- Don't let people walk all over you.
Stay high value and stand your ground.
Hi, ladies, my name is Ieva,
and I am one of Greta's High Value Women coaches.
And in this video,
I'm going to be sharing four reasons
why you have to stand your ground as a woman,
whether you're single or not.
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The number one tip I have
is if you let them breadcrumb you, they will.
Let me explain.
It's very important that you set a standard
at the start of the relationship
of how you want to be treated.
Whatever you do,
you have to keep that standard throughout the relationship.
A man's motto will always be
how can I get maximal results with minimal effort?
And quite frankly, it's a great motto,
but you don't want to be at the receiving end of it.
If you lower your standard and accept bad behavior,
disrespect, no effort or minimal effort,
quite frankly, that is what you're going to receive.
It will be very hard to switch that around
in the long run of the relationship.
So do not settle for less
when it comes down to how he communicates with you
and that you want to be treated with respect and love.
That should definitely be non-negotiable.
So whatever you do, do not lower your standard.
My tip number two is work smarter, not harder.
If you bake fantastic cakes,
look hot in absolutely every situation without exception,
please him in absolutely every way you can,
and want to fulfill his every wish,
what will happen is you will feel completely drained.
You will feel unfulfilled, unloved,
and actually he might, at some point,
even start complaining
if you do not keep up with all of that.
As I mentioned,
a lot of men will always try
to get the maximal result.
And many women will try to give that
even though the guy gives minimal effort,
but they will not be happy long term.
You simply cannot win a man over with these things
and trying to do so will end in heartbreak in long term.
So the trick actually is to be a good person,
have good morals, be helpful, don't be a pushover,
and know how to set your boundaries.
Do not start pursuing him with all of these things, ladies.
Because at the end of the day,
even if you do bake cakes,
and look fantastic all day and night,
and go out of your way to make him happy,
that is still pursuing a man.
And that is simply, again, not your job.
You can do these things
if you feel like it,
not because you are trying to win his attention
or because you're trying to impress him.
There is a very, very big difference.
So whenever you are doing something towards him,
ask yourself why you're actually doing it.
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My tip number three is do not fall for the 50/50 trap.
The reason why I don't believe in 50/50 is because of one,
the pay gap between men and women.
In a lot of countries,
men and women will not get paid
the same amount for the same position.
The man will get paid more.
That is one reason the 50/50 idea
is not fair because of the pay gap.
And the second reason
is for women to take care of their appearance,
it simply costs much more than for men.
For example, just things from the top of my head.
The hairdressers is more expensive for women
than it is for men.
Nails, makeup, sanitary stuff.
If women get their eyelashes done,
or even if they do get Botox,
these costs, when they are added up,
is so much more for women
than it is for men
that you simply can't even compare the two.
So if you want a woman who looks fantastic,
who has her hair done all the time,
who has fantastic makeup, quality makeup,
has her nails done, you know,
really takes care of herself, and has nice clothes to wear,
you cannot expect her to pay 50/50.
She is essentially, in many cases,
earning less than the man and paying more,
so there is absolutely nothing fair about that.
There are men that will expect
a woman to go 50/50
even though she literally spends a lot more money
and really does earn less.
So do not fall for this trick.
And of course, obviously,
if you invite a woman out on a date,
you pay for the date as man.
So the 50/50 paying rule
is for sure not fair.
Society does have it completely wrong
when it comes down to that.
And I do feel this is very mixed up.
Of course, women want to be treated equally as men
on a human level, okay.
Obviously have the same rights and so on.
They want to be listened to,
taken seriously at their workplace and everywhere,
basically just the same way as men.
That's one thing when it comes down
to being treated equally,
but in no way can it be extended
towards being treated the same when it comes to finances
because it's simply not the same.
It's not the same because of the simple things
that I mentioned.
And of course, I'm not even getting to the fact
that women are the ones who have kids
and are not able to work because of that
because they're taking care of the kids.
And a lot of women actually don't get
a lot of jobs that they could potentially do
because the employer is afraid
that the woman might get pregnant down the line
and may have to pay her during that period of time
even though she's not working.
That is also something that happens,
at least in Europe, a lot of the time.
And the fact is a high value man will not feel comfortable
to go 50/50 with his woman,
especially when it comes down to the financial aspect of it.
Number four is don't let yourself
be pulled into feeling insecure.
Also because of society standards,
a high value woman should never fall for the trap
of I am not good enough.
I will lie if I said that I have never felt this way,
but so would you if you said
that you never felt not good enough.
Make sure you are kind to yourself as a woman.
Take care of yourself.
Do things that make you feel nice and comfortable,
especially in your own skin.
So if someone comments, for example,
something negative about your body in a judgemental way
just to make their own small self feel good again,
make sure you put them right back in their place
without even blinking an eye.
And I'm gonna give you some examples of how you can do that.
You can say things like,
and I wrote them down because they're so important,
"I don't appreciate your rudeness."
"That comment was completely out of line."
"Do you feel better about yourself now?"
"I never asked for your opinion."
"If you don't have anything nice to say,
then keep it to yourself," et cetera.
And always remember when you make these statements,
look the person straight in the eye.
And it's not necessarily what you say,
because we might not be able
to think of really cool stuff to say,
really good comebacks straight away,
but make sure you have a presence and look at them
and just say something like what I mentioned.
And that will definitely be enough
to put the person back in their place
and not joke around with you like that
in such a negative way.
You have to stand your ground as a woman.
Have your values. Do not wear your heart on your sleeve.
Be smart, whether you are single or not.
It is a must.
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Bye.