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I'm really blessed to be living in
California this is not where I grew up
and I have not lived most of my life
here i actually grew up in a very small
swamp town on the bayou in southern
Louisiana a lot of people who meet me
don't believe that because they've seen
a lot of these non reality TV shows that
are shot in Louisiana and they want to
know why I don't have that accent why I
don't wrestle alligators and I don't
catch catfish with my bare hands and I
don't con be living in California for 13
years and yes I kind of have lost my
accent and I never quite felt like
Louisiana was home after I grew up spend
some time in New Orleans going to
college there and then ended up here and
I don't think that that was a mistake i
think where we find yourself in places
that support who we are and if if we're
stuck then we're probably living in a
place and surrounding yourself with an
environment and people who contribute to
us being stuck this is where self-help
personal development whatever you want
to call it
that's where this stuff really comes
into play when i lived in Louisiana and
I would be reading a self-help personal
development self-development human
potential whatever kind of book are i
was in say a bookstore and i would kind
of like go to the self-help section and
kind of cautiously look around is a lot
of people would judge me for that and
even my friends sometimes would say oh
there you go with that self-help
bullshit that stuff doesn't work
sure it does not work for people who
believe it does not work i can tell you
that it definitely works for me and I
know many many people who works for and
I happen to live in a place California
where a lot of people are into this and
it's not a shameful thing it's not
something that is frowned upon her look
down upon in fact it's kind of something
when people see that you're doing it
it's kind of like if you're exercising
and someone who sees you
who's not really into shit in very good
shape while kind of feel like I should
do that now that sometimes you're that
person who is exercising and eating
right and I've had this happen to me and
the people around me will start teasing
me about it it's not an attempt to help
me not take myself too seriously which
can be a very positive thing it's more
they're trying to drag me down to their
level they want me to be more like them
so that they don't feel uncomfortable
that I'm taking care of myself and this
actually happened when I was in Los
Angeles i was working in a place where
people were pretty healthy and they
didn't eat very well and they drink a
lot of alcohol and I would come in with
my prepackaged pre-made meals that I
made myself which were very healthy and
at first they gave me a lot of crap about
and they would tell me things like well
I don't want to live forever and i would
say i'm not trying to live forever i'm
just trying to live as healthy as I can
while i'm alive after a while I didn't
change I kept eating my healthy food
they started to change they started to
come in with healthier meals and they
started challenging each other to eat
healthier and lose weight that doesn't
normally happen usually happen to the
other way around if you're outnumbered
you tend to just slack off and go with
the other people it's very important
that you surround yourself with people
who are going to be supportive of your
personal development even if they're not
into it themselves
some people will be very supportive of
what you're doing even though they're
not into it and that's cool
the people who will try to drag you down
into mediocrity
those are the people you want to not
spend so much time with I wouldn't say
cut ties don't cut ties with anyone you
really care about it's important to have
people that you really care about just
be very cautious and careful about who
you're spending most of your time with
ideally you want to spend most your time
with people who have things that you
don't have our and not just material
things
that, who have a certain standard for
themselves that you would like to rise
to and it's an amazing thing when you're
around these people enough you will
start to rise to that not only is not
really necessarily a competition thing
though healthy competition can be good
that way it's more about knowing that
it's possible you're surrounding
yourself around people who feel like
this is what's possible for them and
they make it happen if you're
surrounding yourself with people who
make every excuse as to why they can't
have what they want or they can't create
what they want then you start to buy
into that world of limitation and you
start to live your life that same way
there's something inside of us that
wants to have rapport with people that
wants to have connection and congruence
with people even if that drags us down
if you're spending a lot of time with
these types of people you're going to
want to connect with these people
unconsciously even so you will tend to
bring yourself down to that level and I
hate even use bring down and up its
really a choice it's what do you want
nobody's more or less valuable it's just
a matter of what you want i want a lot
for myself I demand a lot from myself I
feel my potential pulling me to do a lot
and as a result I've become very picky
with who I spend my time with
in fact I really wish that I had this
great circle of friends who I hung out
with every single week but it doesn't
quite work like that i have friends in
LA I have friends in New Orleans I have
friends here and i have friends in other
countries and we really all don't get
together and they all don't really know
each other so it's not like we can I can
have that circle of friends which is
something i would really like to have
and something I'm working on the
self-help work absolutely it works
there's also a dark side to the
self-help thing and that is gurus and
charlatans or people who will tell you
that they can somehow take on the
responsibility of you and there's also
these products out there and teachers
who will try to tell you that you don't
have to do the work on yourself that
somehow they can magically help you make
these shifts or changes without doing
that it's not going to happen you have
to do the work with yourself it has to
be a consistent ongoing thing just like
your health is your physical health is
just like your mental health it has to
be maintained you have to do the work
there's no getting around
it you can't say oh I really value my
health as soon as they make a pill that
I can take which will make me healthy
without having to exercise or eat right
it's not going to happen so beware of
the gurus in the Charlatans you are your
own guru you are your own desk room you
can certainly learn from other people
and learn processes and techniques and
models that will help you remember it's
all coming back to you you are the guru
for yourself for your life
maybe you've been dabbling in self-help
maybe you've been sticking your toe in
the water and testing it out you read a
book here and there you tried training
our workshop here and there and you're
not quite not quite doing it on a
regular basis take it for me if
something is important to you don't
dabble
go4it commit to it make it a regular
thing whatever it is even if it's 15
minutes a day of journaling commit to
your own personal development and invest
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