Subtle Signals Women Notice [0:00:00]
So, what's the first thing a woman notices about a man when he walks into a room? Can
you guess what it is? No, it's not your clothing. And, no, it's
not the way you smell. You're good-looking smile? No, it's not that either. The answer?
The way people in your immediate vicinity react to you.
Are you being treated with respect or are you being treated like a nobody? Are you walking
in with two women on your arm or are you walking in alone? You see, human beings, we're social
animals and we look at the social interaction. We look at the status of individuals, not
by what they say their status is, but actually how other people treat them.
Just think about it. Have you ever been around a celebrity? Whenever they walk into the room,
the whole energy changes. And you might not even see them, but all of a sudden people
are acting differently, people are paying attention. This person has high status because
the people around them are reacting like this. Now, you may not be a celebrity, but you can
still use the way people react to your advantage. So, first up, if you're going to a party,
you're going to a club, you're going to a bar, don't walk in alone. You want to show
social proof by going in with other people. Not necessarily a big group of guys.
And in fact, if you can bring in a woman or even two women with you who happen to be friends,
guess what? All of a sudden the other women in the place notice, wow, this guy has status.
You don't have to say anything. They simply look that these women have accepted you as
someone that can be around them, therefore you are acceptable and desirable.
So, what if you don't have any friends or not any friends that evening? You're going
out alone, what do you do? Talk to the bartender. Make a few quick friends at the bar. Buy some
people drinks. Because later on they're going to remember, you're going to run into them
and people are going to notice, oh, he knows this person, he knows that person, boom, status
much higher. So, the second thing a woman notices before
you open your mouth, the way you move. Again, very primitive thought process here down at
the base of the brain. We're talking the lizard brain. You're making the decision fight or
flight or at least she is because she's looking around for a threat like any human being is
when they're in and around people. So, you want to avoid making quick fast movements
towards a person. You also want to be careful if you've had
too much to drink. How can we spot drunk people? Because their falling, they're slipping. There
is something we can tell is not correct with their movement. Now, when men are being looked
at by women, when they know they're being looked at guess what we do? We strut, we swagger.
And that is basically when you swing your shoulders back and forth. And, don't worry,
guys, we all do it. It's natural, it's normal and do find it attractive. Interestingly on
the women's side, they actually swing their hips when they know men are checking them
out. So, how to use body language to your advantage?
Two parts to this. First up, be natural, be laid-back, be confident,
be yourself. Have you ever noticed? Yeah, when you're just simply laid-back, that's
when the magic happens. Guys, let your body do what it does naturally.
Now, the second part takes us to our next point which is silhouettes, specifically a
masculine silhouette. And, I've said this before, but what do I mean by a masculine
silhouette? That is when your shoulders in proportion to your hips and your waist basically
are larger, and it's about a three to two ratio. There's not really a magic number.
The point here to understand is that when you wear jackets you wear clothing that builds
up your shoulders like a leather jacket, a sports jacket, a suit jacket. What does this
do? First up, it accentuates the shoulders and draws contrast with your surroundings.
So, when you're strutting when you're, you know, having that walk and your shoulders
are going back and forth, guess what? We can see it and it's more pronounced and therefore,
it's more attractive. In addition, it trims up your waist. Makes you look taller, builds
up the shoulders. All of this does, it's visually pleasing to women and that's what they notice.
Now, at this point you both are much closer to each other, what is she zeroing on? The
bling. The small accessories the details that can give her a little bit of clues information
on who you are and basically what you're about. Pocket squares, cufflinks, rings, earrings,
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The next thing she's going to notice body language. What you don't want to do is to
close yourself up. You don't want to turn your back to her. Yeah, maybe you're playing
hard-to-get, I get that. We could talk about that little bit later. But, the point is,
you want to be approachable. You want to have your chest facing her. So,
even if you're speaking with somebody and she's over there, you can be talking with
your friend here, but you're showing her that you are open to her approaching you or that
you may approach her. Now, the next thing she's going to notice
is color. And it really depends on the situation. If you're in indoor club and it's dark inside,
color isn't going to be as powerful as if you're outside during a day party. But, pay
attention to color and those around you because it's about setting yourself apart, actually
standing out from the crowd at the same time, not being gawked at.
So, you don't want to wear, you know, a really bright colored suit, but you do want to wear
something that maybe has you stand apart from the crowd. So, bring maybe color into the
pocket square, a colorful necktie. Red is a powerful color. Orange is a powerful color.
Even gold can be a powerful color. But, you want to be careful of certain colors
like black. I like black. It can slim up the silhouette, but understand that wearing all
black can make you come off as aggressive as someone that's not really approachable.
I still think a guy can pull it off. Imagine if you had a small little bit of a pocket
square or you actually had everything else, yes, just you could still pull it off.
But, there are other colors maybe like brown that you want to avoid because they remind
us of certain things that you don't want to remind people of. The point is, find the colors
that work for you and leverage them. The next thing she's going to notice is how
you smell. And understand that women are in general much more sensitive to fragrance than
men are. But that being said, it's very situation- dependent. If you're going into a club and
a lot of people are going to be smelling, that's when you're probably going to use more
of a fragrance. Or let's say you're at a party and you're
going to be in a much more intimate setting where you're going to be in a small room with
a smaller group of people, in that case you want to maybe wear something that isn't going
to announce you walked into the room and is a bit more subtle, but still very approachable.
I will stress that every man has the ability to discover his own signature scent. I think
it's great to have one for each of the seasons. In addition, have a few that are just your
go-to scents that give you confidence that make you feel great every time you put them
on. Next up, you can bet she's going to look at
your shoes, and she's going to make a quick judgment. The first thing she's going to look
at is, are they clean? So make sure if you're wearing sneakers, you've got clean laces.
Make sure you don't have dirt or mud all over them. Take the time to take care of your shoes.
And, if you're going to go casual, go with something that looks good. So many options
out there. But, if you decide to go with dress shoes, again, make sure they're polished and
make sure you've got something that looks good and don't be afraid to actually have
some fun. Right here, we can say, okay, this guy is
into dress shoes, but he's into dress shoes that have a bit of character. Got the blue
suede going on or maybe you want to go simple and clean, boots. Just a beautiful slick great
look right here that beautiful shine, that shows that you care. Or maybe you're not in
the shiny boots, guys, bunch of options. Suede, look at the style right here. This screams
rock star. She's going to think, hey, I want to get to know that guy.
Next up, let's talk about your smile. A few things with this. First up it's going to show
that you're happy that you're jovial. People want to be around people that make them feel
good. Next up, she's going to look at your teeth.
She's going to look and smell your breath. If you're getting this close up, guys, make
sure that you've chewed gum that you brushed your teeth that you take care of your breath.
Drink water. If nothing else, that'll help wash down some of that bacteria and clean
up your breath. Next up, let's talk about those teeth. Don't
be afraid to go get them whitened, take care of your teeth, get them straightened if they're
really bad. And, now, let's talk about eye contact. So,
this may have started a while back, but you're about to open your mouth. What are the rules
on eye contact when you're talking with a woman?
Guys, I've got you covered with this video right here the rules, actually the mistakes
you want to avoid when making eye contact when engaging with women. I've got you covered
in this video right here. Check it out, guys. I will link to it as well down in the description.
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