Dating in Paris, apart, 5,000,067.
Hey friends. Welcome back to my channel. And if you're new here, I'm Tiff,
I'm an American living in Paris here to help you navigate life abroad and
navigate life in Paris. And woof, I know you guys,
peeped the title of this video. And honestly, before I even get into it, um,
I do have to say it has taken me a while to kind of share this.
And for those of you guys who are new to my channel,
I've only been on YouTube for about a year, a year and some change.
So I kind of still feel like I'm very new to this space. So, um, yeah,
just kind of having to go through a major life change while being someone who
shares a lot of her life on social media... I won't say it's been challenging,
but I will say that one thing that I have noticed through all of this is that
for me, creating content sharing with you guys, connecting with you guys...
it's therapeutic for me. It's honestly to me a form of healing.
And I think it's just because I, I love it so much. And I think that that's why,
you know, some of my friends who I've, I've kind of shared with,
have said to me like, wow, Tiff from what you share on social media,
we would have never known that you were going through it.
And I think it's because to me,
sharing with you guys is a way for me to disconnect.
It's a way for me to do something that I love.
And I'm honestly so grateful to you guys. I'm so grateful to this community.
Oh my God, I did not expect her to cry on this. Um,
so I really am grateful to you guys for, um,
providing this method of healing for me during this time. Um,
you have no idea how much I appreciate all of you and just how amazing it was to
kind of just be myself and just not think about the craziness that was going on
in my life. But it's also been interesting to see, you know,
the DMS and comments that have been coming through of, you know,
people kind of starting to notice that a certain someone isn't really in my
videos anymore. And it's so interesting because of course,
like he hasn't even really been a part of my story on YouTube or Instagram that
much, but you know, people notice and I wanted to get on here and clear the air.
So yes, me and my boyfriend broke up.
So for those of you guys who are kind of new to my channel,
I was dating a guy here in Paris for almost two years,
like a little under two years and yeah, we broke up. And it's crazy.
We actually met at the apartment visit of the apartment that I'm living in right
now. We were both kind of on the apartment hunt.
I walked in to the apartment visit and was all flustered. You know,
couldn't really speak much French and he helped translate a lot of things for
me. And from there we kind of just hit it off. But yeah, we, we broke up,
I experienced a true heartbreak,
a true heartbreak. And, but at the same time,
I'm honestly so proud of myself just for having enough respect for
myself to know it was time to move on and to know that I deserved better I'm so
of myself for that, honestly. So yo girl is officially single in Paris. Um,
I've been out the dating game for a while, but ready to jump back in.
And it's actually been a few months since we've broken up.
It has taken me a little while to share this with you guys,
just because I have been healing.
And in so many ways I am still healing. So yeah guys,
I really honestly wanted to make this video to share with you guys,
you know what it's like getting over a breakup and overcoming heartbreak in
Paris in a foreign country when you're living abroad without your core support
system here, physically, you know,
the people that you would typically turn to and who would help you heal through
this journey, you know,
and not to mention going through it while being on lockdown in a foreign
country. So yeah, we were still in lockdown, um, when we, when we broke up.
So I just kind of wanted to share with you guys what that's been like,
and also provide some wisdom and guidance and advice for people who do want to
move abroad, or for those of you guys who are abroad and are going through this,
or might experience something like that in the future, which I hope you don't.
So that's what I wanted this video to be about.
And I will tell you guys right now, it has not been easy again, as I shared,
I am still in so many ways healing from the breakup.
So I just ask that you please respect my privacy.
I'm not going to give a ton of detail about what happened.
That's just kind of where I'm at right now. Um, but yes,
we did break up and I'm healing processing and working through it in the best
way that I can.
I also think there's just another layer on it when you are living
abroad. And again, going through a global crisis,
it just adds on another layer to the breakup, like breakups suck already.
And then you add on all of these other things and it's just like damn.
And I think that, that's why, you know, when you're living abroad,
having a partner, you know, having a girlfriend or boyfriend,
it almost brings a different level of comfort then it would then say if you were
to be living in your home country or home city, you know, with that person.
And I think it's because when you're living abroad and you have a
boyfriend or a girlfriend,
and you're basically kind of out here on your own, like, yes,
you have some friends, but you know, it's like,
you don't have your family out here with you.
It just brings a different level of comfort, a different level of support,
you know,
because they're the person who you are navigating your life abroad with. Um,
and in my case, you know, he knew a lot more about the culture. He spoke,
the language he, you know, had been living here for so long.
And I feel like it just brought a different level of comfort for me to kind of
have someone to kind of help support me in this journey, if that makes sense.
But I will also say, you know,
don't let that be the only reason why you get into a relationship and also do
not let it be the reason why you stay in a relationship for sure.
And I also want to say,
and you guys who are living abroad can let me know if you relate to this.
I kind of feel like when you move abroad,
you tend to be a bit more open than you would if you were in your home city or
your home state, because you're so excited,
you're ready to experience a new culture, a new way of life, meet new people.
