Are you too anxious to date?
Okay well,
this is what a guy once wrote
in my comments
or at least, this is the gist of it.
He wanted to be in a loving relationship
yet he'd get so
anxious around women.
Can you relate? You can probably relate.
He'd feel like he was losing control of his body
and his heart was thumping
wildly in his chest.
Shallow breathing, tense tummy
all because of his anxiety around women.
Now this is totally not uncommon
it's also not uncommon
that he was single and lonely.
So, he turned to junk food
and he stuffed his face with garbage
just to try to fill that emptiness he felt inside.
So, of course, as you can imagine
and as some of you have probably experienced
he started gaining weight
and then he felt even worse about himself.
Pretty soon he was depressed.
And as I've mentioned and as you probably know
he's not alone.
There's a lot of guys
who've been down that road.
There are many guys
who feel intimidated by women
especially beautiful women
and they just can't muster up
the confidence to talk to them.
Most dating gurus will tell you what to say.
And in fact, I have several videos
where I've told you exactly what to say.
But the reality is
there's no magic line
that's going to work every time.
Unfortunately, it's just not that easy because
if you're really uncomfortable
around women or have
approach anxiety or are just
completely anxious around them
then no line is going to work well for you.
Because it actually goes much deeper than a line.
It's because at some level
you don't feel worthy.
Because if you felt worthy
rejection wouldn't bother you as much.
So, what happens is
you develop a bias
that you're not worthy
and then even when a girl or woman
does show interest in you
you brush it off.
You make some
internal mental excuse
as to why that's not actually really happening
or you don't even see it
and then you don't pay any attention to her.
Or you panic and sabotage yourself.
In short, you stay in your comfort zone.
Life begins outside your comfort zone.
Because if you don't get out of your comfort zone
you're going to get old
and potentially lonely
and then you see other people in relationships
and wonder what could have been.
Or you settle,
you settle for second best
because that's better than lonely, right?
Hmm, I don't know,
I'm not sure I'm going to agree on that one.
Because if you choose someone
you're not really that attracted to,
not just physically but as a person,
you're going to end up in an unhappy relationship
probably with a lot of drama.
Because she's going to know you're not really that into her
and you'll never feel fulfilled in that relationship.
So, you have to know
where your worth is.
This is why the first step
to getting into an amazing relationship
the kind where your heart flutters
every time you see her
and you can't wait to be with her
in every way
is to start feeling good about you.
But Anna, that's hard, how do you do that?
Yes, I know
it doesn't happen overnight
it took you all these years
to become who you are,
where you are.
It's going to take a little bit of time,
effort, and consistency
to become a different version of you,
a better version of you.
It does take time,
it does take effort,
and some specific steps
but it is worth it.
Because when you take care of you on the inside
the outside things
take care of themselves.
Remember what I've said so many times
women mirror your feelings about you.
When you start feeling good about yourself
that nervousness you used to feel
becomes strength
and that's attractive.
And then you don't need to worry about what to say
because it's not really about the words.
You stop caring about the small things
because it's not about the small things.
You're just happy
about who you are and where you are
and then things flow.
And this is when you're your most attractive self
and it makes it so much easier
to attract the kind of woman
you really want effortlessly.
If you want some help
taking the specific steps
you need to take to get there
then you definitely want to get my WakeUp2Luv program
and do the homework.
Fair warning,
there is lots of homework.
Fair warning, it is not pickup skills.
It is how to get a real,
genuine, wonderful girlfriend,
a great relationship
and feel and know
that you deserve her.
And by the way,
if you do feel anxious around women
that's okay
that's quite normal.
It means you're human
and you're a decent guy
who'd be great for a lot of girls
even though you only want one.
And my program
will help you get your life up
to where you realize this for yourself.
So, if you've been waiting for a sign
this is it.
Thanks for being here, God bless.