Hey, it's Iris, helping you to find your passion
and make it your work.
Now in today's video,
I'm gonna be talking about my golden rule
for goal setting.
And I think this is especially helpful
if you recently started working for yourself
or if you have the desire to do so.
Now, a little bit of a teaser...
this is quite a different perspective on goal setting
so if you're curious about what it is, then stay tuned.
What I can tell you is that it's been quite
a big game changer for me,
and I hope it might be a game changer for you too.
But before I tell you more about it,
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All right, enough talking, let's get to it.
Now, has the following ever happened to you?
You start something new,
let's say you commit to a new project
and you set some quite ambitious goals for yourself
and then start working towards them.
Now, you're positive,
you're confident,
and you really believe that you can achieve those goals,
but then for whatever reason, you don't.
You fail to achieve the goal
or the goals that you set out for yourself.
I know it's happened to me plenty of times.
And as a result, you feel deflated, full of self doubt
and like a total failure.
But let me share some good news with you here,
because the truth is the problem isn't you,
the problem is the way that you set goals.
Let me explain,
what do goals often sound or look like?
It's often something like this.
"I want to earn a thousand dollars per month"
"I want to have 10,000 followers on Instagram"
"I want to have a new job by the end of the year"
They're all goals that are focused on
achieving or having something
and there is a problem with this
and that is that it's quite arbitrary.
You either succeed or you don't.
Success is solely measured
by whether or not you achieve that goal.
The focus is too much on the outcome, on the final result,
and we'd be so much better off
if we focus more on how we get there.
And this is my golden rule for goal setting:
focus on input, more than on output.
Focus on your actions rather than on
what you ultimately want to achieve or have.
And don't judge your success
on whether or not you achieve that final result,
but judge it on the actions that you took along the way
to get there.
Now, obviously you can still have those things
that you want to achieve,
or that you want to have like thousand dollars a month,
10,000 followers, that new job,
but instead of focusing on that,
you focus on the things that are really important
and that are the steps and actions
that you take along the way to achieve that.
And you judge your success on whether or not
you're doing the necessary things,
taking the right steps to get where you want to be.
So if you want a new job, don't berate yourself
if you don't have that job by the end of the year
or whatever date you set out for yourself.
Focus your energy on all the things that you need to do
to get a new job, and then set goals around that.
So to get a new job,
there's two things like you should do.
One, you tap into your network
and two, you should have informational interviews.
If you don't know what informational interviews are,
then make sure you watch this video
in which I explain all about it.
Now, instead of focusing on your end result,
to get a new job,
you focus on the actions,
the steps that you need to take to get there.
So you set a goal to reach out to at least one person
within your existing network per week,
and to make connections with four new people per week
with the aim of setting up one informational interview
or having one informational interview per week.
Or if you were focused on making a thousand dollars a month
or a thousand euros or pounds
or wherever you're based,
then instead of focusing on that,
set a goal to have at least, let's say, five sales calls
or discovery calls or try out sessions a week,
or maybe two online workshops or webinars a month.
Anything that you know that drives new clients to you.
Now, one side note on this,
if you recently started working for yourself
and you're not quite sure how to get new clients,
here's what I recommend:
Research and experiment.
Research: success leaves clues.
There are probably already hundreds,
if not thousands of people,
who are already doing what you'd like to be doing full time.
And very often these people will share
their secrets of success in videos,
in blog posts, courses, and so on.
And if they don't, you can always simply ask them.
Now, not everyone might be willing to share that,
but then you just simply ask someone else.
Most people are flattered when you ask them
how they got to where they are now,
how they became a success at what they do.
And then experiment
because everyone is different
so what might work for that person might not work for you.
So what you need to do is take those lessons
that you've learnt
and then apply them to your own situation,
figure out what works for you and what doesn't.
Okay, back to the golden rule for goal setting.
Why is this so important?
Well, there's two key reasons
why this is so important
and that's, one, because it sets you up for success
and, two, it's easier to track.
It sets you up for success,
because it forces you to focus on the right things:
the things that are within your control!
And ultimately the only things that are within our control,
are our own thoughts, our actions and our behaviour.
Now also, it's much more empowering
to focus on the daily steps and actions
that you can take rather than an arbitrary end goal,
rather than on that final result.
Because with that final result,
you either get it or you don't,
you either win or lose.
But with daily actions,
you can win every day,
every day when you stick to the things that you said you do,
and that's much more empowering, isn't it?
And finally, it's so much easier to track
because you know every day, every week,
if you're taking the right steps to get where you want to be
and who doesn't like that clarity?
All right, that's all I had for you today.
Let me know in the comments,
what you think of this new way or different way
of looking at goal setting,
I'd love to hear.
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Thank you so much for watching
and I'll see you again next Wednesday, bye.