Five strategies to have success in
relationships and business. Here we go!
All right. Now, I'm no relationship expert
but I know the same five success
strategies I've used in business can also
be applied to dating and relationships.
I've been in a relationship for about
four months and I know that these five
success strategies have helped me out
tremendously.
Number one is to engage in what's called
active listening. And how do we do it?
Well, we ask questions. We open the
other person up. In a relationship, we
talk to our significant other,
we ask, we listen, we give support, we give
feedback when they ask for it.
You're working with your employees or you're
working with other vendors or
contractors. Whatever it is, you want to
hear what their vision is.
What do they want to create?
Whatever widget you have, whatever product
or service you're creating, how is it going
to help them with their vision?
And the only way you can get to that place is if
you engage in what's called active listening.
Number two is to speak and act consciously.
Now it's not what you say.
It's how you say it. And sometimes, when I say stuff,
it's coming straight from my mind
and I'm not saying it with my heart.
So how do I drop it into my heart?
I see that person as if they're part of my family.
I look through their eyes.
I make very specific eye contact
and my business relationships are the same
as my romantic relationships.
When you start seeing people differently,
the world around you starts to show up differently.
Number three is focus on that person, one-on-one.
Now what do I mean by that?
Most people have a cell phone.
They're looking at it. It got Snapchat
Instagram, Twitter going - all these other
social media platforms, whatever it is.
They're looking at this instead of
looking at you. I know we're in the
Snapchat generation. Everybody's got to
Snapchat their food. But listen,
one-on-one is far more powerful than a
lot of those superficial, virtual things
that we do to just distract ourselves.
I encourage you to get deeper with somebody
and really hear them out. To do that,
gotta go one-on-one. Maybe a little
uncomfortable for you, but it's okay,
we're in this together.
Number four is practice appreciation.
Now, practicing appreciation is a challenge
for some people. For people that their
primary love language is words of
affirmation, this is a lot easier.
How can you appreciate your romantic or
your significant other? How can you
appreciate your employees and your
business? Take a time out each day to do
what I call 'words of appreciation'. I have
three people in the morning that are
right on the list every single morning
of who i'm going to appreciate. It could be
something as simple as sending an email,
maybe getting on FaceTime with somebody,
or meeting somebody in person and just
letting that individual know how much I
appreciate them. You want to incorporate that too!
Number five is to be flexible.
And what do I mean by that?
Well, it's one of the worst traits we can have
as human beings is self-righteousness.
We always want to be right and we set ourselves up
to lose in order to be right.
Maybe you've been in a relationship over and
over and the longest relationship you've
been in has only lasted like six months,
because you're always looking at that
person as doing things that aren't good
enough for you. And you're keeping a score, right?
When you keep a score, it's hard to flexible.
When you keep a score, it's easy to be self-righteous
When you keep a score, you're not living in intention,
you're living in reaction. Because everything
you're hyper vigilant and focused on, you
focused on them failing and not living
up to this standard that you've created
in your mind.
So what does being flexible mean? It means
going out into the world with open arms
not living in reaction. In the
relationship, there's two people with
very different perceptions. Oftentimes,
men and women we think a little bit
differently, right?
I don't believe we're on different
planets like men are from Mars, women are
from Venus. But I do think we think
differently and we communicate a lot
differently most of the time. You know what
I'm talking about ladies. In business, we
have to be flexible. Maybe somebody
doesn't show up on time and they had
something happened to where they weren't
able to do the presentation that you
asked for, or your boss has these
commands over you and you just feel like
you're just hustling so much and nobody
appreciates for you, appreciates it out of you.
Just be flexible. Be open.
So as you can see, all these
five principles can not only be applied
to relationships and dating but also in
business. It's all about being a good
human being. And the more you improve
yourself, the more that significant other,
if you haven't attracted them in yet,
it's going to show up for you. And the
better your business is going to be
because you are that large version of
who you are.
Hopefully this was helpful. Give it a big
thumbs up. I'm Drew Canole.
As always, remember, we're in this together.
And I'll see you next week.