Well holiday season is coming upon us.
and by the end of this video, you're going to know.
So stay tuned.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert
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Okay. So let's talk about the eight reasons
why narcissists sabotage those holidays.
Yeah, well that's the narcissist MO, right?
I mean, they feel very empty inside.
I know, it seems like they want everybody to think
that they feel great about themselves.
But the truth of the matter is they feel very empty inside.
So they want to make everything about themselves
and holidays are not about themselves, right?
So they definitely want to sabotage anything.
That's not about themselves.
there are a lot of plans being made
and that means lots of opportunities that they can
you know, work their little magic,
their little opportunities to manipulate, opportunities to sabotage.
Put themselves in the middle. Cause problems.
Really really great for the covert out there.
My husband and I have a covert narcissist in our family.
Unfortunately and this person loves to do that kind of thing.
I mean, it's it's really really sad because unfortunately,
I think that they would really like to actually
have a good relationship but they just don't know.
It's like haters are gonna hate ,lovers are gonna love.
Manipulators are going to manipulate.
That's what they do.
They just don't know any other way of being.
So when they see opportunities
to like they're going to manipulate
and when people are making plans,
there's an opportunity but to manipulate.
So you can't be surprised when they act like themselves.
That's what I say. All the time.
Don't be surprised when narcissists act like themselves.
That's what they do.
Absolutely.
They want the best for themselves and they can never be satisfied
dor less than what they want for themselves.
What's it holidays about not them, right?
This is a great opportunity to guilt trip you.
Guilt trip you into spending time with you.
It's your duty.
You have to spend time with me
especially as a family member or a friend
or something like that.
When you talk about sabotaging holidays,
there's a great great opportunity for that.
They don't want to have responsibilities to people.
They want you to have all the responsibility to them.
Absolutely. All about me
but when it comes to shifting that and having it back to you.
Oh no!
They think of you as a possession.
I think of it as jars on a shelf
or something like that
and so they don't want to have this obligation
of caring for other people, right?
and I actually have a whole video
on signs of narcissistic gift-giving.
This is a good time of year to check out that video as well.
So definitely check that out but they don't want to have that obligation.
So that's number five.
and clearly that's what holiday are all about.
Other people giving
especially giving to the poor charity.
Oh my goodness, they really hate charity
and giving to the poor giving to others
thinking about how to take care of other people.
I mean that's what a lot of holidays are about
and they certainly don't want to have to think about that.
So that's number six.
That means they get attention.
So that means they get supply.
So that's good.
Even if they're getting that attention,
they're getting attention and no attention means
they're not significant.
That's the worst possible thing.
So they can sometimes be ruining holidays on purpose
because they're getting that attention
and by the way, if you've seen any of these so far,
give me a for sure in the comments
or give me an example of the kinds of ways
that you guys have seen narcissists ruin holidays.
You know that you guys have seen it.
I'm sure.
it's a heightened day of attention.
It's actually a great day to ruin.
It's a heightened day of attention for things going on.
So it's like
Wow all of this stuff is going on.
So what a perfect day to get attention for themselves.
Everything is happening. People are a bustle.
As I said, Good attention, bad attention
but especially because it means a lot to a lot of other people.
That's a great opportunity to get attention for themselves.
So it means that it's more significant for others
so it would be more significant to get attention for themselves or something like that.
I mean that's why you see people who really want to mean
something who have no significance whatsoever.
So come along and they'll attempt to assassinate a celebrity
or something like that because they're
so desperate to just mean something in their lives
and by doing something to a celebrity,
they get attention and so
that's what you see with narcissists.
They’re just so desperate to have any kind of significance whatsoever
because they feel so desperately empty inside.
Have no inner sense of self.
They are the most deeply insecure people that exist on the planet
and so when you are going to negotiate with them,
that is the type of personality that you were dealing with
and that is why it is extremely different than dealing with a regular type of personality
and so you cannot think that the regular rules of negotiation are going to apply and work
and so when you're negotiating with them,
please go ahead and get started with my free
Crush my negotiation prep worksheet.
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They only win if you give up and slay is my methodology strategy.
Leverage, anticipating and focusing on you and you can totally slay this.
Absolutely I've helped thousands
and thousands of people so it absolutely works.
It will work for you too.
So remember that
today is a great day to start negotiating your best life
and I will definitely see you in the next video.