so yeah we just lost EtiKa and for some reason y'all still don't get it what is
up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to
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anyways let's jump into this topic like I am flabbergasted
alright I don't know if people still use the word flabbergasted but I am that
just absolutely flabbergasted alright so those of you who are caught up to speed
yet you can check out the video that it's linked right up there in the info
card yesterday I put up a video about taming the cold deed hooking up with a
dude she met in rehab those of you who don't know what a drug and alcohol rehab
is it is a mental health facility for people with drug addictions and often
mental health illnesses as well a facility in which not that specific
facility but I've worked in for over three years now and I've been sober for
seven years now but anyways the reason I'm making this follow-up video isn't
for Taylor Nicole Dean she's gonna do her thing and trust me trust me on under
no delusion that I'm gonna save Taylor Nicole Dean or any other addict or
alcoholic out there in the world the hard lesson that I learned when I
started working out of treatment center is that I do not have the power to get
people sober or keep people sober it's something that
people couldn't do for me either I could not get sober and stay sober until I
wanted to and I started putting in the work all right but I just think it's
really really sad when people like mind your business who cares like think about
that like I just don't get I don't get how people can even live their life like
that and say like mind your own business who cares like like what if we all did
that literally I'll just turn the blind dying we just let people just okay I
know you're destroying your life but you know that's none of my business like are
those the type of people who are just like oh not my job I'm not gonna do that
right like it's crazy like they've had to pass like Good Samaritan laws just so
people don't idly watch as somebody gets like brutally beaten in public right
like we had to make a law for people like you out there who say oh this is
nobody's business all right like think about that for a second have some
empathy have some compassion for your fellow human beings we don't need to
watch somebody self-destruct in front of us and not say anything but like I
mentioned in the intro of this video so many people are so ignorant when it
comes to mental health and addiction and just ignorant that all that means is a
lack of knowledge and this is so so so troubling like I made that video I made
a tweet about it and Taylor Nicole Dean saw it and she replied and she's not
sassy like you guys oh my god like first off it's somebody newly in recovery like
I don't know if you knew this or not but drug addicts don't like being told what
they should do okay like again like I mentioned in the video
yesterday like do you think do you think any therapist doctor counselor
caseworker anybody in their right mind would say huh yeah yeah Taylor Nicole
did I think it's a great idea for you to meet somebody in rehab and start hooking
up with them that's gonna work out phenomenally and the fact is she is
lying to you okay like I hate to say that but to put out there that her
doctors and everybody thinks as this is okay is a blatant lie because nobody who
works in this field would ever say that in a million years
okay but the problem is is that so many of you are co-signing Herbie s like I
don't know if you knew this or not but the opiate epidemic in the United States
is real we have tens of thousands of people dying each and every single year
because of this disease all right and it's so important like I speak from
personal experience one of the reasons that I realize so many times one of the
reasons that so many other people relapse so many times is because we lack
humility right we keep wanna do wanting to do things our own way okay we we take
back self will self will as I'm doing what I want to do but listen when it
comes to drug addiction clearly we don't know what we should be doing and that is
one of the reasons why it's so important to humble yourself and listen to others
but the issue is and it's so difficult like I wish the best for Taylor Nicole
Dean I hope I hope she makes it through this all right like there is no
guarantee that this is going to lead to a relapse but it raises the chances of
it if of it happening so I hope if or even when this thing goes south that she
stays clean but the problem is we need to take suggestions from other people
and the problem is is that when you're in the public spotlight like Taylor
Nicole Dean is we have a bunch of people out there but just stance if you will
who are enabling and it is just so sad all right like so many people like right
like listen you don't have to personally be somebody's doctor to say hey you
should probably take some cold medicine if you have a cold like addiction is
addiction is addiction I've been doing this for seven years okay I was actually
reading a book not too long ago about how we're living in this crazy time this
crazy time where everybody thinks that their opinion is so valid even though
they know nothing about the subject like I asked a few people on Twitter
