- It's important to feel desired by your guy.
It's a feeling that every single woman should be feeling.
In this video,
I'm gonna tell you what it takes to make him desire you,
and what you should do.
Hi, guys, my name is Ieva Bereisaite.
I am one of Greta's high value women coaches,
and today we are going to be talking about
how to make him desire you.
But before we jump into this juicy video,
make sure that you take the self-awareness test
to find out if you're a woman of high value,
or if you're a woman of low value.
And you can find that test
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So the number one tip that I can give
is that the woman should be asking herself,
is the guy good enough for me?
Women are very subconsciously conditioned
to treating the man like a king,
to doing every thing for him,
and jumping around when they are asked.
This is something that a lot of women
think is the right thing to do, but it really is not.
And a lot of women are brought up to be that way
by their own family members, or by society.
This has been going on for years and years,
and will continue to go on for years as well.
It can be challenging for women
to not dance by the beat of his drum, so to say,
or to not attend to him whenever they're asked,
because it's something that they grew up in,
and because the women are so nurturing and genuine.
So when a woman does this,
she is basically giving him way too much attention,
and too much caring, and nurturing.
This is definitely not the way to go
if you want life-long love
that is filled with respect from the man's side.
So to make a man desire you
really all starts in the beginning stages, right?
And so it is really important to ask yourself,
is he good enough for me?
Okay?
And the problem is that most women
see the guy on the dating app, or go on the date,
and they'll be like, oh wow, he is so hot.
Am I pretty enough for him, and am I good enough him?
And that's the wrong way to go about things.
This comes off quite needy, and in a way also insecure.
And it is very undesirable for men.
So what you should be asking yourself instead
is what positivity and what good impact
can he bring into my life,
and really asking yourself, is he worth your time, right?
And this doesn't have to be bitchy or arrogant.
This really is a genuine question we have,
because you have to think about it this way, okay?
You have built your life, right?
And you don't want to be unhappy.
You don't want to be in toxicity.
You don't want to be in drama.
You don't want negativity brought into your life, okay?
And you don't want your time kind of to be wasted instead.
So the real question that needs to be considered
is, is he really good enough for me?
And this is not something that a lot of women ask.
So a lot of women will be charmed
in the beginning stages of dating,
especially if this man is the alpha type of man, right?
So let's say he has a secure job
where he earns a lot of money.
He's tall, good-looking, handsome, funny,
and just stuff like that.
And a lot of women who are single
will be attracted to this type of man,
because they will be looking to find that fairy tale prince,
they will be looking to find that happiness.
And a lot of women might give off the vibe,
pick me, pick me, I'm pretty, I'm this,
and this is kind of done subconsciously.
So by this, I mean, don't pursue him.
If he is good-looking,
you don't tell him that he's good-looking on the first date.
Being good-looking is not enough.
Being financially secure is not really enough,
because it comes down to the actions,
and the pursuit that he will take in order to be with you.
So it doesn't come down to him charming you,
and don't get fooled by that.
And it doesn't come down to his looks, right?
It really does come down to his actions,
and his actions are the ones
that you should be listening to.
A man that is an alpha type male,
he will be very used to women throwing themselves at him,
or giving him too much attention, or actually pursuing him.
And that is something very undesirable for him.
It's rare to be a good-looking guy,
and have women not showing you that much attention.
So it's very desirable for men to think,
okay, well, I'm good looking, I have this,
I have this to offer, and I have this, but she's not hooked.
So I guess I'm gonna have to pursue her
if I want to hook her, get, make her pay attention to me.
A lot of men expect that women will be attracted to them,
because they're good looking.
And that's not something that should be the case, okay?
And you should be attracted to his pursuit
if it's something that you find good,
but don't be fooled, like I said,
to his charming ways or his good looks.
If he pursues you and really fights for you,
then you can give him the attention that he seeks.
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So never be thinking something like,
oh, I really want this guy, right?
Instead, you have to be thinking, well, if he wants me,
he's gonna have to show me that he wants me.
And that can be things like attention, communication,
him reaching out, any type of pursuit that he does
is him showing you that he likes you,
and he's interested in you.
And then when he does that,
you can show him if you want to invest.
It's awesome being a woman,
because as a woman, we are on the receiving part.
