I remember during my teenage years, I was someone who was very co-dependent on others,
and in decision making, I used to always seek someone else's approval, so that even if I made
a mistake in any kind of decision making, I can blame it on someone else, and I don't have to take
myself into accountable, and I don't have to take responsibility for all the decisions that I made
which is why I would ask my mother, or my brother, or my sister, or my father, or anyone in general
to make decisions for me, so that I don't have to take responsibility, but of course,
there is a really bad mindset to have because, then you start becoming co-dependent on others,
and you start losing trust on your own self, and now that I am 22 years old, and now I have
developed myself in a mindset that I'm enough, and I love myself the way I am I've actually figured
out how to actually beat decision fatigue, and how to really fully trust yourself again with
decision making, so we're interested to find out the three steps process on how to really become
really good at decision making, and someone who actually trusts herself, or himself, then please
keep watching this video till the end. The first step is to make sure that you are actually taking
all small, and big decisions by yourself for the next, however long it is, I'm going to be sharing
with you all later on in step number three, so you want to make sure that you're taking any kind of
decision in your life all by yourself that could be for example let's say, if you want to go out on
if you're deciding whether to go out on a Monday, or a Tuesday you decided for yourself, if you're
deciding between two sets of clothes that you want to wear to wor, or to school, then you decide that
for yourself. If you want to order some kind of food, but you know that there's food at home as
well, and you're not really sure what to do you want to make sure that you're making a decision,
quick, quick, quick in those moments, and you're not allowing yourself to ask someone else to make
a decision for you. For example, let's say if I'm really confused as to whether I should be
ordering something from Uber, and I know that my mom has made some kind of food at home,
then and if I really feel like eating something from outside, I would actually make sure that
I'm actually ordering something, and then I would tell her that I've ordered this, and in that way,
I've actually listened to myself, at the same time, I've done my decision making easier, and
also then I'm gonna be having the food, but obviously, that might disappoint my mom
in a way, and I'm sure that whenever you make any kind of decision, someone will be disappointed
at it anyway, so you want to make sure that you're listening to your heart, and actually doing things
that you actually love doing, and on a side note, you want to make sure that you are making any kind
of decision by yourself, whether they might be small or big, it could be again, for example,
let's say "Do I take a shower today or tomorrow?" You can decide for yourself, you don't have to
ask your parents, or your siblings, or anyone in general for that matter, and in that way,
whenever you start doing the small little changes in yourself, in your decision making, you will
see that you're going to be trusting yourself more and more naturally because you believe in
yourself that even if you make a mistake in this decision, it's all your responsibility,
and no one will be blaming you for it, or telling it why did you make this decision, or something
like that, so I believe that take small, big decisions as much as you can on a daily basis.
Once you completely have mastered step number one, step number two is something that you also
want to do on a daily basis to make sure that you're gaining full trust back in yourself,
and believing in yourself, and also believing that you're enough on your own,
and you don't need anyone else's approval, or decision making to make your life better,
and that's to make sure that you're waking up every single morning thinking about three
things that you're actually grateful for, and why. This is a very, very, very important step
I believe because, whenever you start thinking about all the things that you already have, then
you start believing naturally that you're already enough, and you don't need your mom's approval,
or your dad's approval, or your parents' approval, your siblings' approval, or anything like that,
to make your life better because, you know you are you're good enough, you're worthy enough to
make your own decisions, and because you believe in yourself, and you know that whatever decision
you want to make in your life is unfolding as it should be, and at the same time, you believe
that's the best decision for you at that time, in that way, also whenever you're going back to
sleep, and you review those three things you have already written in the morning, that also makes
it reflect in your head that before you go to sleep that..."You know what...Actually, I've got
my life figured out and I'm a person who's very worthy, I'm grateful I have all these things, and
I should not be feeling that I'm not enough, and I need someone else's approval, or decision making,
or values into my life to make myself look better, or feel better..." In that way, you will see that
once your mindset actually changes like this, you will be taking more responsibility and more
accountability into your own life. The third step is probably the most important one out of these
three steps that I'm going to be sharing with you all, and that is consistency.
If you're going to be actually taking small, big decisions only for one day, or for once a week, or
you're going to be actually being grateful only for once a week, or something like that, that's
actually not going to help you in your decision making, and building the trust within yourself,
so you want to make sure that you're doing this on every single daily basis, I would say at least 30
days, but it can take also longer depending on how many times, or how many years you have dependent
on others, and you have become co-dependent on others, and how much low self-esteem, or law or
self-issues, you actually have within yourself, but I would highly recommend at least for 30
days try this out, and believe in yourself that this will actually work out, these three steps
will definitely make your life better, and you have the positive mindset that everything is
working out for you as it should be, and you are definitely going to be living your life in a way
that you're going to be not co-dependent on others, you're going to be independent,
and you can make your own decisions, and your life will be so much better after that, and also start
practicing in a way that you already have gained that life, where you're actually independent,
and you don't need other people's approval, in that way, it also manifests a really good life
as well, and it makes you also believe in yourself much quicker and easily as well.
This brings me to the end of today's video, and I hope you really enjoyed these three steps on how
to really beat your decision fatigue, and how to really fully trust yourself again,
without being codependent on others, because I believe that, this is an issue that everyone has
at some point in their life, and they start believing that that's the way to life, which is to
depend on others,and seek everyone's approval, but I don't believe in that kind of a life because,
that's very prison type of a lifestyle I would say, so you want to make sure that you're
becoming really good at decision making as much as possible, and as quickly as possible, so that
you can achieve the best successful life that you want to see for yourself, and if you really found
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because I post this kind of content on a weekly basis, where I help you out in becoming the best
version of yourself as much as possible, but other than that, I will see you in my next week's video.