Look, I love life, but not everything in it.
I love people, but not all of them.
Hell, I love myself, but not everything about me.
Nothing is all one way or another,
and there is power in having a crystal clear
view of reality.
So yes, I do want you to be situationally aware.
I do want you to pay attention.
Now I gave you the example of being situationally aware
when you come into a room.
That's environmentally.
Are you situationally aware about the people in your life?
Do you know who in your life
is not a fan?
Do you know who in your life
is your enemy?
Do you know who in your life
is trying to exploit you, stab you in the back,
hurt you in some way?
And trust me,
when you know that,
you can be prepared and you are a whole lot less apt
to become a victim.
Now, let me tell you the number one tool
of muggers, for example, and I've interviewed
a lot of muggers.
You know what their number one tool is?
Surprise.
They tell me that they'll walk up to somebody
on the street at night,
and the first thing they say is something like
hey, what time do you have?
And because we're unsuspecting,
and because we're polite,
and because we're courteous,
what's the first thing you do when somebody says
hey, what time do you have?
The first thing you do is you lift up your left wrist
and you look down.
Okay, so now, you've taken your eyes off
the person in front of you,
put your head down, and put your hand
in a position that's hard to defend yourself.
And in that second, they strike.
And the muggers tell me two things.
Number one, they've now incapacitated the person
because they've gotten them to take their eye off the ball,
and they say then they've got about a five second window
when the person is in denial.
They say they're in denial about what's happening.
Oh my God, I'm getting mugged here.
Somebody just hit me in the head.
Somebody just knocked me up the side the head
and it takes them that long to realize
oh my God, I'm being mugged.
And in that time, they're able to get the advantage.
They rely on our denial,
our unwillingness to accept
that something bad can and is happening to them.
That's what I'm trying to say to you right now
to not let happen to you.
I'm talking about crystal clarity
when you're viewing reality, and situational awareness
about the people around you and your environment.
I want you to be street smart.
Think about these people in your life.
I want to give you a name for them.
They're called BAITERs.
BAITERs, B-A-I-T-E-R, BAITER.
B stands for backstabber,
A stands for abuser,
I stands for impostor,
T stands for taker,
E stands for exploiter,
and R stands for reckless.
BAITER.
That's a new word, that's a new term
I want you to put in your vocabulary
because I want you to find the BAITERS in your life,
and let me tell you how I came up with this.
The goal in psychology is to differentiate
one pathology from another.
So we want to differentiate depression from anxiety.
We want to differentiate an anti-social personality
from a borderline personality.
We want to differentiate those, you know why?
Because insurance companies require us
to differentiate them, so we have a code
we can write down so we can bill.
Because you gotta write down a code
and then you send it in, and they pay you money for that,
so we gotta put people in pigeonholes.
But the truth is those are false boundary lines.