yesterday I'm like are you in addiction recovering the life well no so
why do you think what like what what crosses your mind to make you think that
you would know better than somebody who has been clean for a while like if you
check the comments of the video yesterday there are plenty of people in
recovery who are like oh man this is a bad idea
so the thing is it's like and here's a problem with stand culture and people in
the public spotlight who are trying to overcome you know an addiction or even a
mental illness or whatever it is people would rather appease the the celebrity
appease that person then tell them what they need to hear they just want to be
yes-man like you guys when it comes to addiction yes men will kill you okay let
me repeat that for the people in the back when it comes to addiction yes men
will kill you okay I speak from experience when I was in my active
addiction this is why I'm so passionate about this in my active addiction I had
a bunch of yes people around me right every all the people who loved me and
cared at me like they actually gave a crap wanted me to get better and they
told me a bunch of things that I didn't want to hear I removed them from my life
and I kept a bunch of people around me that said yeah Chris just do this yeah
Chris you should do that like keep drinking keep using right I wasn't even
allowed to see my son and I kept people around who told me it was a good idea to
keep going out and partying like why so when I got clean I had to get rid of all
those people I will always say this something that I learned and I hope a
lot of you learn as well is we need to keep people around who tell us what we
need to hear and not what we want to hear okay like and that's what baffles
me when when you're sitting there and you're watching somebody like Taylor
Nicole Dean make these bad decisions in her recovery right like how are you
sitting there and saying okay okay like let's just let's just play this out
let's rewind a little bit okay there's somebody who developed an addiction
because of their ex-boyfriend not because of him but he played a major
role in it developed a drug addiction okay so many people were concerned about
the animals that she's taking okay she ended up going to rehab
alright kept dating this dude we last went back to treatment
okay went back to treatment just got a and now all of you think that this woman
has everything figured out and she knows what's best for her thank you guys it
takes years for us to get back on track okay like not only do we have a lot of
work to get to do like we need to figure out why why do we feel the need to have
somebody why do we feel the need to like get somebody in our life who's gonna
show us love and affection all these things so early in recovery when most
the time we don't even know how to love ourselves yet why is that it takes time
to figure these things out and if you want me to break down some science on
that but like it takes months sometimes even years for just the brain to balance
out like in early recovery we are hot messes and one of the last things I want
to say about that is a lot of people are like we're like
commenting and saying oh I've been watching her Instagram stories and
everything like that and she feels and she seems like she's manic or maybe
she's getting loaded again or whatever like I don't like accusing people of
relapsing okay but I just want you guys to understand like for a lot of us like
when you take the drugs and alcohol away from us we act crazy as hell okay
especially like somebody like myself like my drug of choice 2 was opioids
like that kept me chill that kept me calm like a lot of people like oh Chris
you're so hyper you have so much energy it's because I'm not taking depressant
drugs anymore okay so in early recovery it's quite common
for people to have a lot of ups and downs for example you might have heard
of the pink cloud many people when they first get sober they experience the pink
cloud right where they think everything is just like amazing and they just want
to scream it from the rooftops like oh my god I'm sober and nothing could stop
me now and everything like that but when people say this too shall pass they only
say it during the bad things I try to remember and also remind like clients
who I teach this stuff like this too shall pass also applies to the good
things as well so we need to keep a level head we need to realize that that
life is going to happen if now that doesn't mean that we should be
pessimistic and worried about the future his future trippin doesn't help either
but we need to know like we have to keep working on our recovery like I just want
to leave you guys with this okay if Taylor Nicole Dean was talking about
recovery half as much as she was talking about this new dude things would be a
lot different I want you guys to think about that because that's one of the
primary reasons we say not to get in a relationship the first year because what
people often do is they swap out their recovery program with him or her and it
doesn't work out alright because we have a lot of work to do to figure out why we
drinking news and we have to figure out how to not turn to drugs or alcohol when
life happens and things get rough all right whoo all right I feel about
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