have you ever found yourself in a
relationship that feels more like a
burden than a blessing one where you
constantly feel drained unhappy and
unfulfilled if so you're not alone many
people find themselves stuck in toxic
relationships unable to break free no
matter how hard they try but why is this
why is it so difficult to leave a toxic
relationship even when we know it's not
good for us in this video we'll explore
the psychological and emotional reasons
why people stay in toxic relationship
and why leaving isn't always as simple
as it seems but it's not just about
understanding why we stay it's also
about learning how to break free and
move on to a healthier happier life
we'll discuss strategies for leaving a
toxic relationship and how to heal and
grow from The Experience so let's
explore emotional attachment do you
easily get attached to other people even
when the relationship is toxic it's
actually quite common to develop a
strong emotional attachment to your
partner according to a well-known
psychotherapist and author Susan
Anderson this attachment can be
influenced by your childhood experiences
with attachment figures like your
parents she suggests that when you
develop an attachment to someone you
create an idea of the person and what
the relationship should look like and it
can be challenging to change that idea
even when the relationship isn't working
for you anymore and can make it tough
for you to leave it you might be afraid
about being alone or losing what you
treasure in a relationship like happy
memories or shared experiences you may
also be anxious that your partner will
feel devastated if you end things
especially if you've done things
together for years but attachment is
like an addiction your toxic partner is
the toxic drug that is not good for you
and you need to break that addiction if
you want to live a healthy life just ask
yourself if you leave this toxic
relationship will you really lose
everything or are you willing to lose
yourself just to protect the attachment
that you have low self-esteem are you
confident when you're in a Rel
relationship with a toxic partner having
a low self-esteem can be tough your
partner might disapprove of the way you
look or try to trick you into believing
that you're doing the worst job which
can make you believe that you're not
worthy of anything including love Dr
Lillian glass who's an expert in
communication and psychology has
explained in her book toxic people 10
ways of dealing with people who make
your life miserable the toxic people can
use different methods to control their
partner which can leave you feeling like
you're not enough or undeserved in it's
not easy to overcome these beliefs but
Dr glass recommends identifying the
warning signs of a toxic relationship
and getting help from a professional to
rebuild your self-esteem by setting
boundaries or even ending the
relationship you can take the first step
towards valuing yourself in a healthier
way fear of change does the idea of
change upset you it can be really
overwhelming if you're trying to break
away from a toxic relationship as Dr
Susan heitler a clinical psychologist
and author explains it's not not just
about leaving the relationship it's also
about letting go of the life you've
built with your partner which can be a
lot to handle this might mean moving to
a new city getting a new job and
changing your Social Circles if you've
been in a relationship for a long time
change can feel scary you might feel
like you're starting with a blank slate
or feel anxious about the future which
can stop you from taking necessary
action however A change is an
opportunity for you to start something
new always keep in mind that you deserve
better and sometimes that means taking
baby steps towards a better future
manipulation according to domestic
violence expert Lundy boft abusers use
manipulation methods like emotional
abuse isolation and physical violence to
get what they want from their partner
victims may feel helpless which makes it
difficult for them to leave the
relationship you may think that your
partner has power over you and you can't
do anything about it but that's not true
what are some things that make you feel
powerful
figure them out and do them claiming
back your power can quash that voice
inside you saying you're powerless it's
important to give yourself the time and
space to figure out what you want and
need in a relationship and if you're
struggling to find a way out of a toxic
relationship know that there is support
available whether it's talking to a
trusted friend or family member reaching
out to a therapist or finding a support
group there are people who care about
you and want to help remember you
deserve to be in a relationship that
makes you feel respected valued and
loved do you resonate with any of these
reasons let us know in the comments also
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