And I think it's beautiful to be super open because I do think that that's kind
of what my approach has been, but at the same time, I do just want to say,
be careful and trust your gut,
always trust your gut. Honestly,
I think that that has been a huge lesson that I've learned from this experience
is to always trust your gut, always trust, trust your intuition,
which I'm going to get into a bit more later in the video and guys,
this is not to scare you or freak you out or anything like that.
But I did just want to make a note of that because I do know that there are a
lot of you guys who watch my channel,
who are really excited about moving abroad or some of you guys who have just
made the leap or some of you guys who have been living abroad for years.
So I did just want to make a point to say like, yes,
be open and be excited to try new things and meet new people,
but also be careful and also trust your gut.
But I think guys going through this has been a huge wake up call in more ways
than one. I'm going to tell you why. So for number one,
I think it kind of forced me to look at the patterns of my life, right.
And actually a really good friend of mine brought this to my attention that
since I've been living in Paris, it has always been around this time.
So around the time that me and my ex broke up,
that my life is completely shaken up. There's some major shift,
there's a major life change that actually launches me into my new season,
launches me into the next level. First.
It was me getting kicked out of my apartment,
which if you guys haven't watched that video, please make sure to watch it.
It was a hot mess, but it also forced me to level up. Right.
And I found myself in this beautiful apartment, which I mean, yes,
I met my ex in this apartment, but still.
And then it was also around this time when I found myself unemployed in Paris
and I had no idea what to do and no idea where to turn. And it was scary guys.
It was not easy,
but it ended up leading me into wanting to do YouTube full-time to
wanting to create tools,
to help give people the clarity and confidence that they need to set up their
lives in a new country.
It's like that kind of led me to do all of this and how I share with you guys.
And then of course now, you know,
going through this breakup that has been very difficult.
It has not been easy. There have been so many ups and downs,
in a sense it's been a little crazy, you know,
although it's been uncomfortable and it hasn't been easy.
I am so confident that there is a huge blessing on the other side of this.
And I think just kind of looking at the patterns of my life has given me just
huge confirmation that God and the universe is just, you know,
shaken up my life a bit again, just for me to kind of get to that next level.
Which brings me to my next point, that has honestly helped me heal too,
which is understanding the lesson. You know, I always say when things happen,
it's either a lesson or a blessing and I can totally see the lesson that I
was supposed to learn out of the situation. And for me personally,
that has been to always trust my gut,
always trust my intuition, always trust my true feelings.
And I actually wrote in my journal you know,
as I was kind of in the beginning of just starting to experience this breakup
and whatnot,
that sometimes I get these feelings and they feel so big,
and so real that I'm afraid that if I trust them that I'm going to
sabotage or ruin something and I just asked God, like,
can these feelings be trusted? And now that I'm kind of on the other end of it,
I'm just like, yes, girl, like, yes, Tiff, if you can trust yourself.
I think that feelings are real. They really are.
And if you've got a feeling trust it. And I think that for me,
that has been the biggest learning coming out of this is to just trust your
feelings. Don't let anyone make you second. Guess what you know,
in your heart is true and what you're feeling inside.
And then the next thing that I'll say, you know,
when it comes to overcoming heartbreak, you know,
getting over a breakup is it's so important to just love
on yourself. And, um, I'm sure a lot of you guys have watched my, um,
birthday vlog where I stayed in that luxury hotel, which was amazing.
And I purposely decided to do that on my own. You know,
I really wanted to take some time for myself to just love on myself and do
whatever I wanted to do and sit in the tub all night if I wanted to dance on the
balcony, if I wanted to, to appreciate and love on every single part of me,
even the parts that sometimes I might not like, you know. I,
I really wanted to use that opportunity.
And I really wanted to bring in my birthday in a way where I was just
fully loving on myself and didn't need anyone else to do that for me,
if that makes sense.
And now getting into just some of the ways that I've personally been coping with
all that this has been,
I am so grateful to have friends here who I also do call my support
system. Um,
I just think it was like when you're going through a global crisis and you can't
really be out and about all the time,
so it's not like I could hang out with them all the time, but when it happened,
I just kind of made a point to try and see at least one friend every week.
Um, if I could just to kind of be around good energy and
disconnect again, if you will.
It's also a big reason why I wanted to get my coworking space just to have
somewhere, to,
to go to every day and to sit there and get work done and be around other
people. So yeah, let's see what this new chapter holds. Um,
but I am excited to bring you guys along with me. So yeah,
yo girl is single in Paris.
Your girl is single in Paris. You know, I,
I know that there will be some fun dating stories to come. Um,
I'm definitely getting ready to kind of get back out there. Um,
especially now that things are opening back up in Paris. So yeah, guys,
that's a wrap on this life update. I'm so sorry if I was rambling.
Cause I kind of feel like I was, it just really wanted to share with you guys.
What's really been going on with me and my life here in Paris.
I feel like I still, again, am healing. I still am, you know,
going through this process in the best way that I know how,
but did just want to let you guys know that yes, we did break up.
So that's all for me. Thanks for watching. And I'll see you next week.