So we should be the ones making the decision
of accepting his offer
on spending time with each other, or not.
Always remember that you as a woman
are on the receiving part, right?
It's more of our nature to be honest.
And this is what makes a woman very desirable, right?
Because most women aren't like this.
Most women pursue men, and ask themselves, oh my goodness,
am I really good enough for him?
He's so handsome, blah, blah, blah.
And this is not the way to go.
The best thing that you can do to make a guy desire you
is to actually question yourself, is he good enough for me?
And let him pursue you, and let him invest,
and you will be the rare case girl, the rare diamond.
When you decide, and this is important,
when you decide that he has to fight for you, right?
When you make that decision,
it's a complete different tone.
It's a completely different way of looking at things.
And he will notice that.
He will notice that you have decided that
I am checking if you are good enough for me.
For example, it just, just kind of like,
something from the Discovery Channel popped into my mind.
And I think about it this way,
there are certain types of birds, but this is a side note,
but it is important, so you can just get an image of it.
There are certain types of birds, male birds,
that have really colorful feathers,
and do things with their feathers,
and do dances for the female, do dances for the female bird.
And I sadly don't know the names of these birds,
but I've definitely seen it.
And the male birds do these dances,
and show their feathers and stuff,
and the female just watches.
And literally just decides if she's gonna invest her time
in this male bird, or if she's not gonna invest.
And she literally just decides.
She's not there going up to that male bird,
and telling him, oh, you've have such nice feathers,
this and that, no, he does his dance,
and she decides if she's going to invest in him or not.
And we are part of nature, right?
Okay, so keep that in mind as well.
And this is actually a great example
of how it should be done.
And there are not gonna be the lots of female birds
all over the place, and he will just pick one.
No, he's gonna do his little dance,
and she will then decide if the dance is good enough.
So tip number two kind of is emotional control.
So emotional control is super rare.
And I mention it often, because it's just that important.
It's better to say less than say more.
And it's better to be a listener than a speaker
a lot of the time.
Especially when there is something like a debate going on,
or if you feel yourself getting upset,
it's better to say less than more.
If you feel like you're in the middle
of a very heated discussion,
and if you feel like you are losing emotional control,
or that you're getting emotionally very triggered,
take three breaths in and out,
and focus on calming yourself down.
The one who has their emotions under control
is the one that doesn't show their cards.
When you have your emotions under control,
especially when things get heated,
is when you have the upper hand with a man.
Afterwards, or after the argument, or debate,
or whatever, you can then set a boundary,
but don't say anything that you might regret.
That's why it is better to say less than it is to say more.
Being emotionally controlled with a man
will make him desire you,
simply because it shows a lot of self respect,
and respect means love to men.
So you love yourself, you respect yourself,
you are emotionally controlled.
You have the upper hand, it shows a lot of class,
it shows a lot of strength.
It shows a lot of smarts,
and it's rare, and that's why men desire women
who do have emotional control,
especially if it's a high value type of man
who is not into drama, and is not toxic.
A man will respect you more when you have emotional control,
because emotional control shows respect for yourself.
And respect is love for men.
Respect and love go hand in hand.
When you have emotional control,
you show respect for yourself, you show love for yourself.
You show a lot of very strong personality traits
when you have emotional control.
And that is very desirable, and very attractive.
Tip number three is not to be a yes sayer.
Don't be the one that is saying yes, yes, yes to everything.
And yeah, just don't be saying yes
to everything that he is offering.
If you actually don't want to do something,
speak your opinion, and let him suggest something else.
For example, if you don't want to go to a Greek restaurant,
because you don't like Greek food,
you can just say, I don't really,
I'm not really a fan of Greek food.
Do you have anything else in mind?
Always remember to accept what you want to accept,
and don't accept things that you do not want to accept.
Don't be a yes sayer all the time,
and make sure you don't say things like I don't care.
I don't care where we go to eat.
And yeah, it's quite off turning,
because it doesn't really show
that the woman has an opinion.
And I think it's very good to have an opinion,
and to be able to say when you do like something,
or when you don't like something,
and I think that is extremely desirable,
because it shows a certain character,
and it shows a certain standpoint.
Those were my three tips, ladies.
I would absolutely love to know which tip
you liked the most.
And let me know in the comment section below.
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