her
out for drinks then dinner and so on. As the dating eventually gradually evolves into a relationship
If the effort is still there... still texts you as much as he did months before and
there are no games, no awkward silences it's a good sign! Consistent with feelings.. often
women complain that a man can be emotionally dishonest... claiming one minute he likes her the
next he's not sure! This again is the nice guy, the toxic guy, the time waster, he goes all in
maybe to have intercourse to get attention only then to ghost and be emotionally unavailable!
The healthy man's not like that at all, he's consistent... if he says he likes you he shows
it the same with affection with love and this goes beyond the honeymoon stage when you're
perhaps living together etc. Look eventually relationships will stabilize and things might
not be as exciting as they were at the start but if the man throughout it has made it clear
of how much he cares by small gestures showing compassion and being present it's a great sign!
The alternative to the consistent healthy man is the inconsistent one... the guy who
does the opposite to everything I've said and who should be avoided at all costs.
The following are some other green flags to look out for in a guy = clear communication if you don't
find yourself second guessing things and you can talk openly and honestly about serious
things this is so healthy... you should be able to talk to your man about anything and everything
The EX is out of the picture... I've made many videos about the power of walking away especially from
toxic relationship and exes of any kind! EX's are in the past even if it was amicable and if his
ex is not in his life at all and he plans to never have her too, count yourself lucky!
Drama free... if he's not a drama queen and doesn't associate with people who create
drama it's a big green flag! Like attracts like remember that. Clean and sober, I never
heard of the healthy couple where one of them was addicted to something dangerous or toxic
as a former addict myself who's now clean and sober my dating and relationships have
become far healthier as a result! And lastly Choose You... if you feel like they just get you
AKA they're just as invested excited to see you prioritize you as much as you do them this is
a wonderful green flag, AKA choosing someone who chooses you! A very underrated dating tip...